MS35 - Change Your life, Change Your Attitude, Be Powerful

Mohanji speaks about the frustrations that are currently building for people causing violence at home. By readjusting our understanding of life, our attitudes, we can become powerful people and bring stability to ourselves and those around us. This is today's 'food for thought'.

Transcript

Hello my friends,

We spoke about domestic violences,

Psychological disorders,

Attention deficit syndromes all those kind of things.

Where are all these things coming from?

We discussed that in the last episode.

I decided to take this to one more episode because this is very important.

It is about our stability.

If we are stable at home,

A house where there is lot of love,

There is lot of stability,

The society sees that happening as well in the society because these people bring that stability to the society.

We need lot of stable people.

We need stability within us,

In our household and the society and we must while we can.

So I was talking about how I was experiencing life many times in childhood,

In youth and also during my working times in the companies.

I have faced failures,

Tremendous failures and each time I face failures,

I realize that there is hardly any company.

People don't appreciate you to fail or people don't appreciate people who fail.

They only want winners.

The criteria of assessment for winning is money,

Richness,

Materials which are visible.

Even like a good pen,

A pen or a car or something tangible,

Visible.

But how they earned it,

We don't know.

Sometimes some people have compromised their conscience to earn that but people do not have a problem with that or they have earned this.

I myself have experienced,

I have trusted people cheating,

Betraying and those kind of things and society sometimes supports them.

I become so surprised that society has no problem even if they do a bad thing.

Bad thing means putting somebody down,

Betraying,

Cheating,

Stealing,

Like that.

Society do not have a problem.

Society have no problem if they bribe and get their way through.

So we are looking at a society which is a bit aberrated,

Corrupted.

We can't look at society and then decide how we should be because that's probably not the right benchmark.

What we should be is what helps our conscience.

Do we feel good?

Are we stable in our conscience?

This is a good benchmark to talk about because if our conscience is clear,

I think we have a good existence.

When we are violent in the house,

When we abuse our family members,

We are angry and fighting with them and kind of ignoring them,

Disrespecting them,

We don't feel good.

Conscience is affected and we must understand why it's happening.

Sometimes we need external help,

Counselling.

We must get that done.

We must go for it.

Every time the domestic violence is happening,

We should not just blame the person.

We just look at the psychology of the person.

Probably the person has gone through many,

Many sorrows,

Many disappointments,

Many betrayals or many rejections.

So this frustration is boiling inside and that's the expression of domestic violence could be that.

Right from school days,

We must counsel children.

We must reward them for small things,

Recognise them for their talents,

Appreciate them and bring them up with confidence where their own talents is the only thing they need to give to the society,

Not what all the society wants.

It's not about the marks in school,

It's not about the grades,

It's not about succeeding exams even,

But their own talents,

How well they can hone it,

They will be peaceful,

Settled.

If small appreciations cannot happen,

Even later big appreciations will not have value.

Every small thing should be appreciated.

I've experienced different difficulties.

One is the workplace competition,

Discrimination.

I even had a situation where there was hardship allowance when you have to go to countries which are very fragile and very difficult and that time it was Iraq.

Iraq was very difficult and they decided to give one set of hardship allowance for me and to my colleague who was a British guy,

He was given a different hardship allowance and then when I asked why is the difference,

They gave me some lame excuses which did not hold water.

Then I asked them,

See this is not good because everybody's life is the same.

All people have the same life,

Our value for life is the same and this is not good.

So two different hardship allowances in the same office,

It's discrimination.

So these kind of things happen.

I was not feeling so good at that time but then I did my job.

I decided,

Okay forget about all that,

A job has to be done and it should be done.

I did not believe in protesting and just ignoring the job.

I did my job well and that earned the company money and all those things I did as I have to.

So I believe that we should not ignore our work and we should do what we have to do.

These kind of things were a problem,

Like this was a workplace difficulties but I continued.

The point I'm saying is that we can do a lot in our world,

In our world to make a balance in people's lives.

See small things like equality,

Equanimity,

Nobody's higher,

Nobody's lower,

Everybody's appreciated for their good work.

These kind of things we can implement in our life easily.

You know we appreciate,

We respect,

We reward and we recognize all these things can help stabilize and society brands you very easily.

When I lost my daughter in 2000 and I lost so many things of life in the corresponding years and then the best of friends were not available.

They were all busy with their own life and they don't really want to spend a time with a kind of loser of the society.

So I experienced all these things and I was wondering how deep is our love,

How deep is our friendship,

Commitment,

Conviction,

How deep is our companionship,

How deep is our ability to love unconditionally or against all odds.

All these questions were happening and I decided they are not worth thinking.

What you can do is what should stabilize you.

Your expression,

That's your stability.

I was literally focusing on myself.

I growed the world around me and that stabilized me.

So now the questions which came are connected to domestic violence.

So I will not deviate from that.

I will pick about this and conclude.

Imagine you have no appreciation from home.

What do you do?

You got to love yourself.

You have to accept yourself.

You have to really consider and respect yourself as a great personality.

It has nothing to do with other people's appreciation or rejection.

So if you really believe in yourself,

If you really,

Really appreciate even small aspects of yourself such as your heartbeat,

Your breathing,

Your eating,

Your sleeping and you have so many good things happening in your life like you have a shelter,

You have a roof over your head,

You have food to eat.

All those things can be considered as merits.

Just count on what you have or even the Mohanji platform you have.

That platform is giving you a lot of opportunities,

Connections,

Visibility,

So many good factors.

So if you are looking at what you don't have,

You will always be sad.

But if you look at what you have and start walking,

That's the only place you can start walking.

This is what I did.

When adverse situations were pulling me down all the time,

I got up and started walking again.

Many times I got knocked down but I got up again and walked.

And that's exactly why you have Mohanji today.

It wasn't easy because many people whom I trusted most,

They betrayed me and they decided to go against me.

All these things happened but I still continued to walk.

I didn't ask them why.

I didn't even discuss with them.

That is the experience you want with me,

Go ahead,

Have it because I can't change it.

To love me or hate me and I have nothing to do with it.

So if somebody hates you,

Somebody abuses you,

You have nothing to do with it.

Instead you can be kindness.

Your answer to this world should be your kindness,

Your consistency,

Your compassion and your conviction in what you do.

And this way if you answer,

Eventually the world will look at you with the same effect.

Means all that you express will come back to you.

So my suggestion,

I can't do these things because my family does not approve etc.

You can still communicate.

If you have a laptop,

If you are talking,

If you are using your phone to communicate,

Write,

Communicate.

If you can't do it at home because the people don't approve your meditations and your activities,

You still have a phone,

You have an internet connection,

You have your laptop.

So talk about it,

Connect to people,

Network and communicate.

So that's equal.

Now today you can't really go to a place and meditate because of the COVID-19 situation.

So we have to use our internet facilities,

Our skypes and all these things where you talk to various people through internet,

Through the laptop.

So see we have to keep on looking at what we have.

Not look at whether the other person approves or not and then fight it and then get frustrated and then you feel depressed.

That's not the way.

We got to just keep flowing like water,

Like river.

We got to keep flowing and this is our ability.

We got to really,

Really keep flowing and when I felt discrimination in my office,

I did not stop working.

I did not protest.

I just told them that's unfair and then I left it because I expressed my thought to the right people,

Right person and then I just left it because then it's up to them.

But I did not stop working.

What I did was I worked hard.

I proved myself.

I did my best.

Like that in every situation you can prove yourself.

You can actually make a difference in your own environment by expressing conviction consistently with a lot of determination.

So we can change anything.

I think there is nothing we can't change.

Change our attitude.

If we change our attitude,

We can change anything.

If we don't change our attitude,

Then we will sit and complain.

I believe that there is no room for complaints.

God has given us so many facilities.

We must appreciate them.

What we don't have,

Leave it because if it comes,

It comes.

It doesn't come,

No problem.

But what we have,

We must appreciate and we must really use it well.

We have that capacity and you have friendships,

Great friendships in the Mohanji platform also.

So this you can use very well and then collectively you can create great things.

Early Birds Club and all those kind of things where you add value to many people's lives.

Your life will get more value or you will feel that reciprocation happening to you.

It will get reciprocated.

Means when you deliver,

You also get a lot of rewards.

So if your family cannot see you as a great personality,

The society will see you.

That is compensation.

I leave this thought on your plate and contemplate on it and improve your life.

Change your attitude.

Be powerful.

Gods of Love.

This is Mohanji.

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