Welcome to Life Unedited.
The Power of Radical Acceptance.
28 Theories of Living in Reality.
This is a series of practical strategies to use in life through the lens of reality for changing obstacles into opportunities.
I'm Tiffany and this is Theory 20.
Expectations.
Expectations ruin relationships.
And we feel entitled to have expectations.
Yet entitlement is not reality.
The only person we can confidently have an expectation of is ourselves.
And that is because we are the only person who can fulfill that expectation as we desire.
When we tell someone that we expect something from them,
We are giving that expectation to them and it becomes theirs to do with what they choose.
If they choose not to follow through,
We do not have any right to be upset because it was their choice not to do as expected.
Just because we expect something does not mean that we will get it.
That really might be hard to accept.
And it is true.
We do not get to expect things from people.
Shall we even broach the notion of our unverbalized expectations?
We expect things from people,
Don't communicate the expectation,
And then get upset when our expectation is not met.
Nothing like setting people up to fail.
You don't know I expect this,
You do not follow through with my expectation,
And I am mad at you for not reading my mind.
You should have known.
Does that even need further explanation?
We also go into different situations with expectations about how it should turn out and then choose to be disappointed.
What if we went into situations full of curiosity about how it could turn out?
That opens our lens to all the possibilities and wonder.
Suspend expectation and allow ease and enjoyment into each moment.
