Hello and welcome.
My name is Nat and I'm here to take you through a connected gaze experience.
You'll need a second person for this effort,
Someone with which you care about deeply and you're open to enhancing your connection with them.
If you have your partner then let's get started.
Go ahead,
Both of you find a comfortable seated position.
Allow your knees to be touching and then gently rest your hands on your thighs.
See if you could get just a little bit more comfortable and begin the process of looking into each other's eyes.
It may be awkward at first.
It will definitely feel a little weird and unusual,
Especially if you see this person every day but maybe lately you haven't paused and actually seen them.
Could you do that now?
Resist the urge to talk or to make sound or use facial expressions to communicate all of the thoughts that are racing through your mind right now.
Could you just see this person in front of you?
What's the first thing you notice?
Don't tell them,
Just feel it.
What's the first thing you feel?
Just explore it,
Let it come up.
Take a breath in together,
Breathe in and sigh it out together.
Breathe out,
Breathe in again and then go ahead,
Sigh it out.
Settle in again.
Keep your gaze connected this whole time.
Resist the urge to look anywhere else.
Can you ground yourselves in love?
Without saying anything,
Just feeling it,
Just sharing it and expressing it through the eyes.
Can you share how much you love this person?
How grateful you are for them?
Root yourself in the love that exists between you.
Open your heart and now can you receive it?
Can you pause just long enough to feel the love this person has for you?
To access it,
Unblocked,
Unhurried,
All of the responsibilities that weigh you down and hold you back from experiencing this person fully.
Can you just let them in just for now?
Put the weight of the world down and just love this person.
Oscillating between giving love and receiving love.
And now in this moment,
Still connected with your gaze,
Can you root in your shared vulnerability,
Your shared humanity?
Can you see that this person,
Just like you,
Can you see that they struggle?
No matter how strong they seem most days,
They also struggle just like you.
And they are doing the very best they can,
Just like you.
Can you give them that right now?
Can you access your shared vulnerability,
Your strength and your struggle?
And can you hold space for them right now to struggle?
It's okay.
See them fully and wholly.
Putting yourself in a space of empathy.
And for just now,
Choosing to feel their struggle with them.
A shared humanity.
You are not alone.
I see you.
I acknowledge you.
And I feel you.
Just like I struggle.
I see.
I see that you struggle too.
And it's okay.
We can both hold space for our imperfections.
We can both hold space,
Knowing that we're not always gonna get it right.
Breathe.
And now can you show this person kindness?
You don't have to say anything.
I've got you.
Could you feel that?
I've got you.
No matter how many times you fall.
I've got you.
And no matter how many times I fall,
I know that you've got me.
Because we're in this together.
I've got you.
What do you want for this person?
Don't say it.
Feel it and let them feel it.
What do you want for them?
What do you hope for them?
What do you dream for them?
Stay connected.
See this person all of their strengths and all of their struggles and love them.
All of them all of the parts.
Don't break away.
Stay a whole minute just you to stay with each other.
Breathe into your bodies again.
Long and slow.
Feel your practice together.
However that feels most comfortable in an embrace,
A high five,
Whatever it looks like for you.
It is from here that I share my deep gratitude for practicing this connected gaze experience with me and being open,
Open to trying something new in an effort to deepen your connection.
