So hello,
My name's Claire Downham and if you've been listening to me for a while you will know that I used to be called the Queen of Calm and during this episode I'm going to share why I am no longer the Queen of Calm.
I've entitled this episode Empowerment Over Calm Unleashing Your Entrepreneurial Potential.
So let me tell you what's happened to me over the last few weeks quite honestly but maybe there's been a little seed of this before that.
For a little while now I've been exploring this inside-out understanding and for quite some time I've been thinking that there is something not quite aligned in terms of the seeking of calm that people often undergo and that me calling myself the Queen of Calm made calm into something aspirational.
That it got to the place where people were tending to think that they couldn't be anything other than calm in order to be doing the things they wanted to do in life and moving forward with their lives.
So I found myself in conversations with clients and groups where people were waiting to have done enough state management,
Mindset management,
Feeling management before they could move forward and that in actual fact in terms of people revealing their potential and putting what they want to put out into the world,
Sharing their gifts,
This was dramatically holding them back and I see this more so in the female entrepreneurial community than anywhere else.
So maybe about a month ago I decided that I would no longer be calling myself the Queen of Calm and that left a hole but well what am I then if I'm not the Queen of Calm?
But I sat with that hole with the feeling that brought with it and I just gave myself the time and space.
I knew I didn't need to know straight away and I just left it to percolate as I like to say.
But then quite quickly it became really clear.
I'm currently working with a lovely group of ladies helping them to grow their business online,
To get their message out there,
To share their gifts with the world and what I saw in that journey was that for each and every one of them success was a very different thing.
They didn't all have the same ideas about what success was going to look like for them but that was really it.
To put it in a really simple word,
They were looking for success and as a group these ladies I would say were both emerging and established female entrepreneurs and so that's when it all started to fall into place.
Like the perfect game of Tetris I like to think that once you've pointed yourself in a direction the universe sort of says okay I see where you're going and I woke up one morning maybe the end of last week when and I just suddenly saw oh it's a success mental for emerging and established female entrepreneurs.
So that means that I'm here to help people who just have the little seed,
The little glimmering light of a business idea,
Something that there's been nagging them for ages to share with the world and they're not sharing it and for those established female entrepreneurs who just feel stuck,
Who just feel like they're not able to move forward and for this group of women I see my own journey perfectly intertwined and and that was for a long time particularly in my first business spending hours perhaps each day trying to get myself to be in a certain state,
Let's call that calm,
Managing my emotions,
Managing my thoughts and waiting really to be okay before I could move forward and share what I wanted to share with the world and I see that being the case for so many female entrepreneurs and that's why I want to move towards supporting this group.
So let's dive into the kind of things that I plan to share with them and the learnings that you might find helpful in this particular session.
The first thing is that I want us to understand as a race,
As as a gender that all emotions are okay.
I'm pretty sure all humans have learnt somewhere along the line that some emotions are okay and some are not but I really see how for women waiting for us to be in a certain emotional state just stops us and it stopped me for years and years and years trying to get myself to feel different so I could move forward in my life and in my business.
In actual fact when you see your emotions for what they are that they are energy,
Emotion internally generated nothing to do with the outside world and what you're about to do.
The moving forward just gets a whole lot easier.
One of my favourite catchphrases is your thoughts and feelings know nothing about what you are capable of and that when we begin to see that we can move into a space of empowerment through action,
When we take a step forward something out there something magical within us all starts to align and I want to empower you to take action to share your gifts with the world rather than just spending hours and hours managing your emotional state.
It's the transformation of the relationship with our thoughts and feelings that truly makes the difference.
We don't need to change them we just need to see them differently and when you understand the inside-out nature of how your experience is generated is created in the world you can start to do this and then you can start to define success on your own terms and then the magic really happens because I suspect you've experienced this you have an idea a little inkling a little light that comes on inside you and it feels so right but sometimes it only feels right for just a moment because very quickly your mind comes in and says no your mind comes in and says you can't do that you're going to look stupid you're an imposter you're not good enough to do that people are going to judge you and laugh at you etc etc etc it all comes in doesn't it very very quickly and then we feel that in our bodies and then we think we have to get rid of that to move forward but in actual fact if we can start to see this differently we can move towards those drives from our intuition towards success in life and in business now what's clear to me is that there are certain barriers that are very common to female entrepreneurs imposter syndrome fear of failure perfectionism and actually what we can get caught up in doing is trying to change all those things spending a lot of time working on them but when we start to see that that is just the voice of the past that's nothing to do with you and how you are right now and what you are capable of then we can start to move forward what I see in the world right now is that things need to change out there in the world out there where there is destruction and humans hurting each other and the planet being damaged and I truly believe that it is women who are going to bring that to life who are going to change the world but they need help we all need help we all need support we all need a group of people to help us to move forward we need guidance we need practical wisdom we need mentorship and that's I see is my gift to uplift those women move them forward to share their gifts with the world and have the world change this is the end of something but it's also a beautiful new beginning for me in terms of what I want to share with the world it's an invitation to you to look at what it is you want to put out into the world and what is it that's stopping you this is moving from calm to empowerment and self-discovery it's moving away from trying to manage thoughts and feelings to a place of acceptance where every single thing that arises within us is okay seen differently seen as energy emotion thoughts and feelings both just energy emotion so this will be the final session with me as the Queen of Calm that I will ever share and I am truly grateful because I have been beautifully supported by people here and it's been wonderful but I am so so excited for this new chapter ahead and I hope you are going to join me so that's me signing off and saying goodbye to the Queen of Calm and hello to Claire Downham success mentor for emerging and established female entrepreneurs I want you to share your gifts with the world and I'm looking forward to helping you do that thank you so much for being on this journey with me take care and much love
