When You Notice You Weren’t Gentle | Selfgentle 03

This episode is part of the Two Minutes of Selfgentleness with Femke series.

There are moments when you realize you were not selfgentle. You pushed yourself. You judged yourself. You reacted in a way that did not feel aligned.

In this short reflection and affirmation practice, we explore what happens next.

Selfgentleness is not about getting it right all the time. It is about noticing when you weren’t gentle and choosing to relate to yourself differently in that very moment.

This two minute practice supports you in softening shame and returning to yourself without turning your humanity into a verdict.

If you would like to build a steady, lived relationship with yourself, you can explore my course Start Living Selfgentle Today here on Insight Timer.

You are also warmly invited to Femke’s Selfgentleness Hour, my live session every second Friday of the month, where we reflect and practice together.

You can come back to this anytime.

Transcript

Welcome to 2 minutes of self-gentleness with Femke. Sometimes there are days when it feels like you didn't learn anything. Like you didn't grow. Like you're back at square one. Maybe you snapped. Maybe you caught yourself in worrying too much. Or the pressure of the to-do list just overwhelms you. And then that old voice appears. See, You didn't change. You're still the same. But the growth is not linear. Self-gentleness is not about never falling back. It is about noticing that you do, And then knowing how to support yourself. So every time you notice what happened, And you then choose a softer, A gentler response towards yourself, You are practicing self-gentleness. Even now, Especially now. So whenever you feel that you fell back, Listen to this affirmation. You can say it with me, Or just listen to my voice. Nothing has gone wrong. I'm allowed to feel how I feel. Well, That's okay. It's a process. I can begin again. Feel again what I need. Acknowledge again what lives within me. And every time I come back to myself, I strengthen my relationship with myself. I'm learning to be gentle with myself, Especially when I need it. Sit with this for a moment, And just know, You can come back to this anytime.

Reviews

I like this one. It made me think of something I say to myself if I feel that I missed the mark.

"I forgive myself and give myself permission to begin again."

Thank you Femke. ✌️❤️😌

That was lovely! I beat myself up a lot and this gave room for gentleness! Thank you!