How Healthy Can My Relationships Be

Here I speak about how toxic and unhealthy relationships can be. By giving a simple and practical example, I describe how we can shift the energy and change our reality, in order to attract better connections.

Transcript

My name is Sangeet and today I want to speak about relationships.

Many of us struggle in certain connections due to specific aspects that make them toxic.

Sometimes we overcome the challenges,

Sometimes we don't,

And we accumulate and carry them with us.

It can be devastating at many levels and it can go on and on for years.

Going to the root cause of these situations lasting for so long,

We can easily get to the belief that we don't deserve better realities,

Or that we are not worthy of true love.

Whether this is related to friends,

Lovers,

Colleagues,

Family members,

After all,

It is all about love.

Now,

Let's do a simple comparison.

Let's imagine that we are about to eat some food and we see that it has mold in it.

If this happens,

We don't take it,

Right?

Or at least we take that part off and we only have the rest of it.

We can also accidentally put some toxic food in our mouth,

But then right away we taste it and we take it out.

We can even accidentally swallow it,

But that's it,

We don't repeat the action.

In any of these cases,

We stop having that food because we realize that it is toxic,

It doesn't even taste good.

Who would consciously eat moldy toxic food unless they wanted to be sick,

Right?

Then,

Why do we do it in relationships?

We see the red flags,

We even taste them,

We even swallow them,

And still we decide to continue,

Hoping that some miracle would come and take the mold away.

When some food has mold,

We replace it with another one.

We don't even think that much,

We just do it.

And right away,

We are eating something fresh and tasty.

We trust that we are not going to starve,

We are sure that the next food is going to be delicious,

Because we want it to,

We have no doubt.

In relationships,

We are not that sure.

We fear that we won't find anyone else,

That we are going to be alone,

That we will struggle even more,

That we will die with a broken heart,

That no good opportunity will ever come,

And so we settle for less.

Why would we think this way?

If we are so good selecting and trusting food,

Why wouldn't we be selective and trusting in what comes to relationships?

What makes us believe that good and healthy food is possible,

But good and healthy relationships are too good to be true?

Well,

They are not,

They are very much possible,

And they are exactly what we wish for and what we deserve.

Now,

Here it comes the tricky part.

This is like having an old car and wanting a new one,

When we only have space for one car in the garage.

If we buy a new one,

And we still have the old one,

We will be conflicted,

Because we can't put the two cars in the same garage,

And maybe we even struggle with choosing and buying the new one,

Because,

Energetically,

We are not ready,

As we still give attention to the old car.

So,

What to do then?

We trust,

And we fearlessly say goodbye to what we don't want anymore,

Which is the old car,

And we prepare to the new one,

By pushing ourselves into the reality that we want to be in,

Through our thoughts and consequent actions.

By doing this,

We shift our energy,

And we allow everything to naturally and easily unfold,

Whether is getting rid of one car,

Whether is receiving another.

It is the same in what comes to relationships.

Once we start believing that we deserve the best,

We are no longer afraid of letting go of one or more toxic connections,

Because we now know that the best is somewhere,

Waiting for us.

In the meantime,

We can always love ourselves more and more,

Which definitely can only make us attract the best of everything,

Including connections.

So,

Today,

Let's say no to toxicity,

And let's say yes to the best of the best,

To what really feels good,

And healthy,

And fresh,

And light,

And pure.

Let's get used to the taste of true love,

In such a way that we no longer forget about it,

And that we no longer open our doors to less than that.

Let's clean our paths.

Let's clean our minds.

Let's clean our hearts.

The rainbow that we can see out there is there for a reason.

It is showing us how possible it is to have all the colors at once.

So,

Let's have them and be truly,

Truly happy.

Reviews

Thank you so much Sangeet.
This topic truly smacked the center of home base for me.
A perfect comparison using mold as the toxicity of a toxic relationship. Black mold is the most toxic of molds of which I’m enduring now. Unfortunately I was deceived and that deception shut and locked every door of escape to feel that magic of love ever again. Why ?
Because I am trapped in a black widow spiders web confined to be under her control at all times.
When I was in my earlier 20’s I structured my future to be self employed. I didn’t want to be employed making money for others and being paid a paltry sum. So I learned everything I needed to know to have my own business which was construction. Being self employed was what I wanted and that is what I achieved from following my plan to be self employed. Took about 10 years to learn what I needed to know working at different crafts. But eventually I received an unrestricted building license to build any structure up to 35 thousand cubic feet in dimensions. That was when we relocated to cape cod. I built a house for us in 2002. A Traditional Cape Cod house.
Everything was wonderful until about 1-1/2 years ago until I mentioned that we should have a will drawn up in case a tragedy should happen to us like a car accident etc. to leave everything to our daughter. The house, all possessions and monies, etc. Shortly afterwards she contacted an attorney and had a will drawn up without my knowledge or discussion. She told me everything was taken care of and all I had to do was sign the papers and don’t ask questions!( A huge red flag! ). But I trusted her and signed each paper without questions.
Now she owns the deed to the house I built for us and everything else. Everything!
When we left the attorney he handed to her a folder of the will and told her to hide this will and never show to anyone ! That meant not to show it to me. I’ve asked many times to read what I signed but she will not show me that will. So now I don’t own my house, I have no access to money and I’m at her mercy as she is in control of all bank accounts. My life now is about doing housework, cooking meals and doing anything that she needs done that I can do for her. There is no love, compassion or anything pleasant in my life anymore. I don’t understand why. I have no outlet to say goodbye to this toxic marriage. I am trapped to view and feel only darkness. Why !
I am sorry Sangeet for expressing so much here. But I have no friends or anyone to express my thoughts to other than to you.
Happiness to you always 💚
Thank you Sangeet for your uplifting words,
I appreciate you very much. I will follow your words. I pray someday I will see another rainbow in all its glory.