Gary Hardy

🤯 Gary, your compassion and empathy radiated through your words in a way that felt like a warm arm around the shoulder of the 36 year old me 🫂, which catalysed a release I suspected was coming just by reading the title of this post. I ugly cried out the grief I have been carrying from those insanely hard times. A grief that sits in the pain my body nurses. Showing up. Day in. Day out. The relentless, never ending grind of the parenting trenches, the relief from which was years away. The weight was so heavy at times that ending life seemed like a viable exit strategy that was thankfully overridden by the determination to not condemn my babies to a future without me. I share many of the common denominators you covered. I had to box up and lock the hurt and pain otherwise I could not have shown up for those two very small humans who were depending on me for life. I had to pretend I was ok. I had to show I was strong, capable, enough … I was those things but also on the inside I was embers of a flame I used to be. I feel touched, seen, in a way that is profound. I have been in recovery mode for years. May I now allow my nervous system to finally, rest! May I finally flourish rather than merely survive. I am incredibly grateful you popped up in my Insight Timer feed. Life has been listening to my silent pleas and delivered a goodness I have needed for a long time. I am blessed. Thank you 🙏🏼

Gosh. Goosebumps. Feeling seen. Your prompts helped me see - I actually am afraid to be fully happy. Even though my monkey mind calls BS. Fearful that if I fall completely, show my soft underbelly, I’ll be harmed, the good thing will be taken away, or I’ll be rejected for not being good enough. So I brace for impact. Chronic pain ensues. Therein lies my quest for truth, meaning, freedom.

Overall I found this course to be easily accessible. Gary explains things simply and clearly, is encouraging and compassionate in his approach (with a great storytelling voice), allows space for your own self awareness to blossom, while giving actionable strategies to support recovery from people pleasing.

Mmmm, such a kind, gentle, and empathic ‘quiet time’ Gary, reminding me that it’s safe to allow myself moments of micro self care, that it doesn’t need to be a grand gesture, or result in all-and-complete. I loved connecting with that part of me that allows, that says a softening yes, that embraces loving on me, and smiles with gratitude after the fact. The visual you shared, of my inner, self-replenishing well of life force energy is powerful. It has velcroed itself to my mind and will pop up as a gentle reminder to flow and ground when I slip into fatigue. I’m interested in your style of coaching and wondered if you have a website? Blessings 🙏🏼 Thank you for your response, Gary. Well it is what it is if them’s is the rules. The Universe works in mysterious ways so … 🤷🏼‍♀️ May your coaching practice continue to flourish, in the meantime I shall continue appreciating your wisdom on Insight Timer. With blessings and gratitude 🙏🏼

😁🫶Oooo this was a juicy one for me and it made me laugh with joy because you reflected back to me all that I have been feeling and living (in terms of choosing my Self as the love of my life) but not articulated in such an encompassing way as you did. Defo book marking this episode. 🧡 It’s taken many years to break the repetitive relationship patterns. Now I live emotionally unmeshed, solid in who I am and crystal about what I desire. I love an anology I came across a while back of allowing myself to be the field of glorious flowers, to simply bloom, be colourful, produce the nectar of a beautiful vibration, and watch the bees come and enjoy their fill. My cup runner over. I put no stock in February 14th. It’s someone else’s dictate. I can romance myself in the way you described any day of the year. And I do. Thank you for yet another great post, Gary. 🙏🏼

Thank you Gary 🙏🏼, I loved your different take on new year and resolutions etc. I decided a couple years back not to give January 1st my power anymore, instead my birthday is my new year for a bigger check-in, recalibration, reflect, celebrate, integrate, course adjust. It’s quiet, gentle, and just mine. I love what you said about building an architecture for my life so it supports me on those days when I cannot. I agree that it’s the micro steps, taken daily, that compound to create the beauty that is my life, lived present and conscious. I look forward to more of your teachings. ❤️

Superb. Felt that the message was for me personally. I'm still deep in it. Withdrawal, isolation have become modus operandi. I only know how to reach out by giving something, or something of myself. To work on, for sure. 🙏💞

Many beautiful ideas, thanks for sharing 🙏🏽🍀🌞💖