Hello my friend.
The goal has never been to fix or improve ourselves but it can become that.
So I hope this meditation practice with words to remind you of some truths that you can breathe into your body will bring you back to understanding that we don't need to get so caught up in trying to fix ourselves.
The pathway is to give ourselves space to be,
To learn,
To grow and that we don't need to be perfect to enjoy our lives.
I hope it helps you move out of internal micromanagement into feeling free again.
So settle in my friend and listen carefully to these truths.
The goal is not to fix yourself because you are not broken.
Whatever messages you have been given you are never broken my friend and I'm sorry you heard those messages.
They must have hurt.
The goal is not to improve yourself because you are enough just as you are.
You are more than enough.
You are valuable.
I'm sorry if you were ever told otherwise.
I'm so sorry if you got the message that being yourself meant you were falling short.
The goal is to remember what you came in knowing that just by existing you are a unique and precious expression of life.
In fact you are a piece of magic.
You are not falling short my friend.
It is just that you weren't made to feel welcome of the whole of you that is you.
The you that you are meant to be and can only be.
The you that can only do the things the way you do them.
No one but you can do the things exactly the way you do them.
You have your own ways.
You are unique and wonderfully formed.
I'm sorry if you have been given messages that have made you not feel that.
The goal is to welcome the you that is you to make space for yourself and to let yourself shine.
Your way.
The goal is not to improve or perfect yourself.
We can waste so much time trying to smooth the rough diamond that is already a precious jewel.
The goal is to see yourself as already whole.
Every part of you is part of the whole and is whole as waves are part of the ocean and also whole as individual waves.
The goal is to cherish all your parts and pieces.
Yes my friend the goal is to become someone who knows how to be with yourself kindly.
The goal is not to measure and critique yourself against some outside standard or a wounded inner voice.
The goal is to become someone who can meet yourself with understanding instead of judgment.
With empathy and compassion instead of harsh words.
The goal is not to follow the voice of the inner critic but to heal the wounds that fuel it.
To become someone who responds to yourself with care and encouragement.
The goal is not to push or punish yourself.
The goal is to become someone who can steady yourself when life stirs you up.
To be kind to the hard and celebrate the good.
That way your inner family is always assured of safety and happiness.
And the confidence to grow and heal and continue.
The goal is not to ignore yourself in order to please someone else.
The goal is to become someone who knows how to come home to yourself.
The goal is not to discipline master or manage yourself.
The goal is to become someone who treats yourself the way you would a dear dear friend or animal.
The goal is not to compare yourself but to cherish your individuality.
The goal is not to fix or improve yourself but to become someone who can care for their nervous system with wisdom and compassion.
And in caring for yourself the goal is not to detach yourself or squash your energy down.
The goal is to welcome your vitality,
The particular colorful flow of your feelings,
The passion and compassion in your incredible heart.
The goal is not to fix or improve yourself but to discover more and more of who you truly are and to make room for who you are becoming.
That is how you free your soul for its natural expansion.
My friend,
The you that was born into this life already knows all of this.
These truths are held sacred inside you,
Waiting patiently for you to remember.
The goal is simply to remember and to remember and remember over and over again.
Until you wake up on one ordinary day and you find yourself living inside a being who knows the extraordinary truth of what a precious miracle you are.
Without even having to try.
You can stay in this wise space for as long as your body wants to,
Feeling what's coming,
Feeling what's going,
Perhaps the movement of energy as you tune back into yourself and remember.
This practice is always here for you when you need these reminders and to shift your course back to this wisdom.
Thank yourself for choosing this.
And I thank you for practicing here.
In your own time,
You can bring yourself back.
And until next time,
Bye for now.
