When Anger Doesn't Feel Allowed | Selfgentle 33

This episode is part of the Two Minutes of Self-Gentleness with Femke series. Anger rises, and before you know it, you push it away. This episode sits with anger that you never allowed yourself to feel, and with the reasonable person you learned to be instead. Nothing has to be done with your anger here. It is simply allowed to be present.

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Transcript

Welcome to 2 minutes of self-gentleness with Femke. You suddenly feel angry. And something in you immediately pushes it down. You explain it away before It can even arise and be present. They didn't mean it. You're probably overreacting. And anyway it's not worth the trouble. Those are the thoughts that you might think. Because somewhere in your past, You learn that your anger was too much for the people around you. So you became the one who stays reasonable. Now anger. Is information. It tells you that someone crossed a line. And anger is usually right about that. Well, You don't have to do anything with it today. And you don't have to aim that anger at anyone. Or turn it into a conversation. Let the anger just be here for these two minutes. Without a plan what to do? Without acting out. Without an apology? Just because you have the right to be angry and to just be with that for a moment and take the information in. Here are some affirmations that you can listen to or you can say them after me. My anger is allowed to exist. I do not have to justify a feeling before I'm permitting myself to feel it. Anger tells me where my boundaries are. And I can listen to it. I can be angry. And still be kind. I do not have to make myself smaller to keep the peace. I am the most important person to consistently deserve my own gentleness. This is here whenever you need it. Come back anytime. I'm sending you my love.

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