When You Feel Invisible | Selfgentle 14

This episode is part of the Two Minutes of Selfgentleness with Femke series.

For the ones who have been present for everyone, and somehow no one has been present for them. This episode names the particular invisibility that lives in capable, caring people — and offers a moment of being genuinely seen, starting with yourself.

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Transcript

Welcome to 2 minutes of self-gentleness with Femke. You've been showing up. For a long time, You've been showing up. And yet, There's a feeling that no one has really seen you. Not the full you. Not the one underneath the role, The function, The person who holds it all together. This feeling is more common than people talk about. It tends to live in capable people. People who are so good at being present for others, That others forget to be present for them. I want to say something that might sound simple, But it isn't. You are allowed to want to be seen. That is not a neediness, That's human. And in this moment, I want to offer you something small but real. I see you. And more importantly, Right now, You can see yourself. You don't have to wait for someone else to do it first. Now let's affirm this. Listen to my voice, And if you want, You can repeat these affirmations after me. I am allowed to want to be seen. I can witness myself with care. Being present for others doesn't mean disappearing. I matter, Even when no one says so. I see myself clearly and with kindness. I am here. I am real. I am enough. Sit with this for a moment. You can come back here whenever you need someone to remember you exist.

Reviews

This beautiful message found me when I needed 🥰, I am working on my self worth and I have felt invisible 🫥 as a child, thank you so much for this

This really hit home… Thank you for helping me to put it into words.