I Am Here for Me (A Reflection On Self-Compassion)

Hey,

So this is A set of three questions.

That ideally can help us.

To deepen self-connection when we're going through a tough time.

And so the first one is about.

Establishing and understanding,

Having a foundations.

Having a foundation.

That paves the way for an acknowledgement of ourselves.

At a deeper level.

So here's the first question.

Who is the one person?

Who knows every chapter of my story.

Even the ones I've never told anyone else.

Who's the one person who knows every chapter of my story?

Even the ones I've never told anyone else.

It's rhetorical,

Right?

I am,

I am.

What's it like to just.

.

.

Recognise.

That not only is this obvious and simple,

But it can be.

At the right time,

Something that can deepen a sense of connection to ourselves.

And when with.

When we're able to.

Recognise this.

There's another question that can help.

And this is about.

The recognition of this amazing capacity we have to be our.

Own ally,

Our own friend,

Our own companion.

And the question is.

.

.

Who is the one person?

Who can be with me.

Right now.

No matter what is happening.

Who's the one person who can be with me right now,

No matter what is happening.

So in any given moment.

And the answer is,

I am.

You are.

I am.

If I choose to.

We lose ourselves when we get caught up in the automatic The automatic thinking patterns.

That we haven't chosen.

And that don't usually serve us,

Especially when we're going through a tough time.

Choosing.

Ourselves,

Choosing ourselves in the recognition of these are automatic thoughts and I choose not to give energy to them.

Because they usually don't serve me.

I choose to give energy to myself with validating self-talk in this moment.

And every time I do,

I'm showing up for myself.

So to be able to be that companion for ourselves.

Now.

Depending on whether you've woken up this morning.

And you recognise that today's a tough day.

The final question.

That can really help.

Deepen that sense of self-connection.

And pave the way for the future.

Doing something about it as our days go on.

Is this.

If I am that person.

That can be there for myself,

Right?

If I am that person.

How do I want to show up for myself today?

If I am that person that can be there for myself,

How do I want to show up for myself today?

Hopefully.

This could pave the way for deep learning.

Tweaking something in your day.

In the service of you being there for yourself.

Taking care of yourself a little bit more.

Because you deserve it.

It's hard being human,

And I'm not saying this to be morbid,

As I say in my live events.

It's hard being human.

And we have an amazing capacity.

To be there for ourselves and the more we are the more we do choose not to give energy to the default,

Those automatic thoughts and the default mode that keeps us caught up in time.

An inner struggle that doesn't serve us.

The more we choose that.

The more we establish.

Those foundations.

And thicken those neural templates in our brain for that,

We get better at it.

Now,

If this really resonates with you.

And you like the idea of validating self-talk as much as I do,

I get really passionate about it.

It's a tool.

Validating self-talk is a tool.

Then when we're caught up.

It can be another thing where instead of this.

External world happening to me,

Which then affects my internal world.

Instead of it being these tough times,

These difficult thoughts and feelings happening to me,

They can happen for me because I know what to do.

It's not just happening to me,

Activating my nervous system and I'm caught up in the same old struggles.

It's like it's happening to me and I am choosing to be there for myself with validating self-talk.

No you're not,

Says the mind.

And starts to pull you back up into the automatic.

Thinking patterns that don't serve you,

That mostly don't serve us.

Sometimes they do.

A lot of the time they don't and that's what science proves.

And coming back again to that.

If it does interest you,

You might want to look at my course,

When Self-Talk is Medicine.

But other than that,

I hope these.

The two questions at the start and if there's something that.

If you're going through a tough time and you think,

You know,

Actually I could.

.

.

There are some things that I want to do for myself today,

Then question three can help with that.

So as a little recap.

Question one is about,

You know,

Who is the one person who knows what I've been through,

Everything I've been through,

Every chapter of my story.

Even the ones I've never told anyone else.

Who is the one person who can be with me in any given moment?

Who's the one person that can be with me right now?

No matter what is happening.

If you feel that you need an optional one to help with.

Actually putting some things into practice for the day.

If I am that person.

How do I want to show up for myself today?

Go easy,

Baby steps,

Small,

Small achievable actions or one small step.

Of doing something a little bit different for yourself.

Instead of So it's not about the mind naturally goes to excessive expectations.

This is about doing something really small.

And then the recognition I'm doing this for me because I deserve it and I know what I've been through.

That I was going to say that little shift in attitude,

You know,

That little change on the on the inside,

That little transformation on the inside.

Is not little,

It's huge and the more you do it,

The more you are benefiting your future self.

Because you're increasing that capacity to be there for yourself.

And like I said before,

And I'm going to say it again because I really mean it,

You deserve it.

I hope this video has been helpful.