When Resting Feels Wrong | Selfgentle 11

This episode is part of the Two Minutes of Selfgentleness with Femke series.

For the ones who stop — and immediately feel like they shouldn't. This episode gently names the guilt that follows rest when you've spent a long time believing it has to be earned, and offers a quieter truth: stopping is not falling behind. It's responding to what is real.

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Transcript

Welcome to 2 minutes of self-gentleness with Femke. You stopped. And immediately something in you said, You shouldn't be doing this. There's a list somewhere. Things unfinished. People who need something. A version of you that would have handled this by now. And then the rest doesn't feel restful. It feels like failing. This is one of the most persistent things I see in people who have carried a lot for a long time. Rest has become something you have to earn. And since the earning never fully ends, The rest never quite arrives. But here is what I have come to understand. Your body doesn't care about the list. It cares about you. Stopping is not falling behind. Stopping is you, Responding to what is true right now. And that is not weakness. That is extraordinary attentiveness. So let's affirm this together. You can repeat the sentences after me or just listen to my voice. I do not have to earn my rest. Stopping when I need it is an act of self-care. My body is allowed to be tired. I can be still without justifying it. I don't need to earn my rest. It is a right. I am gentle with myself, Especially now. Sit with this for a moment. And you can come back to this anytime, Whenever you feel guilty of just stopping because you need it.

Reviews

Beautiful, short but poignant message, Femke. Thank you 💛

What a very good start of this day, so very helpful. Thank you Femke! ❤️🙏