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The Wisdom Of The Waves: I’m Sorry

by Reuben Lowe

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The Wisdom of The Waves return helping us repair relationships and align with our values. With a blend of wisdom, vulnerability, and actionable insights, The Wisdom of The Waves speak to anyone seeking to build trust, foster understanding, and grow through life’s inevitable mistakes. This is a shorter version of the full “The Wisdom of The Waves - 3 Steps To Sorry”, which also provides a 3-step formula.

RelationshipsTrustApologyResponsibilityVulnerabilityEmpathyValuesHealingApology EssenceResponsibility AcknowledgementHealing RelationshipsVulnerability ImportanceEmpathy ExpressionIntentions Vs ActionsAvoidance Of DiscomfortRebuilding Trust

Transcript

We all screw up.

We all make mistakes.

Sometimes it's unintentional.

Sometimes we are so caught up in ourselves that it might even be intentional.

Let's go to the wisdom of the waves,

For our daily dose of gentle inspiration.

Saying sorry is important because it acknowledges responsibility,

Fosters healing and restores trust in relationships.

However,

It isn't always easy.

Humans are hardwired to avoid discomfort,

Which can make it challenging to fully accept responsibility for our actions.

When we hurt someone,

Our intentions may be good,

But our actions may not be truly validating,

Which is often the case with many apologies.

This is really important.

Too often we are conditioned to explain our actions rather than fully own them.

Saying,

I didn't mean to hurt you,

Or I thought it was for the best at the time,

Shifts focus from responsibility to justification,

And that's not a real apology.

The essence of a sincere apology.

A true apology should come from the heart.

It's as simple and genuine as saying,

I'm so sorry,

Without adding,

I was just trying to help,

Or I was going through something and this is why.

Humans make mistakes,

No one is perfect.

Owning our actions requires humility and a willingness to be vulnerable,

Which is a challenge for our minds.

When people mask their actions with good intentions,

They deflect,

Hiding the real impact of their behaviour.

This can deepen the hurt,

Create confusion and erode trust.

An apology wrapped in denial isn't an apology at all.

While it may be comforting to know someone didn't intend to harm,

This should never overshadow the genuine need for a heartfelt apology.

This first step is a clear acknowledgement of the hurt caused.

This may or may not open space for a conversation about our intentions.

If the person we've hurt isn't ready to listen,

We must let go and allow them the space to process what we've said.

A true apology.

A true apology shows that we take responsibility for our actions.

It can heal and strengthen relationships by showing empathy and valuing the experience of the person we've hurt.

Through a genuine apology,

We can say,

I see the harm I've caused,

I regret it and I'm committed to making things right.

This fosters healing,

Understanding and a commitment to do better.

Apologies are not merely words but acts of true accountability and compassion.

We are only ready to truly make amends when we can sincerely apologise for the hurt we've caused,

Fully acknowledging it.

Period.

Meet your Teacher

Reuben LoweMelbourne, Australia

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Recent Reviews

🌜HaileOnWheels🌛

April 15, 2025

Exactly what I needed in the perfect time to receive it! ✨🙏✨

Al

March 16, 2025

Thanks for the understanding of how to say I’m sorry in a way it truly communicates. Namaste 🙏

Faye

February 28, 2025

So true, for the person apologizing and the person receiving the apology to hear

Linda

January 24, 2025

Outstanding. Thanks for putting this track together ❤

Marilyn

January 23, 2025

This really made me think and reflect on how I apologise Reuben. Thank you!

Helene

January 23, 2025

I’ve already left a review for the longer track, but I do have to mention Tracy Chapman’s song, ‘Hold me tonight’ in which she emotionally sings: ‘Sorry, words don’t come easily, like sorry … maybe if I told you the right words’ The right word, said with a sincere heart at the right time can in my experience liberate you. 🙏

Shauna

January 23, 2025

Well said Reuben! I think I have received 1 real apology in my life!

Bob

January 23, 2025

Those waves - they always seem to have the answers. Thank you, Reuben!

Robin

January 23, 2025

Often a spat followed by a true apology strengthens a relationship. Has happened to me. Thanks Reuben 🙏🏻

Tanusree

January 23, 2025

It’s so true Reuben! Every single thing you said is so true and when one realizes his or her mistake and is truly sorry and admits to his mistake it should make him happy and so relieved. But what if the person apologizing continues to hurt and feel vulnerable even after admitting and feeing truly sorry because the apology isn’t accepted? It’s very painful isn’t it? I love your insights Reuben, they make such a difference to me. Thank you Reuben always and always❤️💕.

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