Have you noticed?
The moment we tell ourselves,
I can't have this,
The craving often gets louder.
Stronger.
More urgent.
So,
Let's do something different.
Instead of saying,
I can never have it,
Simply tell yourself.
I can have it later.
Not never.
Just not right now.
And wait here with me for the next few minutes.
Take a slow breath in.
And a slow breath out.
Bring your attention to the craving.
Just noticing that it's here.
And instead of fighting the craving,
Get curious about it.
Gently ask yourself.
If I follow this grieving right now,
How will I feel 10 minutes after I act on this grieving?
Will this feel like a choice?
That honors who I want to be.
Now see if you can meet this grieving.
With kindness.
Because cravings are often trying to solve a problem.
So ask yourself.
What do I actually need in this moment?
Is it the need for rest?
Connection.
Ball stimulation.
For certainty.
The note is what do I actually need right now?
And,
If that's the underlying need,
How could I meet my need?
In a way that's healthy.
In a way that's aligned with the kind of person I want to be.
Like if you are craving.
Or a specific sweet dish.
You can need something.
Else that is also sweet but yet healthy.
If you need comfort,
Then you can meet this.
With a warm drink.
A cozy blanket.
If you need stimulation.
You can go for a walk.
Dance.
Or change your environment.
So,
Find your own healthy alternative.
Begins.
Every joint.
Is a word.
Or the person.
You are becoming.