When Your Inner Voice Is Harsh | Selfgentle 36

This episode is part of the Two Minutes of Selfgentleness with Femke series.
The inner critic has a cadence, and if you stay with it long enough you can hear whose it is. This episode sits with the inherited voice, the sentence that was said to you once and has been repeating ever since as though it were your own conclusion. Recognizing it is enough. Nothing has to be argued with.
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Transcript

Welcome to 2 minutes of self-gentleness with Simke. Listen how it speaks to you. The words it chooses. The timing. The tone it takes when you make a mistake. That voice has a cadence, And if you stay with it long enough, You will recognize where you heard it first. A teacher. Parents. Someone who was just tired and shouted something and they forgot all about it. But you didn't. You did not invent that sentence. You inherited it. And you have been repeating it ever since. As if it was your own opinion. But it's not. It's a recording that keeps playing. And you are allowed to hear it and not agree with it. And you are allowed to answer yourself in a voice, A loving voice, That is actually yours. A voice that knows. How lovable you are. How worthy you are. Because you are. No matter what. Now here are some affirmations that you can use to learn to recognize that inner critical voice and let it be what it is. An echo from the past that doesn't say anything about you. You can just listen to my voice or say the affirmations after me. I can hear that critical voice without believing it. Not every thought in my head is mine. I choose how I speak to myself now. I can answer that old voice with a kinder one. The way I was spoken to. Is not the way I have to continue. I am the most important person to consistently deserve my own gentleness. Now darling. Whenever you need to hear this. Just come back. And I'll be waiting for you.

Reviews

This was much needed today as the voice in my head were screaming at me. Thank you so much!