What If I Stand Up For Myself

Here I speak about how important it is for us to stop expecting so much from others, and to depend on their actions and behaviors to feel safe and secure. I encourage us to stand up for ourselves, and to speak our truth.

Transcript

Today I'm thinking about those moments in which I wanted so desperately that someone would protect me or defend me.

Those moments in which something happened and you can't defend yourself.

You find yourself in a place where you don't find the words to express what you're feeling and you are feeling so insecure and confused that you are not capable of being yourself and feel well.

So you want the others to protect you,

To say something for you,

To rebel against the others and say something like,

She doesn't deserve that,

She's great,

She's lovely.

You want the others to express your qualities,

To say them out loud.

You desperately want that.

I desperately wanted that.

You may resonate with this,

Probably.

I think everybody feels this way once in a while,

At least.

So I'm reminding myself of those moments because now I realized that I turned that feeling or that need into something that I have to do for myself,

The things that I wanted others to do for me,

To speak for me.

Now I realized that I have to do that for myself,

That it's my job to do it,

Not the others.

The others may do it or not.

They may express themselves as they want.

If they want to say something great about me,

For example,

In some situation,

That's good.

If they are my friends,

If they like me,

That is pleasant,

That feels good.

But I can't depend on others' words or acts in what comes to me and the way I feel.

So I can't be waiting and waiting forever for some perfect reaction,

Perfect answer from others,

Just because I want to feel better about myself.

So I turned that into myself and then I discovered that the best way to feel good about myself is not expecting anything from others because that will lead me to disappointment many times.

And again,

It doesn't mean that I can't hear something that will help me from others or that I don't appreciate the great words and things the others say about me or to me in any situation.

Of course,

I appreciate them.

I also learned that the more I trust myself on this and see myself as the one I can count on,

The more I then appreciate what others do and say in order to defend me or protect me or appreciate me.

So I appreciate them more or their expressions more and more because I don't expect anything from them.

And of course,

This is quite difficult sometimes because when someone is our friend,

Family or anybody close to us,

We kind of expect something from them,

Even if we decide I am not going to expect anything.

Deep inside,

We expect something.

But again,

I am conscious about my expectations and I know that when I feel some sort of disappointment is because I was not counting on me,

I mean totally on me,

I was counting on them a little bit at least.

And that of course led me to disappointment because it's not something stable.

The external is not stable.

The only thing that is stable is me and my connection to Source.

That's the only thing that is stable.

And it's not my mind,

My emotions.

It's me deep inside.

Me the higher consciousness.

It's the stable thing here,

The only one actually,

Because we all have ups and downs.

And this is the way I find until now that it's the best one to feel calm and to trust myself on any situation.

And every time I notice some sort of disappointment,

I can always come back to myself and trust me again.

Reviews

You have tenderly caught the actual crux underlying so much misery in the human existence. This is a very potent meditative poem, meant to be shared with those who are dear to you. Beautifully done!!

Difficult to hear because it's true. You put my journey w this v clearly. Thank you.

Thank you for this. I hope I remember this lesson often. 🙏

Thank you. Trusting in my Self, I am not disappointed. 🙏💝

I needed to listen to this a few times as I felt a deep sadness that others would cause you sadness or to feel threatened.
The first time I heard your words
here I could sense that you speak from your heart and not from rehearsed words on a sheet of paper. When you speak your sincere thoughts I
feel in my heart a very strong connection.
You are truly appreciated and wonderful.
I agree a lot of others, myself included, have experienced what you expressed in the beginning to feel a need to be
protected from others,etc.
but eventually we do learn to protect ourselves. Still it saddens my heart and makes my eyes wet that some people cause sadness to others.
You are a wonderful teacher and I greatly appreciate you.
I am very grateful you are my teacher.
I send love from my heart to your heart 💕
Thank you so much Sangeet
Blessings to you always 🙏🙏🙏

This was so beautiful, it made me cry a little too, thank you so much 🥰