Submission Vs Surrender

Submission and surrender are far from the same. When we understand the difference between the two, we understand how to stand in an empowered space rather than a disempowered space. Join Alara Sage for this very powerful discussion and transmission. This is a recording of a live event.

Transcript

So what I want to talk with you guys today is about submission versus surrender.

And this is very much about the feminine and excuse me,

I've had a shift in my throat chakra this morning.

So bear with me,

Please.

And the beautiful truth of the true union,

The true relationship between the feminine and the masculine,

Both within ourselves and externally.

So just take a nice deep breath here in through the nose,

Out through the mouth.

And I invite you to be fully present here now with me,

Because this conversation is deep for humanity.

We all seek union.

We seek that connection.

We seek that intimacy.

We seek to be seen.

We seek to be understood.

We seek to be loved.

We seek to feel supported in our endeavors,

Supported in who we innately are.

This is the foundation of seeking,

Of the seeking,

Of being spiritual seeker that you all are for you are here now.

What you seek is divine union in yourself and therefore outside as within,

So without,

As above,

So below.

Today,

I want to talk about submission versus surrender,

Because we don't understand the difference between these two.

Largely,

You are working in a space of submission.

So just take a breath with that.

You don't have to understand it.

I will explain,

But I invite you into the space of awareness of it,

Because awareness is the first step in transformation.

If you choose to deny it,

You choose to deny it,

Which doesn't create transformation in yourself.

I always suggest invitation.

One of the most powerful things I learned in my own space was the strength of my denial.

Somebody would say something,

I'd be like,

No,

I don't have that.

That's not me.

Meanwhile,

I usually did.

We resist our pain and our trauma.

So I always invite to be invitational about it,

Because what do you have to lose?

If you truly aren't that,

You have nothing to lose.

But if you are in denial,

That it even exists in your space,

Then you have everything,

My love,

To gain,

Everything to gain.

Okay?

So I invite you right now to take a deep breath in the word submission,

Especially as a woman.

And I want you to feel the fullness of this word and the different ways in which this has shown up for women in our society.

And if you are a man,

Say,

Perhaps ways that it has shown up for you.

The feminine within us all has been in a state of submission,

Not surrender.

So what is the difference between these two?

Oh,

I get bliss lit.

Oh,

I get bliss lit,

My loves.

Orgasmic energy running through my body.

When I speak truth,

I bring this orgasmic energy to you.

I bring this bliss to you,

My love.

I bring these truths to you.

And I ask you to receive them.

Invite yourself to fully receive,

Not just the words,

The vibrations,

The vibrations that are available here now.

Breathe into your body and invite it into your space.

The empowered,

Surrendered feminine versus the disempowered,

Submissive feminine.

Again,

Within us all,

I'm not speaking solely of women,

But if you are a woman,

You carry a very specific lineage to the woman,

Right?

Let's be clear.

You carry genetically,

The very heavy pain of the disempowered woman,

Of the submissive woman,

Of where we have cowered.

We have cowered,

Where we have denied ourselves our power.

Take another nice deep breath into the body.

I'm going to bring in some sound for just a moment.

So I invite you just to breathe.

The sound is vibrational healing.

Take a nice deep breath.

Breathe into the bodies,

Ladies.

Breathe into the bodies,

Ladies.

Breathe into your bodies.

Mentum,

Breathe into your bodies.

This is for everybody.

And one more nice deep breath into the nose,

Out through the mouth.

Own it,

Own it,

Own it,

Own whatever you're feeling.

Yes,

Yes,

Yes,

My loves.

Yes,

Yes,

Yes.

Ooh,

Yeah,

Now I see why I had a little shift up here.

Yes,

Just for you,

Ladies.

Just for you,

Beauties.

Mm,

Yes.

Oh,

And there it is again,

The orgasm.

Mm,

Okay.

Back to this conversation.

Okay.

This is dear to us,

Is it not?

Is this not extremely dear to us as women,

This conversation of submission?

Do you not feel it in your bones as I use that word?

Do you not feel or understand the pain that this distortion has caused within us?

Again,

Our choice,

I want to make that really clear.

We are not victims of anything or anybody.

Yes,

We've been in a patriarchal society.

Yes,

There has been influences,

But we chose over and over and over again.

And you are still choosing over and over and over again to be submissive.

You,

My love,

Are still choosing over and over and over again to be submissive,

To disempower your feminine power.

She is so incredible.

She is so powerful.

She's so magnetic.

She's so very orgasmic.

She is the creatix.

That's what I mean here,

Right?

In my program,

I work with women to connect deeply to their feminine power,

Their sexual power,

Their sexual magic.

I work with them to have divine union of self.

And what I personally have come across and what they have come across is a deeper understanding of boundaries.

I'm not talking conceptual boundaries.

I'm talking your labial lips.

I'm talking your pussy.

Notice if you get triggered and just breathe.

Okay.

Because there is very strong symbolic significance around your labia lips and your boundaries.

Your labia lips represent the physical representation of your boundaries of entering into you,

Right?

Let's be really fucking clear what happens when you are entered.

The boundary is opened.

Okay.

I want you all to pause right here.

There's many triggers going on.

I want you to breathe into your body.

This conversation is purposefully triggering because I want you to feel what I am speaking of,

My love.

I want you to feel it so strongly within you to wake you up.

Okay.

So all of the ways that we misunderstand and don't have awareness of our boundaries and thus plow through them,

Allow symbolically people to enter us and or very realistically people to enter us when it's a big solid fucking no.

Symbolically and very physically speaking,

Not listening when it's a big fucking yes.

Yes and no.

These are your boundaries.

Yes and no.

There is no maybe.

Maybe is your denial of either a yes and a no.

I don't know.

Maybe I'm unsure you're denying either your yes or your no.

So this has happened to us very physically,

Very sexually,

Right?

I was sexually abused.

We have had times,

Whether you were sexually abused or not,

Where it maybe was not a yes and you allowed it anyways.

Again,

Physically,

Sexually,

And non-physically,

Non-sexually,

Right?

This goes both ways.

I want you to see what I'm speaking of both in the direct physical representation of this and the symbolic representation of where you have submitted,

Meaning you gave away your power because you didn't trust your yes or no.

Okay.

Let's take some nice deep breaths.

I want you to take three deep breaths into the nose,

Out through the mouth.

I'm going to invite yourself to release some emotional energy out of your body,

Out of your being now,

Releasing out of your mouth through the exhale now.

Release,

Release,

Release.

Release,

Release,

Release.

It's okay.

Whatever you're feeling,

My love is perfect.

You are loved here.

You are supported here.

Even if I trigger you,

Know that I deeply,

Deeply love and support you.

Beautiful.

Excellent work,

Ladies.

Okay.

Yes.

And it's okay.

A lot of the times you weren't conscious of your yes and no.

A lot of times you didn't understand that that's what you were doing.

It's not that you suck because you do not suck.

You are a fucking amazing being.

You are powerful.

You are a genius.

And we are here to make mistakes.

That is the point of life so that we improve,

So that we expand,

So that we see.

It's not about being perfect.

It's about seeing the truth and moving through that space with loving kindness towards yourself.

I have been integrity out of integrity,

Meaning I have blasted through my boundaries the vast majority of my life and I fucking love myself for it.

I fucking love my self for it.

Why?

Because here I am understanding very,

Very clearly the difference between submission and surrender.

And I wouldn't have that clarity.

I wouldn't be able to speak to you ladies about it had I not gone through this.

Because oftentimes what comes very easy to us,

We don't really always understand because it's easy for us.

So oftentimes people ask me,

What is surrender?

I'm teaching this to you here now.

Okay.

So submission is when you have a yes or no,

And you don't listen.

You are giving away your power to whatever that is.

Usually it's a false belief of security,

Safety,

Support,

Love,

A false belief of that outside of yourself,

Because you don't trust that you can create the feminine.

You don't trust in your power of your creatix,

Of your wool,

My love,

Of your sexual power.

You do not trust in that.

And so you have to disempower,

Give your power away to the falsity,

To the illusion,

Okay?

To the distorted masculine,

Not the divine masculine,

Not the superior masculine.

No,

No,

No,

No,

No,

Because he will not accept that.

He will not accept submission.

The divine masculine will only accept surrender from you.

So what is surrender?

Let's get into that.

Surrender is a clear yes,

A clear no,

And absolute integrity,

Meaning action,

Self-love within that either yes or that either no,

And surrendering into the absolute trust of that answer.

Meaning if it's a yes,

You align to that and you take action to that,

You surrender to what that means.

You surrender to how it's going to show up.

You surrender,

You let go of the illusion of control because you're not in control.

Control is a complete fucking illusion,

A complete fucking illusion.

Surrender is where your power is.

You are powerful.

You are extremely powerful when you are surrendered because you are aligned.

You are of integrity.

You have certainty.

You have clarity.

You have devotion.

Oh,

Yes.

There's the orgasm again.

Clarity.

You have conviction.

You have devotion.

You are anchored in your power.

You know that you will create.

You know that you will create what you put your mind to.

And you know what that creates?

As the feminine does that,

She surrenders to the masculine.

She says,

Masculine,

This is my yes.

Masculine,

This is my no.

And there is certainty there.

She stands in that.

Now he can provide that.

The masculine within you.

I'm not speaking of your partner.

I'm not speaking of some man outside.

I'm speaking of the masculine within you.

And I'm speaking of the father,

The power and the connection to your mother,

Your feminine,

And the certainty within that.

So the masculine can now fucking deliver because guess what?

He can't deliver when you're all over the place.

That's a yes.

No,

That's a no.

Yes,

That's a no.

No,

That's a yes.

I don't know.

I just don't have any certainty.

I don't have any devotion.

I'm just disempowering myself all over the place.

He cannot provide for you,

My love.

Your own masculine cannot provide for a submissive feminine.

I want you to feel that.

Take a nice deep breath.

Breathe down into your pelvis.

Breathe down and feel what I am saying.

The masculine ultimately,

The divine masculine,

The superior.

And I don't mean superior as in better than.

I mean the one that is truth.

That's what I mean.

I don't mean hierarchical.

No,

That's a word.

I'm making it up.

I mean the truth.

The true masculine cannot provide for submission because there's no clarity.

It's all over the fucking place.

Your masculine needs you in your feminine to be certain,

To have clarity,

And to have devotion that he will provide.

Your masculine will provide for you.

But what happens is we go,

Okay,

That's a yes.

Oh,

I don't know.

Is it?

No.

I'm just going to do this because I don't really trust that my masculine can show the fuck up for me,

That he's got me,

That he's got me,

That he's got me.

So you just wiggle right out of his arms.

This shows up in your own personal life,

Of course,

Because I am again,

Speaking here,

Tantra of the self.

Everything that I teach is here first and foremost,

Here,

Here,

Here,

And then absolutely everywhere out there.

Because that's all a reflection of this.

Your relationships will show up like this.

Your ability to receive money,

To receive support,

To be secure,

To be protected,

All of that will show up in your external reality as a direct reflection of where you are in a submissive state and not in a surrendered,

Empowered state.

So surrender is very,

Very powerful because you are devoted to your certainty and to you,

My love.

You are devoted to your truth.

Take a nice deep breath here.

I want you to feel those words,

Devoted to your truth.

Breathe into your body right now.

I'm going to bring in another little bit of sound.

I want you to breathe in through the nose,

Out through the mouth.

Breathe,

Breathe,

Breathe.

I'm going to bring in some sound.

Focus down here around the,

Between the belly button and the sacral chakra.

Okay?

A nice deep breath,

Releasing out of the mouth,

Releasing out of your exhale now,

Releasing,

Releasing,

Releasing.

Open your mouth,

Ladies.

Open,

Open,

Open,

Open.

Yes,

Yes,

Yes,

Yes.

Devotion to you because you know the truth of it is you are a person.

You are a person.

Okay?

Devotion to you because you know the truth of it is you always know.

Every single time I have a client that says,

I just don't know.

I said,

That's not true.

Let's try again.

Ask yourself the question.

Well,

I mean,

I get this answer,

But no stop right there.

You get the answer and you don't fucking trust it.

That's the truth.

You have the answer.

That's not your problem.

Yes,

It takes courage.

Here it takes.

Do you understand what devotion is?

It is courage.

It is saying I am devoted to me,

To my power,

To my evolution,

To my expansion.

And again,

By all means,

Make mistakes,

My love.

By all means,

Make mistakes.

That is where you learn.

But notice,

Notice what happens.

Notice the feeling when you blast through that boundary.

Notice what shows up in your life when you blast through that boundary.

It doesn't feel good and it creates further distrust in yourself.

It creates further distrust and that's okay if you're aware of it.

Oh yeah.

Wow.

Look what I did.

Okay.

I see that.

I see where I had a no and I went yes.

I see where I had a yes and I went no.

I see and look,

Look how it didn't feel good.

Look what it created.

Look.

Okay.

I love that I was shown that.

I love that I experienced that because that brought me more clarity.

I invite myself to choose differently.

I invite myself to choose differently.

I invite myself to choose differently.

Yes.

Yes.

Yes.

When I submit,

I make myself smaller.

Yes,

My love.

Yes.

And surrender,

You make yourself larger.

I love Renee that you just brought that in.

That is so very true.

Thank you,

My love,

For expressing that.

When you surrender,

You make yourself larger because you are saying yes to you.

You are saying,

I hear you.

I love you.

I am devoted to you.

You feel that way?

Feel that way,

My dear.

You feel that way?

I stand beside you.

You want that?

You want that?

Let's go.

You don't want that?

Let's go.

You need this?

Let's go.

I am here.

I am here.

I am here.

That is what surrender is.

You surrendering to your masculine.

So incredibly powerful.

So I want you to really understand vibrationally.

I invite you not just conceptually,

Vibrationally,

The feeling just like Renee said,

That's vibrational understanding.

The feeling of submission,

Giving your power away,

Not trusting yourself,

People pleasing,

Doing things to make other people comfortable,

Blasting through your boundaries,

Not listening to your truth,

Not owning your power,

How that feels in your body,

And then deepening into devotion with yourself,

Owning your yes and your no,

Taking action upon that,

Even if it scares the shit out of you.

It's not about not feeling fear.

If you are resistant to fear,

You're going to have a very hard time in life.

You have to understand that fear is simply showing you that's all,

Showing you a belief structure that you have.

That's it.

Oh,

You believe that you're not safe to own your power.

Okay.

Well,

Wonderful.

I don't want to believe that anymore.

So thank you,

Fear.

Thank you.

Thank you.

Thank you for showing me that.

And I choose right now to take action in the belief that I am safe in my power,

That I am safe in who I am.

Yes.

I feel it when I make my voice quieter.

Yes,

Ladies,

You are.

You are hearing me.

Yes.

Thank you for hearing.

Thank you for feeling this transmission,

Surrendering,

Devotion,

Conviction.

You don't have to know what it's going to look like.

You can be scared.

It's all okay.

That's the exact thing that creates deeper devotion and conviction.

Those not knowing what it's going to look like and yet,

And feeling fear and yet taking action in your yes or your no anyways,

Because that is trust of self.

That is devotion.

The femme devoting to the femme and creating that space,

The masculine can create,

Can create for you.

So incredibly powerful,

Inexhaustible.

Inexhaustible.

Your feminine power has no bottom to her,

My love.

No bottom to her.

She has no ceiling.

She has no sides.

She is inexhaustible resource,

Inexhaustible,

Creative life force energy.

You are so powerful in your surrender and you are deeply disempowered in your submission.

So I invite you to just invite this into your awareness.

Just say,

I want to see where I am submissive so that I can understand how to make clearer choices.

I want to see,

I want to be shown.

I deeply desire to change.

And that starts with awareness.

It starts with awareness.

It starts with the willingness to see yourself because you cannot be seen.

You cannot be loved.

You cannot be supported.

You cannot be accepted.

You cannot be held.

You cannot be revered.

You cannot be honored until you do it with yourself.

You have to be willing to see the entirety of your being,

The entirety of who you are,

Not hiding from yourself,

Not putting pieces of yourself away to the side and not revealing you.

It all starts here.

You create that relationship.

You reveal yourself to yourself when you listen,

When you listen to that yes,

And you listen to that no,

Because that's when the walls that you have created to protect yourself that don't protect you,

They lock you in your own fucking cell of disempowerment.

They don't protect you at all.

They lock you away in your own cell of disempowerment,

Your protection,

Your shields,

Your armor,

Your walls,

Just lock you in my love.

They lock you in.

Take a deep breath to release,

To let your power out,

Is here to listen,

To honor the deep truth that you have as a woman.

The womb is pure wisdom,

My love,

Pure wisdom,

Far beyond intelligence.

You have that in you.

We've always called it that,

The gut instinct of women,

Because it's truth.

You know exactly the yes and the no.

So start taking action to listen to that within yourself,

Letting go,

Surrendering to how it all happens,

What it means.

None of that is important.

The only thing that's important is that you listen and you take action upon it to the best of your ability,

From a place of love and compassion.

That's all.

The rest of it will be provided.

The rest of it will show up as you deepen into this relationship with yourself.

You deepen into union with you,

The one that you seek,

The one that you yearn for,

The one that you desire to be seen by,

Loved by,

Appreciated,

Honored,

And revered by you,

My love,

You.

One last more.

Nice deep breath.

Open the mouth.

Let it out,

My loves.

Make a noise.

I love you all so very much.

Thank you for joining me here today.