Transforming with your inner child.
Notice how it's not transforming your inner child,
But it's transforming with.
You are both transforming.
Your inner child is not to blame for the issues in your life.
The inner child did its best.
It's really a joint effort of the current person that we are,
And the little one in us we used to be,
And still are in some ways.
So finding a position that's comfortable for you and allowing your breathing to slow down,
Noticing again,
Noticing sensation,
Noticing your breath,
Being aware that thoughts and feelings come and they also go,
Rising and falling,
Just as the breath rises and falls.
Picture yourself in your childhood home.
Walk around this place for a little bit,
Observing what you see here.
No one seems to be in.
This may have been a difficult place,
But something in you feels that it's great to be back,
As this much more grounded,
Mature person that you are,
Much wiser,
Much more hindsight.
So you're here.
Your breath is calm and through the nose,
And you take a few deeper breaths just to release any stagnant energy that may be present for you in this environment,
So that you can go back to the feeling of,
It's great to be here.
It's like a part of you knows there's a reason for you,
Something exciting,
Something healing,
Something transformative.
At the same time,
You're not attached to any outcomes.
You're just happy to be here,
To be exploring,
To be having a look at what this place looks like.
If it looks the way that your memories constructed,
Or if you have no memories or very little memories,
Actually seeing what this place looks like.
Your shoulders are relaxed,
Your jaw is relaxed,
Breathing is calm,
And you feel a sense of joy rippling through your body.
Joy,
Curiosity.
As you walk into one of the rooms,
You see that you're actually not alone.
There's a little child there,
About five years old,
Maybe a bit older,
Maybe a bit younger.
And this child is you.
You,
A couple of years back,
Might feel like a lifetime.
And you notice that they're really happy to see you,
Almost relieved,
With a look on their face that says,
Is everything going to be okay?
Please tell me that everything's going to be okay.
Everything's going to be okay,
Right?
Hug them and let them know that everything will be okay.
That whatever they're going through right now will pass and transform and turn you into the amazing person that you are.
As you sit here with your inner child,
Your inner child tells you,
Your younger version tells you,
About the difficult things in their life and the adaptive behaviour they're having to do.
You listen attentively and compassionately,
Because truthfully,
You already know the story.
But still,
You listen with compassion.
Really hearing their heart,
Feeling it in your body and letting it flow through you,
As it is not yours to keep.
You're simply here to give compassion.
As you are here embracing these hurt parts,
Acknowledging the difficult,
Adaptive behaviour that your younger version decided to adapt,
Thank them for being so brave and for doing what they thought and think is the right thing.
Maybe even their only option.
But regardless,
The best course of action that they know.
And notice how your inner child loves and really appreciates being seen in that way.
Finally,
Someone sees me.
Finally,
Someone gets me.
Finally,
Someone supports me.
Finally,
Someone's not criticising me or putting me down for what I'm doing.
I'm just doing my best.
What else should I be doing?
And then take some deep,
Slow breaths together with your inner child.
Maybe show them that they can place their hand on their belly and feel it rise and fall as they breathe.
You both relax,
Not pushing away the emotions and the pain,
But also not getting caught up in them.
After you've given some good space to what came up here and given your inner child a place to share and feel seen and heard,
Ask your younger version if there is anything else it would like to share with you as the space is here.
And then thank your inner child,
Hugging again if that feels right for you.
Thank your inner child for being so brave,
Open and vulnerable.
Because they know who you are,
But also you're in the process of building a strong connection and relationship.
And trust takes time.
Vulnerability is strength.
And your inner child has been so strong all these years.
And even when it became an adult,
When it became you,
Even then it kept being strong on the outside,
Even when it felt weak on the inside.
Tell your inner child that you know something that you'd like to share with them.
You can see how their eyes light up,
How they're getting excited,
Like they're about to hear a bedtime story.
The words that come through for you are crystal clear,
As if you'd written them down.
They just perfectly stream out of you.
They sound like this,
But in your own version.
Hey young one,
Did you know there's another way of dealing with hurt,
Pain and this person that we had to become to adapt to our environment?
We can actually choose to be someone else.
Yes,
There's hurt.
Yes,
There's pain.
There's all these things.
But there is a magic trick.
We can also choose to be someone else.
And we do that by feeling the feelings of how we'd feel if we are that person.
If we have that quality,
Your inner child's eyes light up with absolute amazement.
Sign me up,
Sign me up,
Sign me up,
Is what they say.
And young one,
Just to be clear,
So you remember this going forward.
This is not suppression.
This is not avoidance.
This is choosing not to stay stuck and choosing a brighter future.
So let's do this together.
Do you know that adaptive pattern,
That adaptive behaviour that we've been doing,
That's been so painful?
And that's still with me as an adult.
Do you know what that feels like,
Right?
Yeah,
Let's feel that now.
The thoughts associated with this,
The behaviours associated with this,
The emotions,
The feelings associated with this.
This is heavy.
Let's feel this for a moment,
So we know what we no longer want to feel and who we no longer want to be.
And let's choose to be someone else.
Let's think about the thoughts we would be thinking,
The feelings we would be feeling.
Let's really tune into being that person.
Let's do this together,
Young one.
Mind's eye,
Really picture yourselves tuning into this as you feel this deeply in your body.
This may be empowerment,
This may be gratitude,
This may be wholeness,
This may be confidence.
Whatever it is for you,
For the both of you,
Really feel this.
And picture yourself being that person.
Which is funny because you're picturing yourself picturing yourself.
Let this become your reality in really teaching your body what that feels like.
Letting go of that past.
There comes a point where facing the pain is helpful and important.
And there also can come a point where we're simply stuck in old identities.
You have the opportunity to choose to be someone else regardless of what the outside world looks like.
You can feel to be this person,
To then become this person.
The younger version is absolutely fascinated about this because they know the potential that this has.
Astronaut?
Oh yeah,
Whatever it is.
More peaceful,
More joyful,
More playful,
Anything goes.
And as you do this,
See yourself merge with your inner child.
You both become the same being and both of your efforts are now within you.
So everything you've been feeling is multiplied by two.
Know that you have this connection with your new at all times.
You go about your day and as you choose who you become,
Feel free to check in with the young one.
And say,
Hey,
Should we do a bit of this?
What do you think?
Let's feel this feeling to become this person.
Does that work for you?
Or do you have something else you want to input?
Then let your life be a playful unfolding of unlimited potential and joy.
See yourself coming back to the life that you currently live and see yourself being this person.
This new person that embodies these qualities.
And once more,
Feel it in your body what it feels like to embody these qualities and see yourself living your life as this person.
Before you do this,
With a clear connection to your inner child.
Take in three more deep breaths,
Slowly coming back into the environment that you're in.
Bring your awareness back into your body,
Into your feet,
Into your hips,
Left arm,
Chest,
Neck and your throat,
Jaw,
Face.
Feel that slight tingling in your entire body that says,
I'm here.
I am ready for life.
A beautiful day or night.
