This is a guided meditation,
First giving the self loving care in the aftermath of oversharing,
Trauma dumping,
Or any time you're experiencing what is called a shame hangover,
That internal felt sense that we have shared too much about our internal world or the difficulties that we experience with another person.
As always,
I invite you to welcome in the soothing,
Havening touch,
Palm against palm as though you're washing your hands under warm water,
The gentle havening hug,
Fingertips on your shoulders and moving down your arms and across the brow or across the cheekbones and notice the soothing opportunity that you are inviting your system into.
To begin,
Let's welcome in a gentle,
Steadying breath and acknowledge the experience that has happened,
The oversharing,
As well as any experiences,
Thoughts,
Or emotions tied to that experience,
Allowing your mind to gently and softly connect back to what was happening in the moment where the oversharing occurred.
And as you return to that moment,
I invite you to notice the soothing,
Havening touch,
The loving care that you are giving to your mind and your body system right now.
Noticing the intention with which you are caring for the self that you are and noticing if you can connect to the part of you that reached out and said,
I am deserving of some loving care right now.
That loving part of you is going to be so important as we go on this journey to release shame.
Returning your attention back to the moment of the overshare,
I'd like to invite you to consider how old you felt in the moment where you were sharing.
How old was your body,
Your emotions?
Often when we share our stories of hard things,
When we overshare from an emotional space,
It's because a young part of us is needing desperately to be seen and heard within the experiences of the past.
Often this occurs because we were not seen,
Heard,
Nor held in the moment or moments of pain.
And the part of you that leaned in to stop and take this moment for you right now is going to be critical in holding space for that young part,
Caring for it and giving it what it needs because it,
You,
Are deserving of being seen,
Of being heard,
Of having somebody bear witness to your story because your story matters.
As you're noticing that felt sense of you in that moment as you shared,
What were you seeking?
What were you needing?
And notice that young self sitting there,
The young self who's actually driving that moment,
Perhaps reveling in being seen and heard in this way,
Needing it and desiring it.
And notice what it feels like for that young self to have a spotlight shown upon it,
To be held and cared for.
Get curious about what created a space of safety or even just the opportunity for you to share with this other human.
What was the door that opened where that young self could walk in and say,
Hey,
Here's my story.
Sometimes that door opens because something is triggered.
Other times it's because a person feels safe or because we feel connected.
And interestingly,
It could be a combination of all three.
The attachment needs of our pasts run deep.
And when those needs are triggered,
That desire to be seen and heard and held is ancient.
It is a part of being human.
Notice what it's like to take stock of this experience from this perspective,
To honor and for you to bear witness to this young self.
Notice the deserving part of you that is choosing to take care of you right here and right now.
Where does that part live in your mind and your body?
Does it have an energetic presence,
A warmth,
Temperature,
A movement?
If it were to have a color,
What color would this part of you be?
And what would it be like to invite that young self in that moment who is oversharing to step into presence and nestle amongst this part of you who knows you are deserving,
Who chose to take care of you right here and right now,
To even imagine perhaps applying the gentle evening touch to them and letting them know it's okay.
There is nothing shameful about wanting to be seen.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to share our story with somebody and be held within that story.
That is in fact one of the greatest gifts humans can give one another.
And sometimes we get a little involved in overshare,
But that doesn't mean there's anything bad or broken or wrong.
It just means that in that moment,
We really,
Really needed to know that we matter.
And isn't that fundamentally human to us all,
To want to matter?
And as you connect yourself sitting here right here,
Right now with that young self back there,
What would it be like for the you of this moment to let that young self know that they do matter,
That their story matters,
And that you are always here for them,
To receive them,
To be curious about their wants and their needs,
And to help them find safe people to share their stories with,
Safe moments.
And that even if in the future this happens again,
It's okay,
Because life is a journey of learning,
And learning that we matter,
That we are deserving,
And believing that can be the most exciting adventure of all.
