There we go.
Good morning.
And we'll just say his highs and good mornings.
What I would like you to do if you feel like it's relevant for you this morning is to grab a notebook.
This afternoon.
I shall stop saying the time.
Grab a notebook.
Because I'm going to do kind of some reflective questions that you might want to just jot down or after the guided meditation today,
Definitely write down.
The memories are,
The things that came up for you,
Because I think that will be a good guide as into some future in a work that you would like to do if You are pursuing healing.
So today's topic is all about inner child healing and there are so many layers to this,
So many different directions that you can take it.
I wanted to first of all just talk about it.
From the perspective of what it is.
Right?
I'm sure everybody or most of us on here already know or get an idea of what inner child healing is,
Inner child work.
It's a term that's used by therapists.
Many other terms are used that do the same thing,
But it's a term that's used by therapists.
Good morning,
Katie,
My love.
Um.
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To basically describe a type of therapy modality that can take you back to your younger self.
At any specific age to take you back to your younger self.
To that time when your younger self experienced some kind of emotional trauma.
It could also be physical trauma.
Now trauma,
The word trauma sounds very dramatic.
It doesn't always indicate that it had to be something traumatic.
But by saying trauma,
You understand that what I'm implying is something negative happened.
But also inner child work can take you back to the time when.
You start to believe.
Because of what happened.
You started to have a belief system about yourself or the world or your person involved.
You had beliefs that embedded in your reality.
You had types of thoughts that started to embed into your reality,
Like the world is scary.
Men are not safe.
Women are jealous.
Whatever happened as a child.
Those events.
Play a significant role.
On your behaviors today.
Right?
So,
If that's the case,
And we're working on ourself,
And we're looking into why we respond in certain ways,
Why we have repetitive patterns in our life.
Why we keep doing the same things over and over again.
Why can I not stop this reaction in any of these kinds of situations?
Generally,
Most of the time it's because it comes from inner child work.
Now the background to that.
From a psychological perspective is that from the age of zero to seven,
It's a very impactful time for us as human beings.
So everything that happened from the age of zero to seven is very,
Very soul journey impactful.
Okay,
And then from seven to 14,
It impacts in a completely different development part of our brain.
From zero to seven,
It's very,
Very important.
This is where all of our lower chakras specifically have development.
It's like.
.
.
Our root chakra is the most important at this age,
Our root chakra.
Is where we get everything from our basic needs.
We get love,
We get safety,
We get protection.
Weekend to be seen,
To be heard,
To be acknowledged.
All of the fundamental basic needs that a human being needs to Develop.
In a healthy mental state.
0 to 7.
So for most of us,
In those years,
The things that happen.
Play a very big important role on a purpose.
For how we behave the rest of our lives.
And if we don't intercept,
If we do not correct or change or acknowledge or even become conscious of these behaviors,
They will stay with you from day one.
Till the end of it.
You know,
This lifetime.
From 0 to 7.
We learn all of our skills.
Because we're super,
Highly intelligent human beings.
And our basic drive.
Is survival.
To be loved.
To survive.
To be loved.
Community.
Food.
Reproduction.
We have basic human needs.
And all of those from the age of 0 to 7.
Or what impact us the most.
Okay,
So we got that.
So when we do in a child work,
If you're working with a skilled therapist,
Like what?
Then they can.
Make sure to guide you to the specific route.
Of where certain developments certain behavior developments started.
And then when we get there.
In inner child work,
The idea is to understand it.
Or to rescript it.
To change it.
Are to basically the knowing of it,
Excuse me,
The knowing of it can be very healing.
So it depends on the person,
It depends on the thing,
And it depends on the timing in your journey.
So many different factors come into it.
The idea is,
In a child's work,
Is you dive in.
You find the root of a behavioral pattern.
That you would like to let go of.
And then your therapist will guide you through that process.
Now,
Today.
I'm going to guide you on inner child work,
But because it's a group and I'm not here with you one-on-one,
Then I have to be very general.
And very careful.
Because obviously we're going into a time and place where it was negative.
We're not going to go and have a fun meditation together.
We're going to go and have a meditation that's more of detective work.
We're going to go and find.
Something that is the root of a negative behavior of yours that you'd like to shift and change.
Right?
And because of that.
Because the intention isn't positive work,
Fluffy happy rainbow work.
I have to be very careful.
So we're being general today.
If you need more specific.
.
.
Dive in deeper kind of work.
Where you know you need more help,
Then just message me.
Okay,
But today is just a touch in with it.
So for example,
I'm going to give you an example.
So that you can start to think about this for yourself and maybe take some notes.
I'll be already thinking about it for me.
What behaviours do you have?
That aren't necessarily positive for you.
That you do under certain conditions or situations.
Right.
So let me think of one of mine.
So we're talking about real situations here.
Okay,
One of mine was.
And it still is a struggle for me.
If I feel Like I'm in danger.
Or I'm being attacked.
Or somebody's aggressive towards me.
My first instinct is to fight.
And I learned that.
Because of the household that I was raised in.
I had two older brothers and an older sister.
The environment,
And also the situation of my childhood.
Where I was raised.
Physical violence in schools and things like that is not uncommon.
So.
.
.
It's funny because my girls never had any of that here in the States,
Ever,
Ever,
Ever.
But where I was raised in England,
It was very.
.
.
It was a very normal tap,
Scraps,
And fisticuffs.
With people.
So I learned that very young.
But as I got older,
I didn't like that about myself.
That got unhealthier.
When it even occurred if someone was trying to tell me something.
Even if it's like in an argument,
Just an argument with somebody,
And I went into kill mode.
As a protection.
Just an inside information here.
All of these developments of yours came from some form of needing to protect or to get love.
Think about that.
Maybe you were the one that was always sick as a child because when you were sick,
You got attention.
And as an adult,
You're still kind of.
Sickly.
And you make a big deal and a big drama about when you're sick.
That came from your childhood.
Maybe you are.
And avoidant.
And you avoid.
Physical closeness.
Emotional closeness.
Because you were hurt so much as a child.
Maybe someone gave you love and then it was very conditional and they took it away all the time as a punishment.
So now your love button of trying is turned off and now you just avoid it.
Is all these different behaviors that have developed from the way that you were treated as a child.
So I want you to be starting to think about a behavior of yours that you have that stemmed from.
Something as a child.
Think about it now.
Internalize this yourself.
What are some of the things that I do?
That come from things from the past.
The other thing about this work is.
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.
Most in a child work,
You get the idea that you're going to a time and place in your inner in the past,
Into your childhood,
Where you can give your child.
Self.
What it needed.
What it wasn't given.
Was what it wasn't shown.
What didn't happen.
As an adult.
With a lot of inner child work,
You can go back into your inner child and be that which you needed as a child.
Be the protection,
Be the loving care,
Be the provider of whatever it is that they need.
Somebody to talk to.
Somebody to guide them.
To hold them.
This is all the things that you can do in inner child work.
All right,
My sweet friends,
Unless anybody else has any other questions.
That's our talk for today.
I just wanted to give you the basic like depth of what inner child work is and for you to start to think about.
Something to do with your own behavior.
That could come from your inner child.
And then we're going to go into the guided meditation now so that we can kind of touch on that a little bit.
So if you could,
Please get comfortable.
You can lay down.
You can sit.
Whichever.
Meditation position feels the best for you in this moment.
As long as you're getting comfortable.
And You're relaxed.
Close down your eyes if you haven't done so already.
And take the time to just start to breathe.
Longer,
Slower.
Deeper breaths.
Feel your breath as you breathe in.
Notice what your breath feels like as you exhale.
Relax your shoulders.
Relax the space around your eyes.
Soften your cheeks and your jaw.
Let's just take some nice,
Long,
Slow,
Deep breaths together.
I'm going to count.
For the breath.
Breathing in.
2.
3 4,
Hold.
Breathe out.
Too.
Three.
Fuck.
Home.
Breathe in,
Two,
Three,
Four,
Hold.
Breathe out.
2.
3 Far.
Haul.
Just breathe a few more breaths like that for yourself.
And as you do so,
See if you can soften your body around your spine.
Relaxing your legs,
Your arms.
Letting go of the count,
Allowing your breath to just keep its pace on its own.
Bring all of your focus and attention up to your forehead right there where your third eye resides.
So even though you have your eyes closed,
Imagine in your mind that you're staring into the space there that's in front of you.
And as you stare out into that space,
Notice that it may be pitch black.
It may have shadows or colors.
Just observe.
Using your mind to create a visual at first to help you along.
Imagine that there are 10 steps.
Going down.
There in front of you in that big wide open space.
And in your mind,
You're taking a couple of steps forward as if you're walking towards the top of those 10 steps.
And at the top you stop.
And peer down the staircase.
There in front of you and you can see all the way down.
At the bottom of those 10 steps,
There's a door that we're going to go through today,
And I'll tell you about that in a little bit.
But for now,
What I'd like you to do is look down at your feet.
And if you're not barefoot,
Kick off your socks and your shoes.
So that you can Feel.
And connect.
To that top step.
Notice what the step feels like underneath your feet,
Whether it's rough or smooth.
Soft like a carpet.
Maybe it's cool like tile.
Notice what your stairs are made of.
Take a few moments to just look to the left and the right of your staircase.
Do you see any other details?
We're going to go down these 10 steps together.
And as you go down the 10 steps,
You'll notice that your body gets more relaxed.
As if it's just floating down the stairs.
Very easily and naturally.
Starting at the top.
10.
9.
Feel the steps as you step down.
Seven.
Bye.
4.
3 one.
Take a couple of steps forward until you're standing.
Right there in front of the door.
I mentioned earlier.
Just looking at this star.
Notice the color,
The size.
Notice if it has a door handle or a door knob on the left or the right,
Or if it doesn't have anything.
If it doesn't have a door knob or a door handle.
Know that you'll sense in just a few moments when you have to open it whether you pull the door towards you or whether you have to push it in away from you.
This door.
On the other side of it.
Is where we're going to go into.
Specific Childhood memories.
Your mind.
Is ready to show you today.
You are going to go in through the door as your grown adult self and you are going to be an observer.
So when we go through the door,
You'll just close the door behind you and stand by the door and look into the space there in front of you and watch what your mind wants to show you.
You are watching.
You aren't in it.
You are observing it.
So the memory is playing out in front of you.
You are not in it.
Okay.
I'm going to count to three.
When I say one,
You'll open the door.
When I say two,
In just a few moments,
You'll walk through the doorway.
And then when I say three,
You're going to close that doll behind you.
Stand by the door and just wait.
Ready to go through.
One.
2.
3.
What I'd like you to do is imagine that in this space that you're standing in by the door,
You're going to close your eyes.
And when you close your eyes.
You're going to start to telepathically communicate with your mind.
I'd like you to.
Show me a memory.
Of an event.
That's the root of a behavior that I have.
Today.
Show me a memory.
Of an event?
Or something that took place.
That is connected to a behavior that I have today.
And when you're ready,
Just open your eyes and stare into the space and allow your mind to start to bring a memory to you.
You're opening your eyes in your imagination self.
You're not actually opening your eyes just as a reminder there.
Imagine that you're opening your eyes by the door,
And you're allowing the memory the start to play.
There in the space in your mind.
Just watch.
As it starts to play out.
Something that happened.
When you watch the memory.
See if you can connect to your younger self just to.
.
.
Feel enough of what emotion you were feeling at the time.
However.
.
.
It made you feel.
But just watch,
Don't be in the body of your young self,
Be an observer.
It shouldn't take very long to see the connection to put the dots together.
Going to give you one more minute and then we're going to move forward.
To make this different,
To make this an outcome that would have been nice for your younger self.
Sweet.
Positive.
What would you need to change?
You have complete control and autonomy over this memory that's playing out in front of you.
Change it.
Change it so that It's different.
So that your younger self gets what they needed.
We're not gonna stay long in.
These situations.
What I'd like you to do is.
.
.
Imagine once again that you're closing down your eyes there by the door and you're letting this go.
You're letting the memory go.
Take a big deep breath and just kind of reset.
You saw it.
You changed it.
Let it go.
Clear your mind.
And now,
Once again,
Communicate with your mind and your memory.
Show me.
Another memory of mine from my childhood.
Of something that happened that's connected to a behavior that I still have today.
Show me a memory.
And with that,
Imagine that you're opening your eyes and you're just starting to stare into that space until a memory starts to come and form and you can see it in your mind.
Another time and place.
Your mind could be showing you something.
Very unexpected.
Just allow it to show you.
Allow it to show you the dot-to-dots of how that affects you today.
How can you change it?
What needs to be changed in this scene?
In this memory.
What do you need to do differently or what do you need to do to make them?
Or it be different.
Maybe you need to speak up.
Shouldn't take too long for it to come to you that you need what you need to do to change.
Don't put too much thought into it,
Just change it.
Do whatever comes to mind.
And now take a big deep breath and imagine that you're closing down your eyes and you're can feel that door behind you on your back body.
You're just kind of resting against it.
Clear your mind,
Allow it to be black and space and vast and Nothing there again in your vision,
Just close it off.
Clean it up.
Take a few deep breaths.
And for your final time.
Ask your mind to show you.
Another time and place,
Another memory.
Doesn't matter what age,
It could be from 0 to 15 to 19.
Don't worry about it.
Show me a memory of something that happened.
That formed a behavior that I am still doing to this day.
Show me the root.
Show me something that happens.
And with that,
Imagine that you're opening your eyes and you're allowing the memory to be seen there in your mind.
Whatever comes.
How can you change it?
Imagine when you change it.
All the years in front of it how they'd be re-scripted.
How things would be different.
What difference it would be from now on.
When you change it.
Gonna give you a moment.
See things differently.
And now.
.
.
Imagine you're closing down your eyes and you're taking that big deep cleansing breath.
Let it all go.
Let all three things that you visited go.
Breathe in through your nose and exhale out through your mouth and just relax your shoulders.
Let it go.
It is what it is.
This was just an insight.
I'm going to count to three and with your eyes still closed,
You'll find yourself at the bottom of the 10 steps that you originally came down with all of this wisdom and information there in your conscious mind,
Also knowing that The way that you change things,
The way that you re-scripted things has a different energy.
Just allow this new energy to start to form in your body and your energy field.
Just allow it to start to do its work.
Just let it go.
Just let it go.
And trust.
I'm going to count to three.
1.
Two,
Three.
Looking up the stairs there in front of you,
We're going to come back up the 10 steps.
When you get to the top,
You can open your eyes and come back into your space,
Back into your life in this present moment.
1.
Two,
Feel the steps,
Feel as you're walking up,
Three,
Four,
Five,
Six,
Seven,
Eight,
Nine,
10.
Now,
Take your time to open your eyes.
Whittle your toes,
Whittle your fingers,
Come back into this beautiful body of yours.
Be present.
Maybe take a few moments to stare around your space a little bit.
All is well.
Everything.
Will be as it's supposed to be.
Namaste,
My friend.
