If your parents are getting divorced,
This is for you.
Divorce can sound really,
Really scary.
I get it,
Because it happened to me.
My parents got divorced when I was little,
And my mom got remarried,
And she had a baby.
So then,
I had two dads and a baby sister,
Which means I had extra people to love,
And extra people who loved me.
One of the most amazing feelings of being alive is the feeling of love,
And there are so many different types of love.
Take a minute right now and think about all the people in your life who you love.
Think about all the animals you love,
And feel how each feeling of love feels a little bit different.
There is one kind of love that people call romantic love,
And when they feel that,
They sometimes decide to get married.
Sometimes romantic love doesn't last forever,
But that doesn't mean that they don't still love each other.
It just means that it turned into a different kind of love,
And it definitely doesn't mean that they don't still love you.
This is really important to remember.
Even if your parents decide to get divorced,
They still love you so,
So much.
They have made the decision to get divorced because their love has changed,
And there is nothing that you can do to change that.
It is just what it is.
Your parents may be angry,
Your parents may be sad,
Your parents may be hurt.
These are their feelings,
And that's okay.
You don't need to do anything to fix them.
Let them feel how they feel.
Just give them a hug,
And know that they will always love you.
Sometimes when something happens that feels scary or sad,
We make up stories about it.
The stories usually end up making us feel worse instead of better.
So let's take some time together and talk about some of these stories and think of some better feeling stories that we could tell.
What happened is that your parents have decided to get divorced.
A story you might be telling yourself is that you had something to do with them getting divorced.
That is not true though.
That is just a story.
Together,
Let's find a better feeling thought.
Take a deep breath and say out loud,
Nothing about my parents getting divorced is my fault.
What happened is that your parents have decided to get divorced.
A story you might be telling yourself is that your parents don't love you as much anymore.
That is not true though.
That is just a story.
Together,
Let's find a better feeling thought.
Take a deep breath and say out loud,
Both of my parents will always love me no matter what.
What happened is that your parents decided to get divorced.
A story you might be telling yourself is that they are wrecking your family and it might make you feel really angry.
It's okay to feel angry,
But it is not true that they are wrecking the family.
That's just a story.
Together,
Let's find a better feeling thought.
Take a deep breath and say out loud,
My family is changing and growing and that is exciting.
Feel your heart beating inside of your chest.
And now imagine the hearts of the people in your family.
Imagine the ribbon that goes from your heart to each of your parents' hearts and another ribbon that goes from one of your parents' hearts to the other.
Imagine the ribbon that goes from your heart to each of your parents' hearts and another ribbon that goes from one of your parents' hearts to the other parents' heart.
They still love you and they still love each other.
It's just a different kind of love.
Imagine your parents coming and giving you a big,
Bare hug.
Feel all of your hearts together.
No matter whether your parents live in one home or two,
You are all still connected and you are all still in each other's family.
Families look so many different ways,
But imagine that the way your family looks is just perfect.
Splash and I used to be married and we got divorced.
We still love each other.
It's just a different kind of love.
It's a best friend love.
Everything is possible when you live from your big heart.
