When You Don't Feel Like You Deserve Comfort | Selfgentle 21

This episode is part of the Two Minutes of Self-Gentleness with Femke series. Sometimes the block isn't the comfort itself. It's a quiet internal resistance, a sense that you haven't done enough today, or that others have it harder. This episode sits with that resistance and gently challenges the belief underneath it. Comfort isn't a reward. It is something you are simply allowed. If you would like to explore self-gentleness more deeply, you can find Femke's Self-Gentleness courses on Insight Timer. You are also warmly invited to join Femke's Self-Gentleness Hour, a free live session on Insight Timer every second Friday of the month.

Transcript

Welcome to two minutes of soft gentleness with Femke. It isn't that you don't want comfort. But something inside you resists receiving it. You haven't done enough today. Other people have a harder time. Wanting comfort is soft, Needy. Besides the point, I might be too much. All these thoughts feel like logic, But they aren't. They are old conditioning and they are shaped long ago. By an environment that didn't consistently give you what you needed. I want you to know that comfort is not something that you need to earn. It is not a reward at the end of a hard day. Comfort is something. You are simply allowed. Not because you first have to prove your worth. Or because someone else needs it more. You are allowed to experience comfort because you are a person. And people need comfort. Including you. Let that in a little. Even now. Let's affirm this together. You can say the words with me or just listen to my voice. I am allowed to receive comfort, Even when I feel I haven't earned it. My need for comfort is not weakness. It's human. I do not have to have suffered enough to deserve gentleness today. I can offer myself the warmth I would offer someone I love. Receiving is not selfish. It's part of how I stay with myself. I am the most important person to consistently deserve my own gentleness. Whenever you feel you need some comfort but you find it hard to allow it in, Just come back to this one. And say the words with me.

Reviews

This was so intuitive and amazing. You touched on all the ways I treat myself unkindly and helped me open my heart to myself and others. Thank you.