The Most Important Truth About Love

In this talk, we explore how love is rooted in safety and presence. When you are truly cared for, your inner world is held with respect. There is no deep inner pain in what is real. Where there is genuine care, there is no betrayal.

Transcript

This is the most important thing you'll ever hear about love.

The difference between love and other things like manipulation is that in love,

With love,

You don't feel inner pain.

Love is not emotionally painful.

If it's painful,

That's something other than love,

Like manipulation.

So let me explain.

Someone can do something very stupid.

For example,

People do stupid things all the time.

But when a person loves you,

You'll feel safe.

And while you feel safe,

You won't have inner pain.

So there's a lot of things we call love with romantic partners,

With parents,

With other people,

And we call it love.

Do a check.

You know if you're in pain.

If you are in pain,

It's just something being called love.

It's not love.

When you love someone,

The first question is,

Are you okay?

The first concern is how are you feeling in this?

Are you okay?

And if that's someone's attitude to you,

If they love you,

They'll care about your safety and how you're doing.

And if they don't,

Then that is not love.

It's something called love.

We're calling love for a specific purpose.

So be very clear about where love is in your life,

Where you feel safe,

And where love is not.

And create more distance in those places where love is not.