It Is Safe To Have Needs | Selfgentle 02

This episode is part of the Two Minutes of Selfgentleness with Femke series.

Guilt can make your needs feel inconvenient or selfish. In these two minutes, we gently explore what happens when you feel guilty for needing rest, space, clarity, or support.

Having needs does not make you difficult. It makes you human.

This short reflection and affirmation practice supports you in acknowledging your needs without suppressing them.

If you’d like to deepen your relationship with your inner voice, my course Start Living Selfgentle Today offers a grounded path here on Insight Timer.

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You can come back to this anytime.

Transcript

Welcome to 2 minutes of self-gentleness with Femke. The feeling of guilt can be very persuasive. It might tell you that whatever you need is inconvenient, Or that you are too much, That you have poor timing. Especially if you are someone who carries a lot for other people, Who cares a lot for other people. I've seen this in so many people I work with, And I've felt it myself. But I want you to know this, Having a need doesn't make you selfish. It only makes you human. Self-gentleness is not about demanding everything. It's about acknowledging what you feel, What you need, To look at it honestly. Your needs will not disappear when you ignore them, They just get pushed down. And today we're going to let you feel that you are allowed to notice your needs. Let's affirm this together. You can repeat the affirmations with me, Or just listen to my voice. It is okay that I need something. It is safe for me to feel what I need. My needs do not make me difficult. I can acknowledge what I feel. I can listen to what I feel, What I need, Without immediately needing to fix it. And I don't need to explain or to justify whatever is going on within me. Because my needs matter. I matter. Sit with this for a moment and just know, You can come back to this anytime.

Reviews

Thank you for this. Learning these boundaries has done wonders for my life.

That was beautiful. I struggle with this and it was so positive and helpful. Thank you!