479: The Power Of Energetic Cord Cutting

Today, I’m diving into the powerful practice of cord cutting - a simple but transformative way to release old ties and reclaim your own energy.

We create energetic cords with everyone we interact with, from loved ones to strangers. These connections can weigh us down with resentment, heartbreak, and even other people’s emotions. Cord cutting isn’t about ending relationships. It’s about keeping your energy field clean, clear, and truly your own.

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It's almost as though people have an invisible rope kind of tugging at us when we have cords that are connected.

Your intention is the most powerful thing.

Just cut those cords.

Whatever they look like is perfect.

You cannot get this wrong.

It's a game changer because what happens is it's not just about this energetic cord that gets cut,

But when we can cut the cords with that person,

We not only feel lighter and brighter,

We also will start having a different awareness around myself and that person.

Nobody makes us feel resentful.

They're not causing me to carry it around with me in the future.

I am.

Welcome,

Welcome,

Everyone,

To the Michelle Chalfant Show.

I'm happy to be here with you today.

I've been getting some really great questions about how do I move on from old ties with people?

Why can't I move on?

Why do I feel stuck?

So what I've been sharing with people,

Of course,

Is,

Well,

You have to cut cords.

And then it's led to more questions around,

Well,

What does that even mean?

And why do we cut cords?

And how do we cut cords?

And I'm confused.

So I want to talk today about what does it mean to cut cords with somebody?

What does that mean?

And how do we do it?

Like,

When do we need to do it?

How is it hard?

Is it easy?

And you know me,

It's going to be simple.

So let me break it down for you.

So we are energetic beings.

We're just big blobs of energy in human suits,

As I say.

And when we speak to someone else,

We're actually tossing energy back and forth.

There are cords that go from me to you,

Even listening right now.

And what happens is the cords are going from me to you.

And if you're talking to me,

I'd get some of your energy back.

But even when you think of me,

You're sending energy my way.

This is why last episode,

Last week was so good about clearing energy,

Right?

Because I can think about somebody and I'm sending them some of my energy.

So again,

Energy,

Think about making a phone call from the United States to China or Australia.

How does that happen?

It's energy moving.

Just our thought does that.

We can send energy to people.

It's crazy,

Crazy cool,

Honestly.

So what we want to be aware of,

Though,

Is when we are in relationships with other people and we are in dialogue with them,

Let's say we're at work or let's say we're just with our family.

Think about your children that go to school and they come home after being around all these other little kids or teenagers,

Whatever it might be,

And teachers.

We're like exchanging energy cords with everybody.

So then we're coming home with much more energy in our energy field and we still have these connections with others.

So when people say,

I just need to cut ties with this person,

Why is this happening?

I want you to understand,

We want to cut cords with people,

Even people we love.

Not just the people we don't love,

Not just the people that we want to end relationships with.

We want to learn how to manage and have great hygiene with our own energy fields.

So what we want to do is in order to clear these old patterns,

It clears old patterns,

Old thoughts,

Old reactions when we're with people.

We really want to do this,

Of course,

With our family of origin.

The family of origin that we have,

We have a lot of cords that are unhealthy.

And when we cut cords,

I want you to know also,

It doesn't mean that you're ending the relationship with that person.

However,

If you have ended a relationship with someone,

It's also a good idea.

But it doesn't mean that if I cut cords with you that I hate you and I don't want you in my life anymore.

It just means I want to be in my own energy field.

I don't want your energy,

Your thoughts,

Your emotions,

Your patterns affecting me.

So,

For example,

As a therapist and a coach,

When I saw people,

Even in person or online,

Every single client that I had after the session,

I would imagine myself cutting those cords,

Even if I had a great session,

Because I don't want my client's energy to be on me and I don't want mine to be on them.

So I hope that this makes sense for everyone.

What we really want to do,

Though,

Is again,

The reason is we want to stop carrying other people's emotional baggage.

It helps to release old heartbreak.

It helps to release resentment and trauma even when we cut cords.

When we cut cords,

It actually helps us to reclaim our power and our own energy.

It keeps us really clean.

And then when we cut the cords,

We can actually move forward without looping back into old dynamics that might have been dysfunctional.

And this,

Again,

Is just a great way to clean our field after when we are in a relationship with someone that might be toxic or manipulative or codependent,

Things like this.

We just want to keep ourselves clean so we can keep ourselves in emotional balance.

You know,

I'm all about teaching people how to maintain peace.

And it really is possible when we have great energetic hygiene.

This is one of the ways,

One of the things that we can do.

So how we cut cords,

There are a number of ways that we can do that.

But if you just imagine that you've got these,

Sometimes they feel like rubber bands.

You may not feel them and that's okay,

But I can sometimes get a sense of rubber bands.

Sometimes they're as thick as a fire hose.

Sometimes they're even thicker.

It depends.

And it doesn't really matter.

But what you want to do is cut those cords.

So what you want to do is just visualize,

If you're a visual person,

Even if you're not,

Imagine scissors,

A sword,

A blowtorch,

Whatever it might be,

And you are just swiping in front of your body and cutting those cords.

But they could be attached at the top of your head,

On your back.

Just imagine,

I used to think of Edward Scissorhands,

You know,

He had all the scissors on his fingers.

So it's like,

Whoosh,

Whoosh,

You know,

And I'm going all the way around my whole energy field and cutting and dropping and just bringing myself back to the grounded center space that I want to be in.

So it's nothing dramatic,

It's nothing major,

But you're just imagining I'm cutting any cords from,

Now you can imagine the person standing in front of you.

You can imagine the person being,

Again,

If I'm in the United States and this person is in Australia,

It doesn't matter because we're energy.

Just like you can make a phone call to somebody that far away,

I'm an energy being and so are they,

Cut those cords.

You just imagine cords,

Anything in your mind is accurate.

You don't have to get this right,

You don't have to say,

Well,

I don't know what they look like.

Just imagine,

And if you close your eyes and you think about this person,

It's like,

Huh,

I do kind of feel a little something on my back.

So even if you don't though,

Whoosh,

Whoosh,

Cut.

Just imagine your fingers are scissors,

Like Edward Scissorhands,

And cut,

Cut,

Cut all around your energy field.

Take a deep breath,

Put your feet on the ground,

And notice how you feel.

Tune into your body again.

You might notice like,

Wow,

I still feel a little tug in my heart.

You might need a little something else.

So then,

Wow,

I think I'm going to imagine some scissors.

I think I'm going to imagine,

Again,

Maybe I have to take my hands and actually pull something out of my heart.

Whatever feels right for you.

Again,

We're working with energy,

We're playing with energy,

But it's a really,

Really,

Really important thing because it's almost as though people have an invisible rope kind of tugging at us when we have cords that are connected.

People even that have no ill intention toward us,

They don't mean to.

They might have attached to us,

Cut the cords.

When my mom leaves,

Like say for an example,

I love my mother.

When she leaves,

I cut the cords.

When I'm with my family,

I cut the cords.

When I'm with my children,

I cut the cords.

I don't want them having my energy on them and I don't want their energy on me.

It's just the healthy thing to do.

It doesn't mean I want the relationship to end.

I just want them to feel clean and I want myself to be able to ground and stay clean in who I am.

So that's one way to do it,

Is this physical imagining that I'm just cutting the cords.

Another thing that you can do is visualize.

So you can visualize,

Just sit quietly,

You're grounding yourself,

You just imagine again that person sitting in front of you.

You might see the cords or sense cords coming from your throat to their body or their throat or the top of your head or the back,

Whatever it might be.

You can call in light and just imagine again,

Energy follows intention.

So that light that's coming in,

That might be the thing that you need just to cut those cords and they're slicing those cords.

Again,

You just might use scissors again.

You're just visualizing all of this.

So you don't even have to move your hands,

You're just imagining my energy field is clean and clear.

Energy follows intention.

So your words are very,

Very,

Very powerful.

You can also use a prayer or an affirmation.

I release all energy ties with this person.

I release all energy ties.

Again,

If you're in a relationship with someone that is unhealthy,

Then absolutely just,

I am done with this person.

I am clearing all cords right now.

Drop them right now.

So sometimes I'll see the cords as I cut them,

They drop to the ground and they just evaporate into the ground.

Sometimes they retract into that person and mine retract into me.

Sky's the limit,

You guys.

I don't know what's going to happen for you.

Again,

Your intention is the most powerful thing.

Just cut those cords.

Whatever they look like is perfect.

You cannot get this wrong.

And again,

You can do it with people that you don't like and that you want out of your life,

But also people that you're healthy with.

You just don't want to be,

My very professional term is blobbing all over people and your energy is all over other people.

It's just not healthy.

Of course,

There's all kinds of energetic modalities,

Things like Reiki and all kinds of things like this.

You can go to different energy practitioners that can cut cords as well.

But yeah,

So these are just some really,

Really simple ways that we cut cords and this is why you cut cords.

We just want to keep ourselves clean and clear and grounded and peaceful.

I would absolutely do this if you are,

Let's say,

Leaving a crowd and you haven't even interacted with anybody because again,

Other people's energy gets on us like we talked about last week,

But it could be someone's cords are even on you.

They just sort of attach to us for whatever reason.

Someone might have looked at us and said,

Oh,

Wow,

That looks like my sister or that person's really cute or that person's makes me mad or whatever the heck it might be,

And it's you they're talking about.

So you might have some cords on you and you don't even know this person.

Cut the cords.

So in addition to clearing your energy field,

Cut cords with that person.

This is why I'm going to go ahead and attach my cutting cord meditation as a guided meditation that will walk you through exactly how to cut cords with anybody you can imagine.

So if you listen to that,

It will help you out immensely.

So the last point that I want to talk about today is about how much different we can feel when we've been carrying around resentment,

Blame,

And lack of forgiveness towards somebody after doing a cord cutting ceremony.

Because oftentimes we're dragging this thing around,

This resentment,

This blame with ourselves and that other person is literally dragging around like an anchor tied to our ankle.

And when we can cut the cord with that person,

It's a game changer.

Because what happens is it's not just about this energetic cord that gets cut,

Although that's a big thing.

But when we can cut the cords with that person,

We not only feel lighter and brighter and not so weighed down,

We also will start having a different awareness around myself and that person and the relationship and the thing that happened that I can't forgive that person for.

So it's really,

This process,

I cannot even tell you.

It shifts our energy and we feel,

You've heard people say,

I don't know,

I just feel brighter and lighter.

What the heck does brighter mean?

Let's think about that for a second.

Brighter is our energy field.

Actually the light gets turned up when we become more peaceful,

When we become happier,

When we let go of these toxic burdens that we're carrying around.

Toxic burdens can be from someone else or something we're choosing to carry around.

Resentment is ours.

No one's making us to,

No one makes us to feel,

Let me say that again,

Nobody makes us feel resentful.

Yes,

Someone out there has done something and it has hurt me and I resent that they did that.

They're not causing me to carry it around with me in the future.

I am.

And again,

I'm not inviting anyone to blame themselves,

But we do this to ourselves.

And when you cut the cord with that person that hurt you,

That offended you,

That did something not so nice to you,

Maybe really bad,

When you cut the cord,

It frees you.

You've got to cut the cord and maybe it's multiple cords.

This is when you want to close your eyes.

Imagine that person in front of you.

Again,

You're imagining that person in front of you and you're going to have a change in your emotions and in your thought processes around this person.

I promise you when you cut the cords.

It's a pretty life-changing experience when you do this.

It frees up new space within your energy field actually for better and healthier connections.

When we are attaching to someone that's not healthy in hopes that maybe they'll change or again,

I'm carrying around resentment and all of this kind of thing,

It drags us down and it doesn't give us the space to create something new or to allow that new person to walk into our life.

So do cut the cord and watch what happens.

And I have seen resentment fade away.

I have seen the ability for people to have forgiveness when they thought,

Oh,

I'm not going to forgive them.

They suddenly have a different perspective or a different awareness around what might have happened and then they can soften in their heart and then say,

You know what?

I am going to forgive.

I'm ready to move on.

Everything I ever teach is about you,

Not about the other person.

I'm not here to change anybody else.

I'm here to work with myself to become the healthiest person that I can become.

Everything that we do is about us and everyone and everything out there is just a reflection of who we are.

That's it.

So I'm keep finding that when I change,

Guess what?

The outside world starts to change.

Yeah.

So there you have it.

So enjoy this.

Really I'm telling you guys,

Do this practice daily.

It takes two seconds.

Literally,

It's like whoop,

Whoop,

Done,

Done and I have completely cut the cords.

Now if you're doing it with someone that you're carrying resentment around or lack of forgiveness or blame,

It's going to take a little bit longer to stay clean energetically and this is a fabulous way to do that.

I'll see you next week.

Reviews

Thank you Michelle 🙏

Great explanation, I especially love the Scissorhand reference. It makes cord cutting a positive thing, light instead of heavy 🌸

amazing ✨✨

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Really gave me a new way to visualize this process. Thank you 😊