Mirror work is a very powerful exercise to help you learn and increase how to love yourself.
For this exercise,
You are going to need a mirror so that you can see yourself reflected.
If you don't have one handy,
You can also use a selfie camera.
When you stand in front of a mirror,
The mirror reflects back to you the feelings you have about yourself.
You become aware very quickly of the thoughts you need to change,
The negative self-talk,
The self-criticism,
And any other beliefs you may have about yourself.
As you learn mirror work,
You will notice the words you say and the things you do to yourself.
You will learn what feels good,
And when you will learn how to love yourself and connect with yourself on a deeper level.
For some,
It may be difficult to sit in front of a mirror and face ourselves for more than a few seconds.
This is normal,
And it's a part of this work.
Being open to accepting and embracing whatever comes up for us while looking at ourselves in the mirror can be very helpful to learn how to practice self-care and self-love.
The more you do it,
The less self-critical you become.
Very soon,
You will see a dear friend instead of an enemy in that mirror.
Mirror work can be combined with affirmations.
The most powerful affirmations are those you say out loud when you are in front of your mirror.
You can also just have a chat with yourself.
Celebrate the small and big wins,
Be grateful for what you have,
And acknowledge any negative self-talk or challenges that you may observe and tell yourself that it's okay.
We will figure it out.
You will find a way to change this.
If it's here,
It's because I need to learn something from it.
Let's explore why this is coming up and then release it with love and compassion.
Let's say thank you for serving me,
For protecting me.
I no longer need you in my life.
You can now go and be free.
Doing mirror work is one of the most loving gifts you can give yourself.
It takes only a second to say,
Hi love,
Or looking good today,
Or isn't this fun?
It's so important to change our negative self-talk for little positive messages throughout the day.
The more you use mirrors for complimenting yourself,
Approving of yourself,
And supporting yourself during difficult times,
The deeper and more enjoyable your relationship with yourself will become.
Let's do a simple practice now.
Please stand in front of the mirror and look at yourself.
Simply stare at yourself.
Hold eye contact.
Look at your hair,
Forehead,
Ears,
Nose,
Eyes,
Mouth,
Cheeks,
Eyes,
Chin.
Breath in and out.
Watch how your face changes.
Smile.
Open your mouth.
Close your mouth.
Show your teeth.
Make a funny face.
Make a silly face.
Make a sad face.
How do you feel?
Just notice what's coming up for you.
Feel free to have pen and paper handy and write down any insights that may come up for you.
Things you may want to work on,
Any negative self-talk you may notice,
Any criticism,
Tension,
Any joy and happiness.
Everything is welcome here.
Now I want you to talk to yourself.
I want you to look at yourself in the mirror and I want you to say,
Hi,
Name,
Like,
Hi,
Emilio.
How are you today?
I like the way you look.
I am happy to see you.
Tell yourself something you like,
Like,
Emilio,
I like your hair.
Emilio,
I like your willingness to look at yourself in this mirror.
Emilio,
I like the way you smile.
Just say whatever comes to mind.
Say whatever you see in that mirror.
You can also think about things that you are grateful for and tell yourself,
Emilio,
I am grateful for being healthy.
Emilio,
I am grateful for taking time to practice self-care.
I am grateful to be able to be leading this course.
I am grateful for the air I'm breathing.
Emilio,
I am grateful for being alive.
Just allow some time and tell yourself things.
Just keep telling yourself whatever comes to mind and just notice how you feel.
Notice what you feel,
What's coming up for you.
Now think of challenges you may be facing and tell yourself everything is okay.
Like,
Emilio,
It's okay that you feel sad and frustrated when your daughter Eva rejects you and pushes you away.
It's normal to feel that way and you have to learn how to cope with these feelings.
You are learning and you are becoming better every day.
She loves you and this is temporary.
You will find a way to remain calm and patient and you deserve to take a break and time off when you need it.
This is just one example of a challenge that I'm currently facing.
So take your time.
Think about a challenge that you are facing right now.
Think about something that happened recently that you would like to work through and just talk to yourself.
Tell yourself it's going to be okay.
Just reflect about how you felt,
What you would like to change,
How you would like to feel and you can make like an affirmation that will help you become more calm,
More motivated to change,
Less stressed.
Take as much time as you need to do this exercise.
Feel free to pause this anytime you need it,
Anytime you have more things to tell yourself.
Just pause and come back whenever you are ready.
While doing this mirror work exercise,
This is also a great time to look at your list of things that you brought down and work through them.
You can read one by one all those things out loud while you are looking at yourself in the mirror and you can talk to yourself about those things.
You can talk to yourself about how you felt,
What you would like to change,
Different approaches that you can take next time the same situation repeats.
Just let it flow.
Sometimes you may not be able to even say the things that you want and that's okay.
Just stay there.
Keep looking into the mirror.
Just notice how you feel.
Let your feelings flow through you.
Don't block them.
Don't be afraid of them.
Everything is welcome here.
They are here for a reason.
Cry if you have to,
Scream if you have to,
Hug a pillow if you have to,
Punch the pillow if you have to.
Allow yourself to do whatever you feel you have to do.
This is all about you.
Please don't involve other people.
Don't scream at others and don't punch others.
We are doing self-work.
We are only working with the things that we have full control over,
Ourselves and our emotions.
Keep looking at the mirror and when you feel complete,
You can stop.
When you don't feel comfortable doing this mirror work,
I will encourage you to push yourself a little bit,
At least stand in front of the mirror even for a few seconds.
I promise you that over time,
You will increase the time and you will increase your tolerance.
You will start feeling more comfortable and you may even feel encouraged to talk to yourself and to do the full practice.
There is no right or wrong way of doing this.
We all have different paces.
We all have different needs.
So it's normal if you feel uncomfortable.
You may feel awkward,
Unsettled,
Embarrassed or emotional.
You might be even notice patterns of self-loathing and self-criticism arise,
But don't be afraid.
Don't believe what you hear.
You are shining the light on your old habits and limiting beliefs that no longer serve you.
They are still there,
But now you are ready to change and you are ready to let them go.
You are ready to look at them with compassion,
Accept them,
Understand them,
Embrace them and let them go with love and gratefulness.
In some form,
They did serve you in the past.
This mirror work allows you to access the inner layers of your being and remove the blocks that are preventing you from growing and evolving.
The more emotions you experience,
The more a sacred kind of purging and transformation is happening.
At any point in this practice,
I invite you to give yourself a hug if that feels good to you.
Giving yourself a hug can help you feel safe and secure.
You can also place your hand on your heart or any other body part that feels right to you in the moment.
Your own touch can help promote relaxation and can help relieve some of your tension and stress.
You can also hug a pillow if that feels better to you.
And don't forget to talk to yourself while you hug yourself or while you are touching any part of your body or hugging the pillow.
Some ideas of things that you can tell yourself are,
You will make it through this,
This won't last forever,
You've got this,
I am so proud of you,
You are so strong,
You are doing the best you can,
I love you the way you are.
Today we have done a lot of self love work.
I am so proud of you for pushing your limits and being willing to shine the light inside of yourself.
Being aware of your own negative self-talk,
Criticism and limiting beliefs is not easy or comfortable.
For that I honor you and I celebrate your commitment to accepting and loving yourself more and more every day.
If you liked this content,
Then you will love my self-care course where you will learn more practices like this one.
I invite you to join and I cannot wait to see you inside.
Adios.
