Today I want to speak about attachment in relationships.
This word represents that feeling of needing someone in an unbalanced way that usually comes from a place of fear of abandonment or rejection.
In any case,
This happens because we give attention to a particular person,
Sometimes in a very exclusive way.
But what I'm feeling is that this all depends on what side of the story we decide to focus on.
I am going to give you a very basic example that we can then apply to our daily life in a more complex way.
Imagine we meet someone we like.
That person gives us attention and we give this person attention for five days in a row,
Having fun and enjoying time together.
At the sixth day,
We don't see each other and we don't receive any call from this person.
Suddenly we miss them,
We only think about them and we even start having negative thoughts about this experience.
We got used to their focus of attention and we liked that.
Because it almost became a habit,
We took it for granted and we couldn't see the big picture.
Let's see what actually happened.
We met someone,
We liked them and we spent some time together.
What a blessing in our lives,
Right?
But instead of being happy about it,
We went on the opposite direction,
Which is fear.
We started being afraid of losing that person.
Of course,
This example is an exaggeration,
But you know what I mean.
We can't be the permanent focus of attention of someone else.
That can only happen from source and that's the only permanent thing that we have.
Instead of feeding the feeling of attachment,
We become grateful for whatever is in our lives.
This will put us in perspective as an observant,
Seeing the big picture,
Knowing that nothing here on earth is forever apart from us as souls.
Meeting someone we deeply resonate with is actually a blessing.
So the key to experience relationships the easy way is to keep ourselves detached from the results,
Going with the flow,
Trying not to have heavy expectations from others.
Because as soon as we have expectations,
We may feel disappointed in a very unrealistic and scary way and even push away the people we like.
This doesn't mean that we can't have deep connections or relationships in which we feel fulfilled or that we can't speak our truth and set boundaries.
On the contrary,
Because we are conscious about our true nature,
We can then attract exactly the type of connection that we want,
Maybe with someone who will love spending a lot of quality time with us.
This way we also appreciate and give ourselves totally to the relationship and enjoy life much more.
We allow ourselves to be happy instead of worrying about what can or cannot happen,
Because now we trust ourselves more and we even attract more of any sort of meaningful experiences.
Back to the example I gave you,
Before those five days,
We didn't have that person in our lives and we were probably fine.
If we enjoyed being with that person,
We shouldn't be disappointed or sad,
Because it's actually a gift from the universe.
I know,
It's this feeling of tasting something good and then we want to grab it and have it all the time,
But if it's something that depends on others,
It's not going to be always as we wish,
Because we can't control others' choices.
They have free will as well.
Besides,
Having a break from something can be a way to appreciate it even more.
So let's allow ourselves to trust and connect to Source in order to regain our joy.
In the meantime,
Miracles happen.
