Learn To Move On From The Unacceptable In Life - Live 3/18

Death. Divorce. Illness. Accidents. Addiction. These things are a fact of life, happening to ourselves and others. They are, in a way, unacceptable. But they are. They happen. And attempting to reject them and what they mean for us only hurts us more deeply. In this class we discuss what is it we're truly unwilling to accept and how to choose to move on.

Transcript

Today is going to be an interesting one. And it was a bit of a surprise. But of all the classes that I've done in the past few months, I managed to get like 12 recorded and put them up. And the most popular one by far was titled this, Accepting the Unacceptable and Moving On. And what we ended up talking about was learning how to handle the big. . . The word that comes to mind, And I think it's fairly accurate, Is the big violations in life. The things that cross the lines of what we consider are acceptable. The things that are completely out of our control or feel out of control or were out of control in the moment and that they hurt. Things like death. Things like surprise, Divorce, And breakups. Things like accidents that change everything for us or for others around us. And there are things that are truly tough to swallow. And I know that, And most of you who have been around a while know that the original version of this class came up because I was walking with my dog of 12 years, Katerina and I, On a street in Baja. And all of a sudden he walked a little into the street and we went to call him back and someone went around traffic and ran him over and killed him. And that was truly unacceptable. And we have spent the last few months. . . Recovering isn't the right word. It's more integrating that. It's more exactly what the title of this class is. Accepting the unacceptable and moving on. And that's what we want to practice today and talk about. And I'd love to have the questions that show up because in those past few months a lot of things have shown up. And a lot of people have given some really good advice. And a lot of people have given not bad advice but bad responses. Not the things that I was looking for. So today I'm hoping to do a grounding to settle in. A talk. And I do want to be clear, As always, That this talk is defined based on what people put in. What people find most applicable and most helpful for them. Because this talk can go in a lot of different directions. It can be about accepting that we don't have control of other people's behavior. It can be about how we overcome the death of our partner. How we overcome someone who took their own life. How we overcome the things that are truly not acceptable. We can't accept and move on. They change our worldview. They rock our world. They are things in which we can live with, We can learn from, And we can develop a new life. But we never really move away from as if they never happened. We just keep moving. So during the grounding, And as we head into the talk, Please, Whether this is your first time or your hundredth time, Put in what situation you would most like to accept and move on from. Or what question you have about it. Because the class will be determined based on what people put in. Leading into the meditation, Based on what we see is most alive in the group that we want to work through. So with that, Let's go ahead. Thanks, Karma. And settle in to a grounding. If you can find a comfortable position for you. Go ahead and close your eyes. Take a deep, Deep breath. Let it out with a sigh. Take another deep, Deep breath. Breathe it out as if you're breathing through a straw. And one more. Take another deep, Deep breath. Just letting it out as slowly as you can. And in this grounding, We're just going to remind ourselves what's truly here in the present moment. So, Take a moment and feel around your body. Just as if you were a child discovering you were having a body for the first time. See what stands out. See what's standing and sending the strongest sensations. Whether they be pressure, Pain, Or tension. Or the subtle, Subtle ones. Where it takes you a moment to even remember that you have a shin. Because in this moment, There are literally millions upon millions of sensations that it is possible to bring our attention to and experience. And also in this moment, We have a heartbeat that is simply every beat going and going and going. It's here for a moment and gone. We only get that one single chance to experience it, To feel it. And similarly, You have thoughts arising and disappearing. If we don't grasp on them and grow with them and start to tell stories with them, They come and they go, Arise and disappear. That's all we truly have in the present. Everything else is carried forward from the past or projected towards the future. And if the past holds something that we're ready to accept, Even if it was unacceptable, We're going to have to start carrying it into what happens in this moment. So with that, Let's go ahead. Start to wiggle our fingers and our toes to yawn and to stretch. And when we feel ready, Go ahead and open your eyes. So first off, As a side note, Can you hear through the microphone the almost lullaby music that is coming from the construction site across the street, Which has broken all my expectations of music that I would hear. But if you can hear it, Let me know and we'll try our pods because they tend to block it out, Even if they're lower quality. But if we can't hear it, Very faintly. Okay. Sounds like a wind chime. It is, It does. As my brother is a millwright working on large machinery and I can about guarantee you, If I sent this saying that this was on a blue collar job site, That he would say that something is wrong here. But it's very sweet. If it changes, We'll make a change. Oh, The birds, Yeah. Yeah, We're outside of a really beautiful park with some really wonderful birds. But if at any point, Those of you who are staying, If it gets a bit loud or starts to interfere, The music changes, We'll switch. But for those of you who joined a little later, I just want to remind, What we're doing today is talking about accepting the unacceptable and moving on. And so let's define the unacceptable based on what people have already put in. So, B said, I have to accept that my husband sees retirement very differently than I do. He's attached to material things and a big house and I am not and would rather travel. And that's hard, B. And I'm not providing advice here. This is my story. I left a relationship, God, About five years ago with someone who always said they wanted to travel with me. But five years in, I realized they were more attached to security, Stability, And ongoing community than travel. And now I've been traveling with my partner for three and a half, Four years, Currently in a van. So I understand the disconnect. And Trish, How unhappy mentally my late husband was in our marriage that he had to lean on Bud Light instead of me. Yeah. And relationship with siblings. Let's get specific, Because I saw a relationship with siblings with both Kat and Karma, But I want to hear what is the thing that I cannot accept? Because when we look at this, My relationship with my siblings could be awful, But there's something specifically that it's hard to accept. For instance, My brother was a severe, Severe, Severe addict in his teenage years, In and out of rehab, In psych wards. And during that period, And talking to my mother now, And I was older, I was in college through most of it, But my mother, Of course, Was home with him. And what she would talk about is the truly unacceptable thing, Is the loss of control in not knowing whether he was going to survive. The truly unacceptable thing, Just using this as an example for people to really say, What is the thing that I currently cannot accept, Is that every moment that she would talk with him, You always had that feeling, Like maybe if I screw this up in this moment, I may not have my son tomorrow. That's the part, The specifically unacceptable. And the closer that we can get to that, The more that we can work on it. Because if it's even just going again with karma, If it's that they yell at me, Is that the part that I cannot accept? Or is it that I really want to have a connection with them, And it hurts, And I have to let them go? Or that I don't feel good around them? And what is the part, Because I see this all the time in all situations, There's always something that I cannot accept. For instance, When we look at our dog who got hit, It's almost, We've realized in our conversations for Katarina and I, That there's a different thing that we each cannot accept. For her, She's always so afraid of making a mistake. And it's the, I have made a mistake, And we didn't protect him, And there's nothing we can do. And it's that feeling. That's the feeling that's the hardest. And for me, It's that I didn't really get to say goodbye. It wasn't supposed to happen that way. Because even in the roughest moments, Our dog wasn't in pain. He was walking with us and dead 10 seconds later. And I was prepared. I've had, He was older, I've had a lot of dogs in my life, And I've watched them die. So it's not death. And I'm using these as examples that I could not accept. It was that it came out of nowhere. It was that it was a violation of life. If my dog had slowly died, I can accept that. If my dog had gotten a disease and I had to put him down, I've done that before. But to be walking and to have an accident and to have someone run over my dog, That, The living in a universe where that can happen, That's the scary part. That's the part that I could not accept. So the getting closer and closer and closer to what is the actual thing, Because everyone, And I'm so grateful for everyone so far, Has put in these situations that happen to all of us. And I want everybody to start getting clearer on what is the thing that I'm currently struggling to accept. And I want to be very clear because I am, I don't want to use a kind of therapy-speak word, But we're not going to shun grief. We're not going to bypass grief if what we're describing is new. And new can be a long time, Depending on what happened. As in, Let's say any time less than a year, Then we're still grieving, And that's okay. If you lost your husband or your partner or your sister a year ago or a month ago or a week ago, And you've joined this call, That's fine. You're welcome here. But in no way, Shape, Or form do I want you to think that you have to accept it and move on. There are stages of grief. Just because love is gone doesn't mean it disappears. But if it's been months, Years, Five years, And you've felt through, But there's still things we're holding on to. That's where the accepting the unacceptable and moving on comes in. That's where we look, And I'm going down through. So EMP, Husband's betrayal and the overwhelming sense of responsibility to care of aging parents who take advantage of me. If it's a wound that's crested over but still festering beneath, We want to get clear. What is the thing that I cannot accept? Because those are horrible situations. But what we cannot accept is different for each person. For instance, Someone might be in your position saying, The thing that I absolutely cannot accept is I gave my husband my everything, And he still left, Which feels like a rejection of you. Or a very different person could say, The thing that hurts the most is that I didn't expect it. I was so trusting, And it came out of nowhere. And it's that sense of violation that I thought I'd be able to predict this. I thought it'd be in my control. It also could be someone who lost their husband, Their partner, Their siblings, And the thing they cannot accept is simply that they're no longer there and that they're still alive, That life keeps moving on, But they don't want it to. They don't want to have the life without them, And they're still grasping because they want back what's impossible to have back. Those are different. And so in each of these that people have put in, I'm going to scroll down, I want to invite you to start thinking, What is the thing that I'm still holding on to? Because, For instance, One of the things that was the hardest to overcome when our dog Dobby died was we had a vision for how our life was going to go with him. This trip in the van was his farewell tour, And we were in a van because of him. There's a lot of inconveniences to van life. I mean, I had wind chimes behind me for 20 minutes in a construction site, And it's harder to work with things. There's benefits for sure, But we were here because of him, And we had to redefine our life, What we wanted to do. Everything was up for question. Everything was up for grabs, And we missed the story that we were going to take him literally across the world. We're in Latin America. We're going to ship the van to Europe and cross over to Asia and figure out which passed first. He was an older dog, The van or Dobby, And that was a story that can no longer happen, And mourning that story was really hard to accept. So we're looking, And I'm going down through each, And I'm so glad that each person put, But I want us to start asking, What is the thing that we can't accept? Because what we can't accept is rarely a situation because the situation happened. It already happened. So when I look at Roseanne, I'm so sorry. Roseanne said a 15-year brutally abusive marriage, That I'm having a hard time getting fast, And there is lasting physical damage. That hurts. That's awful. And when we say we have a hard time getting past, When we're honest with ourselves, There's something, Something specific or multiple things specific that we cannot accept because obviously we can accept there's physical damage. There is. We're living with it every day. We can accept that they were brutally abusive. We already did, And we left. But there's something, And that's different for each person. So I can give examples, But I'm not telling anybody what it is. It's, I cannot accept how long that I kept hoping that it would change, And the person that I allowed myself to become during it, And I can't accept that because I'm not sure I can trust myself in love again because of how badly I betrayed myself before. That's something that I may not be able to accept. Long after the marriage is over, The scars are here. Those are happening. But there's a story. There's a something that is unacceptable. Does that make sense to everyone? And I know this is hard, And often it feels like we've hit a red-hot poker inside of ourselves when we see that thing. But if we've been ruminating on and grieving over and piecing through this for years, There's something specific, A story, Or a truth, Or an emotion that we can't accept yet. And so, For instance, Ashley, And I'm so sorry, Ashley said my husband of 22 years left me suddenly for a relationship with my brother's wife. Yeah. In these situations on their surface, They're hard. Everyone can understand why it would be hard to accept. But, And, If we want to accept enough to move on, We want to figure out specifically the thing that we're still going on to because, Again, In that situation, Sometimes it's, I didn't see it coming. Sometimes it's, I gave this person so much and it wasn't enough. Sometimes it's, I allowed our relationship to be, To fall apart and to get angrier. I mean, I know, Just because this is important for some people to hear, In my last relationship, We knew that we didn't want the same things, Probably a year into a five-year relationship. But neither of us was willing to admit it. And instead, We just got worse and worse and worse and worse in the codependent cycle and in the anxious avoidance cycle, And we were not great. And I'm sure my ex is sitting there some days saying, Why did I allow myself to be criticized so much? And I'm sitting here being like, Why did I allow myself to stay to the point of such resentment that I was bitter and resentful? Why did I allow myself to do that? And when I started my relationship with Katerina, My girlfriend, There were moments where I told her, I'm like, My deepest fear is that I fall back into being the person that I was in that relationship. And that's why I want to do the work, Accepting that there were moments and times in which I was really mean. I was really hurtful. I think someone has left a phone in here, And I'm going to quick grab it. Continuing with that, Each of these, Because we all have one, We all have something, If you're on this call and stayed on this call, That we're struggling to accept. But it's never the situation. That's the thing that I want to get across one more time. The situation happened. We couldn't stop it. It's already there. We've accepted it because we kept living. We kept going. We might not have wanted to. We might not have enjoyed it, But we stayed. We stayed alive, And we kept going. So we've already accepted that the situation happened. But there's a story about it that we couldn't accept. For instance, When I looked at my dog dying and getting hit, The thing that was the hardest for me to accept was that I wanted to believe somewhere deep down in this kind of new age concept that if you do everything right, If you're kind and considerate and optimistic in this, These kind of things don't happen. It's that law of attraction type idea that maybe, Maybe, If everything happens and I do all the right things, Then I won't have to face the things that happen, The hard parts of life, The accidents, The surprises, The deaths, The illnesses. I'll be able to ward them away. And to accept that out of nowhere an accident can happen that changes my life in an instant and takes away someone I love, That, Because I was prepared for my dog. He was older. I didn't want him to go then. But that was the thing that I could not accept for the longest time, That I lived in a world that could shock me out in a way that I was totally unprepared for and unexpect, And that I would have to deal with it, And that I wouldn't know how. And that might resonate with some people on this call because similar, When I see these people saying that their husband had an affair or left, Sometimes it is simply that. It is I couldn't accept that I did my best and that life chose a different path. Life has knocked me off my seat. Life gave me a surprise. So I'd love, We have a couple more minutes before we want to meditate on this. And if anybody has any questions or is saying, I'm not really sure I know how or what's going on, Please let me know now because I just really wanted to get across that in order to move on, We have to figure out what we're unwilling to accept. And if we haven't accepted it for a long time, The hardest thing to hear is that it's true. It happened. I can't, Like someone used to say, You can have an argument with reality, But you're never going to win. Life has already proved to me that accidents can throw me off my feet. Life has already proved, As karma had put in, That I can want love and support from others who are family and not receive it no matter how hard I try. Johnny has already seen the evidence that my body can be impaired by the mistakes of someone I trusted. Megan and Roseanne have already seen that marriage doesn't necessarily happen as we expected. Same with Ashley. And that someone we love and poured our heart into can disappear without our expectations. These things happen. We live in a world where this can happen, That it's unsettling and it's scary and it's unsure, But pretending that it doesn't or that it don't or that I can somehow magically avoid it only leads to delusions and pain, As hurtful as it is. So I'm going to try to catch a couple more people in there that I missed. Because, For instance, Kathleen said, My wife dying at 69, But I'm living the best life I can. I'm grateful for the time we did have. Yep. In a way, That's accepting. Because if you live long enough, And your partner does too, For one of you, It's going to happen first. And if we can accept that, That's great. And that's one of the things. First and foremost, We have to accept death because death happens. But Genevieve said, I have to accept a major mistake I had made six years ago with losses in all domains. And I can't forgive myself. We make mistakes. We make big mistakes. But we want to look and say, Because six years ago now means there's something that I cannot accept. And it's deeper. So when we look and say, For instance, On that mistake, It may be I'm unwilling to accept that when I let my anger out, My entire life could blow up in a day. So now I'm so afraid of expressing myself that this or I'm so afraid because I trusted my heart and it didn't work out the way that I would have expected and life could change and I've learned not to trust my heart. Each time we're looking and we're saying, What is the thing that I'm unwilling to accept yet? Coming to accept as POA and now executor. Yeah, Jess. And it's hard. And I'm going to read Cat and then we'll dive into a meditation. I cannot accept that I put years of care, Worry and physical time into supporting my sibling, Including putting my own physical, Mental and financial wellbeing in jeopardy to do so. Only to have my actions minimized, Not appreciated. And at the end of the day, Being accused of theft, Which obviously did not occur. I find it difficult to accept that even with all the work I did, Cleaning for 50 hours to undo a near hoarder situation, Type situation with bugs, Mold and mouse feces, I still wasn't able to make the environment completely safe nor get them to acknowledge that the environment was unsafe to begin with. Yeah. Sometimes it's simply, I cannot accept that I did everything I could and it didn't work. I couldn't save it. I couldn't have the relationship that I wanted. I couldn't make them love me. I couldn't break through. I couldn't get the care that I was looking for. You may have tried for those of you whose partners left or cheated, Had an affair. Sometimes it's simply, I couldn't accept that I trusted so deeply and it didn't work. I was betrayed anyway. But these things all happened and they do happen. And in order to truly move on, We have to accept that they're possible and make a choice because sometimes the worst pain we're putting in ourselves through is saying, I can never accept that someone that I loved deeply could cheat. But if you cannot accept that, Then you can't make a new choice of whether to forgive or to leave or to trust again. Or I cannot accept that I can love someone wholeheartedly and they can fall out of love with me. But if you cannot accept that, You cannot make the decision to say, I'm going to love no matter what happens because I love for me, Within me. Not as a result. If you cannot accept that death happens, Then you lose the opportunity to cherish every moment and to accept with good grace all of the things that come along with aging. If you cannot accept that accidents happen, And often I see this, It was the older generations and the generations that have just passed that saw a lot more accidents. We've actually reduced deaths by accidents by like 80, 90% in the modern world. So it was the generation, The silent generation, That knew what it was like to have seven children and four survive. To die of, To have multiple children in the village all at once die of measles or whooping cough. But now we look, And if we can accept these things, Then we can live our life more fully. But until we can accept that core thing, I can love you, And you won't love me back. Or I can love you, And we can fall out of love. I can trust you, And you can break my trust. I can try my best, And it still won't work. I can care and give my everything, And you won't change. Or I'm going to love you, And eventually you're going to die. Or I'm going to love you, And you're going to get sick and pass in a way that wasn't planned, Wasn't expected, And I wasn't prepared for. Or too soon, Or too early, And eventually you're going to be gone. Or I can do everything right. I can even share, My mother has three siblings, And the oldest one was by far the healthiest. He was, At the age he passed, He was 66, I think, And he could outrun me and out-bike me, And I am a young athlete. And he lived a long, Fulfilling career and had three children. And he was biking around a roundabout when a truck got too close, And he hit the curb, Flipped, Hit his head, And never woke up. These things happen. And if we reject it, We lose the opportunity to remember that these things happen, That they hurt. Nobody says they don't hurt, But they give us a new possibility to look at life once we've fully accepted it and don't resist what's always possible. So, If everyone who's still here has something you're ready to work through, You're ready to look through, Ready to accept, Let's go ahead and do what might be more of a prayer than a meditation this time. I'm going to grab a drink of water, If everybody can find a place they feel comfortable. And when you feel ready, Go ahead and close your eyes. Take a deep breath. Let it out with a sigh. And start to simply pay attention to your breathing for the next minute. To get into our space, Into our body, With as much clarity as you can, Even if you have to use an example that I stated. Say, Give me the courage to accept the thing that I have not been able to accept, Filling in your own words. You can say it in your mind or out loud. So, For instance, Give me the courage to accept that accidents may happen that change my life forever, And in the end, They are outside my control. And you can say, I want the ability to accept that I can love deeply and thoroughly and have that love not be returned, Or that I can care with all my heart and not have it be returned. Somewhere, Somehow, You know the thing that you're unable to accept is already true, And you know it to be true. But you don't want to live in a world where it's possible, And not just possible, It's happened to you. But as you let that sink in, I want you to say your own version of these words. It's true. It's true. It can happen. It did happen. It can happen. I didn't want it to happen, But it did. And it hurts. It hurts. It hurts more than I thought that I could bear. It already happened. It happens. And it did happen to me. And it may even still be happening. I'm saying, I'm ready to accept that that is true. Because pretending it didn't happen, Or that it can't happen, Or refusing to accept the truth has done nothing but keep me locked in suffering, Rejecting the truth of my own eyes and my own experience. And it's okay to admit that if you had a magic wand and could turn back time, You would. I would. But I also don't have that, And neither do you. The world moves forward, Moment by moment, Without our permission. And the world doesn't always act the way that we want it, And in fact it didn't, In a violation of everything that we wanted or looked for. I'm ready to accept the truth, Because nothing was served by rejecting it, Only more pain and more suffering. And I ask the question, When I accept that this is true, What do I want to do differently from this moment forward? And it's easy to say, I'm going to try to prevent myself from ever experiencing it again. But in this moment of truth, I want to ask the cost. Would you really starve yourself of love for risking losing it? Would you really prevent yourself from companionship? To never have it lost? Would you really never trust again, So that no one could ever break your trust? Would you really never try for fear of making a mistake? Because chances are, In some way, You've already been living that life, If you have not accepted the truth of what happened. And you know what it feels like. And that's been the battle within you that led you to show up today. The part of you that cannot accept it, Or did not accept it. And the part of you who sees how life has gotten dimmer for the inability to do so. So wherever you are in this moment, Say the words to yourself. Give yourself permission to both accept what was already true, Rejecting it didn't change its truth. And make a decision for what yourself, What you're going to do, Based on that information. Decide for you what you're ready to do differently. And it varies. If the wound is still new, It might just be, I'm going to fully accept that they're gone, And allow myself to grieve and feel the loneliness. Or it might be, I'll accept that it happened, And allow myself to be raging, Angry, And furious. I'll accept that things are outside of my control, For better and for worse. And I'll start accepting some grace or recognition. Maybe that'll even take the pressure off that I'm not in control around here. And when you're ready, You've said what needs to be said. Because as always, You're welcome to mute or pause and stay in this space as long as you need to die. But for us, We're going to go ahead and wiggle our fingers, Our toes. Give ourselves permission to yawn or stretch. And when we are ready, Go ahead and open our eyes. Thank you, Everyone. Thank you for joining today. I'm really grateful for all of you who took the first step to share your story in the chat, And those of you who stayed. It's really, Really easy to want to stay in the nice things, The good things, Or the imagining of a better future or that it'll never happen again. But life isn't always easy. And some things are guaranteed. Death, Accidents, Illness, Surprises, Love and loss, Mistakes. These are all a given. And you're not really experiencing a life if you don't have them. So learning to accept them as they arise, So that we can still enjoy every bit of our wonderful life. That's exactly what we need to do. And I know it's hard. I know deeply, Intensely how hard it is to accept when life rocks it. Both on the long term things like karma. It took me a long, Long time to accept that I was not in control. There was nothing I could do besides be supportive in the long term pattern of, For instance, My brother's addiction. And it took me a long, Long time to fully overcome the shock of something like my husband's affair when my dog was taken away from me in a moment. These things aren't meant to be easy. But they are. They are. And I'm not asking us, Anyone on this call, To like them. I'm not asking you to be happy. I'm not asking you to move away and say, Ah, Well everything's fine now. No. But I am asking us to accept that they are, That they do, And that they have. That they're here, That they happened, And that they happened to you, And they may even still be happening. Because once we accept that, We can make choices. But until we accept it, Then we're stuck trying to keep from moving on from something that already happened and we cannot change. I don't know if I have an acceptance track. We have the record. Oh, There is the recorded one, Lisa, Of this that was a very different theme on the same topic. But Insight Timer won't let me put up a card for free, A track, So you can find it. And I have been putting more that will hopefully be accepted soon. Eventually I'll start recording video, But it's a hassle. But with that, Announcements. If you're new and would like to follow, I'd love to see you again. I love the little tribe we're building here. And if you've been around and feel called to donate, It's always accepted. And you're always welcome. The last bit is if there's something that you want to see more of, A class they haven't seen in a while or a new thing that you want to discuss, Please put them in. Because in the next minute or two, I kind of get going. But I take copies of the chat and use it to come up with new classes, New things that people want to discuss, And to improve what I talk about based on the questions that people put in. So I'll leave it open for a minute in case someone has something that they'd like to put in or discuss. But if not, I just appreciate all of you for joining. And it's nice to see everyone's faces, New and old. I always like doing a new topic because we capture a couple new people. And for those of you who put in a message. Thank you. And those of you who didn't, Especially new people. I just want to call out and say I see you. I can at least see your profile picture and say, If you felt called to be here and stay through a class on accepting the unacceptable and moving on. I know enough about you to know that something happened, And if you weren't here at the beginning I liked the phrasing, Something violated your sense of life. And what was okay. Something so deep and so hard. That's been hard to accept, Even if we know it's already true. I see you. And thank you for being here. Because as Roseanne said, You said it beautifully. Today I see that the rejection itself is painful. Yes. The rejection itself hurts. Because to sit in life while trying to reject it, While being deeply aware there's nothing we can do to overwrite that it's here. It hurts. It hurts so badly. I'm sure most of us have heard this phrase at least once, But it's true. The truth. First, The truth will piss you off. Then it will set you free. Truth doesn't have to be easy. It doesn't have to be nice. It'll piss you off. But then it will set you free. So, I'm going to go ahead and copy the chat. But then. . . I love you all. I appreciate you all. And we'll have one more class this week, Tomorrow. Same time. Hope to see you there.