Yay!
You know,
Setting boundaries isn't an easy part in life to do.
And it seems to be an essential one.
To have the ability to live from our values in an environment that helps us to thrive and that we also nurture the environment around us to thrive.
Thank you for participating in this short boundaries practice.
My name is Patrick Christopher Eeler and I'm going to lead you through this technique.
To begin,
Have a deep breath in.
Settle your focus into your body.
Imagine you would be coming home into yourself.
For the next couple of breaths,
Deepen the presence within your body.
If it helps you,
You can also do a short body scan to see if there's any tension.
Maybe your jaw,
Your shoulders and your fingers,
Your toes.
And with the next exhale,
Try and see what would happen if you ease this tension a little.
On your next exhale,
Try to ease it even a little more.
Like if with each exhale,
The tension would ease a little more.
Welcome in your body.
Now recall a moment within your time feed,
Let's say of the last month,
Where you felt that you had a hard time setting your boundaries.
And this can be at work,
With friends,
With family,
With acquaintances or people that are beloved ones.
And intention is to find a moment where you didn't feel comfortable to set boundaries.
Identify what was one of the values that you held in that moment and double check if this is the value that you would like to carry on.
If it is,
Keep it on.
If you'd like to adjust the value,
Maybe finding another one,
Then try to hold on to that new value.
And with that feeling of that value,
With that knowledge,
How would you set boundaries in this specific moment that would be in alignment with your values?
Libraries that would connect you with your values.
Try to visualize it very clearly.
And also try to keep attention on your body to see which kind of sensation might come up.
This can be a sensation of feeling vulnerable,
Uncomfort,
Unease.
This can be a sensation of relief,
Of connection,
Of freedom.
It could be also a combination of all of those.
Now I would like you to try a little sentence to see what happens in your inner world,
Saying it towards yourself and imaginary also to whoever might have been present in that situation.
I would like you to repeat the following.
Hey,
I'm feeling super uncomfortable,
Uncertain and vulnerable.
And even though I want to show courage and share with you what's on my heart and on my mind,
I want to set some boundaries,
Not to disconnect us from each other,
Rather to feel connected with my values and that we are able to still feel connected.
I would like to give you a perspective on how it feels to me and what would help me to feel more connected with you and with my values.
I wish that we both can thrive together.
And I think it's at this current state only possible if I share the current situation with you.
Okay coming back into your body now and check in how it felt sharing it.
And right after those words,
What I would usually do is add on how such setting boundaries that helped me to connect would be supportive.
Keep in mind that this practice may help me and from all of my heart,
I hope it's also helpful for you.
That you only know if you try it out.
What I definitely learned is that I can try my best to set boundaries as good as I can.
Those that help me connect with myself and my external world.
And what I also know is that I can change the boundaries that other people have.
I can give them a perspective of mine.
And the biggest work comes when other people don't respect our boundaries.
This is another story and I wanna thank you for participating in this short mindful reflection upon setting boundaries.
It's super courageous to do so.
It helps us to thrive as a community and it's very suggestive that it might help in the future.
And it may.
My name is Patrick Christopher Ehler and thank you for participating here.
It's a very deep practice,
A very deep job you are doing.
Thank you from all of my heart.
