What to say instead.
Re-engaging with intention.
Today's gentle message for this you here now is this.
You have the right to speak to yourself with kindness.
Many of us have never learned how.
Even if it feels strange to start with,
Self-talk can be a healing language and every validating phrase is like watering the roots of who you are becoming.
Let's go to the wisdom of the waves for our daily dose of insight and inspiration.
It's so confusing when you're hooked by a narrative that comes into your head.
It's so enticing,
It catches you off guard.
Humans get so lost in that narrative that they believe that the narrative is them.
My dear sweet soul,
These thoughts have been programmed into you from the external world.
The automatic thinking patterns that arise are not your fault,
They just happen.
When you disengage from the automatic and choose validating self-talk,
It's intentional.
This means you are choosing it.
When automatic self-talk happens,
You don't choose it.
It chooses you.
You're hooked and looking at the world from the automatic thoughts that are not your fault.
Looking from these thoughts instead of looking at them.
In the precious space where you look at a thought,
It becomes a stream of words.
A stream of words that you are the witness to.
Here you get to choose.
You get to speak differently should you choose this.
You could say,
I'm learning and I'm growing in the face of these difficult thoughts.
I don't have to be perfect to be worthy.
This is a difficult thought and I am here for me whilst I have this.
My mind is giving me a hard time,
But I have my own back.
These affirmations are not for the sake of pretending.
They are inner truths you get to practice.
Because what you say to yourself matters.
It echoes in your nervous system,
In your breath,
In your sense of self.
Each validating phrase becomes a signal.
I am safe.
I am worthy.
I am more than this stream of words.
This is self-compassion.
Self-compassion can be boiled down into six words.
Acknowledge your discomfort.
Respond with kindness.
Mindfulness,
Not of your external world,
But mindfulness of your internal world.
A gentle willingness to open up to what you experience on the inside.
Validation of this,
And a kind thought or action to follow.
Like choosing which seeds to plant,
The words you speak to yourself grow into the way you treat yourself.
I choose validating self-talk right now.
As I do this,
I disengage from the automatic self-talk,
Which usually doesn't serve me.
And I intentionally engage with validating self-talk,
Which does.
I allow my mind to chatter,
Regardless of the content of the thought,
And come back to the greater intelligence of who I am.
I choose validating self-talk.
I know it's unfamiliar,
Because we haven't been taught this way,
But I am choosing to grow.
I choose to start talking to myself in a way that I wish someone had said to me years ago.
This is how I water the soil in my garden of healing.
I choose to honour these six words of self-compassion.
Acknowledge my discomfort.
Respond with kindness.
This is always a process.
It is always a practice.
We disconnect,
So that we can reconnect.
And so it is.
Each phrase I speak,
A healing thread of self-compassion,
Softly said.
Each phrase I speak,
A healing thread of self-compassion,
Softly said.
Each phrase I speak,
A healing thread of self-compassion,
Softly said.
Each phrase I speak,
A healing thread of self-compassion,
Softly said.
