How to meet a high quality man.
I'm Love Coach Truly Eleanor.
So let's dive into this.
This might not be what you are expecting.
First of all,
A high quality man is gonna be different for everyone.
What you consider to be high quality is different and it's based on your values,
Your expectations and your true desires of what a truly loving and secure relationship are based on and what is most important to you.
And of course that's gonna be different for everyone.
So these are some tips that everyone can take away from being clear,
Being open and knowing what you want.
These are the basics to start off with.
If you're not exactly clear what you want and I'm not talking about traits and I'm not talking about height and kindness and honesty and all those things.
Yes,
We're gonna look at that in a minute.
I'm talking about what you truly desire,
How you want to live your life with somebody,
How you want to spend your time on a daily basis.
It's going to be in the little things that you really build this beautiful relationship.
So you need to think about scenarios of,
Do you wanna spend every day having dinner with your partner?
Do you want to be able to go on weekends for a day trip together?
So therefore you both work during the week and you have the weekends off.
How do you want to have your schedule?
How much time do you want to spend together?
So there's different levels of connection.
It could be some people wanna be more independent.
They wanna be what I call interdependent.
So they want to have their life goals and maybe they have a business or they've got some really big goals that they wanna accomplish in life.
And they wanna really go after that and have the support of their loving partner with them and still feel bonded and connected,
But having that independence with your goals.
So I would call that interdependence and being able to go after your dreams and being supported.
So if that's important to you,
Then that needs to be in your clarity list or in what you want and what you desire.
So all these questions,
All these tips,
You can go back and watch the beginning of the video,
But I want you to get out your journal and your notebook and dive into this because attracting a high quality man,
You've got to know what a high quality man is to you,
Not based on society,
Not based on other people's expectations,
Not based on what family is telling you that you should want.
This needs to be a very introspective and reflective exercise where you gain true clarity into what your desires are and what you consider to be high quality.
So not only do you wanna look at your scenarios,
So based on how do you wanna spend your week,
Your day,
Your weekends,
Your months,
Your years together as a whole,
The type of relationship you're looking for.
Maybe you want a relationship where you have a lot of excitement,
A lot of fun.
So your top thing would be someone who wants to go to Disneyland with you,
Who wants to climb mountains,
Who wants to go off to foreign lands together.
If that's how you really want it,
Or you wanna do a vacation like that or big adventures,
Maybe six months at a time,
You want someone who's adventurous and who's willing and able to have the type of job or have the finances to be able to work six months and then take off three months and then work again.
That's your lifestyle together.
That's what you really wanna create.
Maybe it's having dinner and cooking together.
You wanna really share your love of food and your love for each other through food.
So it's really,
I guess,
Talking about love languages and talking about how you express your love and how you're going to feel loved and fulfilled.
Maybe you're really big on affection.
Maybe you want someone to give you a massage and massage your feet and really just be holding your hand no matter how old you are or how many years you've been together.
You want someone to hold your hand.
These are all very important things to be clear on from the outset before you dive into meeting someone because you don't wanna get into a situation where you're going on dates and trying to decipher what you want based on who you're going out with.
You need to do it the other way around.
You need to take charge and say,
This is what I call high quality.
This is what I'm looking for.
If this person,
If this man has these things and does these things and wants this kind of lifestyle and is willing to do these things with me,
Then that's what I consider high quality.
And guess what?
Immediately you will recognize that.
You don't have to go on more and more dates and try to figure it out as you go along.
You're not going to be dating high quality men.
You're gonna be dating this,
That,
And the other,
Whatever comes your way.
And then you're gonna get frustrated and say that there's no good men out there.
So you don't wanna get into that scenario.
You are defining it.
You are defining what is high quality.
You're defining what is high quality in your eyes.
The important things like feeling loved,
Your day-to-day life,
Maybe your big adventures together,
How you express your love with each other,
How you communicate,
That's an extremely important one.
So maybe you communicate through,
Maybe you like to think about things for a while and then you will be ready to express yourself.
Or maybe you like to talk things out and spend time communicating verbally with each other.
Maybe you feel like having quiet time and just being together and your presence,
Physical presence with each other makes you feel really loved.
And you feel very cherished when the person spends time with you and you don't even have to be talking to each other,
Like verbally communicating.
So what type of communication makes you feel loved?
What do you consider high quality?
Do you feel like it's really important to be able to ask how they feel and they're able to tell you?
So like an open book,
Do you want someone who's really open and feels just approachable?
So that could be your communication style that would be considered high quality to you.
So we've covered quite a few scenarios.
So like communication,
Lifestyle,
Values,
Important things to you,
Feeling loved and what would make you feel loved.
That you now have a very comprehensive picture of what a high quality man would be and you're immediately going to recognize them.
And now the last thing I'll say is you take those,
You take that clear definition and profile of a high quality man,
Memorize it or you've got a list or you've got your description written out.
And then when you go to talk to someone,
If you are chatting or going on coffee dates,
You're like,
Wow,
This person really ticks off a lot of these boxes and I feel really good.
So just being open and being observant and patient and intentional,
Then you're going to be definitely well on your way to finding a high quality man.
What did you like the most?
And what are you going to do to create your high quality man profile?
What is the most important things to you?
If you'd love to share,
We would love to hear it.
Bye for now.
