You can have lots of luxury items around you,
Like $20 chai latte,
Let's say,
And you can be
Drinking it so quickly while you're on your phone that you don't even taste it.
You can have a lot
Of luxury items around you,
But if you're not mindful about experiencing the world,
It doesn't
Matter.
And you can have like an ordinary piece of bread with jam,
Like toast with butter and jam,
And you can eat it with so much attention and with so much gratitude and really tasting it,
And it'll be the most delicious thing you've ever eaten,
Even if it's super simple.
So the
Amount of pleasure and joy you experience,
It's more about mindset.
It's not about spend millions
Of dollars on luxurious items so you can have a little bit of joy in your life.
That is never,
Never,
Never the case.
You can get just as much joy from a simple hot drink in the morning,
Or from a walk through the city in the snow when it's all snowed in and beautiful,
From lighting a candle,
Right?
The beauty of lighting a candle.
From hearing any music you
Want to hear on YouTube at any time,
That's almost miraculous.
You can get pleasure from
A thousand things on any given day.
That becomes part of your strength.
You just need to give
Yourself permission.
But sometimes we almost feel a relief that we're suffering,
Because when we
Suffer,
We feel like I'm doing something right.
Some people have this mindset that being unhappy,
They're good people.
If they're suffering,
They're good people.
And then other people
Have a totally different mindset,
And it's let me get up with lightness and energy and happiness,
And everything in this world is here for me.
And whatever lessons life wants to give me,
I'll take those lessons openly,
And I'll learn from them.
And everything is right with the world.
Let me love myself,
And let me interact with the whole universe from a place of joy,
From a place of acceptance.
You can have that,
Or let me get up and somehow suffer through another
Day.
So I want to switch to the mentality of happiness,
Enjoyment.
It is an act of self-kindness
To pay attention to what gives you joy,
To do what gives you joy,
And to be mindful enough to
Not miss it,
To really experience it fully.
So the question becomes,
What kind of pleasures can
You give yourself now?
So that you wake up,
And you enjoy the clothes you're wearing.
You enjoy
How the fabric just feels against your skin.
You enjoy when someone gives you a smile.
And these
Little pleasures,
They just snowball.
Work with your inner critic for your enjoyment.
Increase
Your self-compassion for your enjoyment.
Have compassion for other people.
Open your heart,
Because it's enjoyable to live with a heart that wishes well for other people.
If you're watching
Your speech,
For why it's a beautiful speech,
Do that practice for your enjoyment also.
Because
It saves you energy,
And it makes life better for you,
And it creates a positive environment around
You.
So know that where there is enjoyment,
There is resource.
Where there is enjoyment,
There is your strength.
And if you have a voice in your head that says that this is highly,
Highly secondary,
Question that voice.
I think we all have ancestors who had to work so hard to
Survive,
That anything that was in survival was unnecessary or felt extra.
But that's not the
World we live in now.
For most of us,
We can enjoy.
And this doesn't mean that we have to spend tons
Of money on luxuries.
So don't blame yourself,
And give yourself permission to enjoy daily,
To make your wishes come true.
And I can guarantee you that if you start enjoying,
If you start being self-compassionate,
Your face will light up,
You'll be in a better mood,
Your relationships will get better,
You'll be more positive.
People will want to spend more time with
You,
And you'll have more energy.
So let yourself sit on the beach and just watch the waves and
Enjoy that.
Let yourself get a massage.
And then when you return from the massage,
Or you return
From sitting on the beach and watching the waves for an afternoon without looking at your phone,
You'll have the energy to do high quality work.
Then once you've rested,
You can enjoy your work
Fully.
When there is joy,
There is also joy from the work that you do.
So I hope that you listen
To your body,
You listen to your wishes,
You listen to your heart,
You do anything as an act
Of self-compassion,
Including rest,
Including work,
Including how you connect with others,
And you connect with that quality of attention that lets you be so in the moment that you can
Enjoy what is right in front of you.
And I like to end these videos with wishes to you.
So my wish
To you is may you feel joy,
And may you find joy.
May you walk the path that you walk,
But know that
The world offers you a million things to enjoy if you just notice them.
And I wish you the most
Enjoyable cup of tea tomorrow morning that you get to savor,
And then that gives you energy
For the rest of the day.
I will see you later.
Thank you so much for watching.
Bye.
