The Ultimate Self-Compassion Hack For Difficult People

In this talk, we explore a counterintuitive way to work with difficult people: offering the energy of love instead of irritation. We look at how setting a healthy distance, while quietly wishing others well, can protect our peace, release inner tension, and keep our hearts steady and open.

Transcript

I'm going to give you a totally shocking way to deal with people who are difficult.

So if someone is annoying,

If someone is irritating you,

If someone is manipulating you,

If someone is nagging at you,

Say this phrase,

I'm going to give you only the energy of love.

Totally counterintuitive.

But use energy when you give them the energy of irritation,

Or like demanding something from them or being unhappy with them or blaming with them.

If you say I'm only going to give you the energy of love,

You'll feel better.

With people like that,

My advice is create the most distance you possibly can.

If it's a relative who you see once a year,

Instead of seeing them once a year,

Send them flowers if you still need to be respectful.

If it's people at work,

Try to not work with them.

So create distance to protect yourself if it's someone taking your energy.

But imagine them and imagine sending them love.

Imagine sending them warmth.

Imagine sending them every good thing.

Imagine them happy.

And you'll see that tension,

That energy leaving you because of annoyance leave you.

Let me know how it goes.