So as always,
I'd like to invite you to start with a gentle breath in and a slow,
Easy release.
I do encourage you to welcome in that self-havening touch,
Face,
Arms and hands in any order to generate those loving delta waves,
Get that serotonin flowing and that gentle gab at.
The evening touch increases the associations that our brain is making and supports us and going into even deeper awareness about what we are looking at.
I'd like to invite you to take a moment and notice the top five people that you interact with most frequently.
A spouse or a partner,
A colleague,
Perhaps a family member.
Now you may find that you have less than five,
That's okay.
Especially in these strange pandemic times,
Social engagement has changed.
In the next video,
We'll explore ways to enhance engagement,
But for right now,
Just notice your top people,
But no more than five.
And imagine that those people are now standing in a row in front of you exactly as they are.
What I mean by that is don't shift their body language or their faces,
Invite them to come forward exactly as they are,
Not as you would prefer them to be.
That preference is one of the greatest things that creates a barrier to us setting healthy boundaries with the people we interact with.
We're truly looking at their authentic selves in this moment.
And that self is informed by all of the experiences that you've had with them across the course of their life.
Who are they?
And who are they in your world?
Now turn your attention fully to the first person.
And welcome a gentle breath in.
I invite you to rest your hand on your heart space and notice what is the information that your mind and your body is sharing with you as you hold that person in the center of your attention.
Check in.
And if we were to notice a scale of negative 10 to positive 10,
Where positive 10 is full of warmth and love and a negative 10 is exhausted and depleted,
Where would you rank yourself right now as you hold this person in the center of your awareness?
There's no action to be taken in this moment as you notice this.
Just inviting your mind and your body to share this information with you.
Energetically,
Authentically,
How do you feel when you notice this person?
How does your mind and body respond to the stimulus of this individual?
And now turn your attention to the second person.
We're going to do the same thing,
Resting your hand gently on your heart space,
Moving into deep relationship with their stimulus,
Who they are,
Their history.
On that scale of negative 10 to positive 10,
What is the energy of your mind and body as you notice this individual?
And it can be anywhere on that spectrum.
And does the energy of the relationship that you have have a color,
Emotion,
So a vibrance or even a cooling effect?
And just notice and thank your mind and body for sharing with you and let's now turn our attention to the third person.
And same exercise.
Move a little more quickly because your mind and your body are getting used to this,
Checking in.
What do you notice?
Welcoming all thoughts and feelings to inform how you're feeling as you're noticing this individual,
Their presence,
How they show up.
Do they draw from you or do they give to you?
Do they invest in your well-being or like a bank account,
Do they leave it in the red,
Lacking?
And let's do that same exercise for the fourth and fifth individuals that you've noticed.
Again,
Holding that gentle space,
Checking in,
Thanking your mind and body for noticing without judgment.
How do you feel in relationship with this person?
Are they giving?
Are they taking?
Do you feel full or empty or somewhere in between?
Again,
Noticing that negative 10 to positive 10 scale.
And deepening your gratitude for your mind and body for this non-judgmental loving assessment.
And welcoming in the possibility that you can change your relationship with all of these individuals to be what you want it to be.
Those who are not filling you up as much as you would like.
It's time to take a hard look at what steps are you taking to set the healthy boundaries,
To request that they put in more time and energy for that that you want.
So often we give so much of ourselves and ask so little in return.
That self-betrayal can run very deep,
But our brain and our body know when we engage in it.
And for these amazing humans who light you up,
Who are on that positive side of the scale,
How can you show up more and invite them to be more deeply present for you?
How do you build and deepen this relationship?
We'll be exploring this more fully in the coming videos,
But for now,
I'd just like to invite you to thank your mind and body for sharing with you about these really important people in your life.
And doing this assessment to look inside and go,
Who are they?
Who am I?
And are these relationships what I want them to be?
Now,
As you wrap up this short video,
Take a moment,
Grab a pen and paper and make some notes.
Write down your people.
Where are they on that scale?
Where would you like them to be?
Let's start exploring ways to create positive change,
To create the intentional relationships that you want to have.
My name is Dr.
Kate Truitt,
And I look forward to seeing you soon.
It's an honor being a part of your journey.
