Gaslighting Recovery S.O.S.

A 3-minute S.O.S. for those in the process of healing from being gaslit. Suitable for any type of relationship or connection. Set to gentle piano music and spoken in first-person language. To learn more about gaslighting and what it is, consider listening to Heidi's audio: "Learning Series: Gaslighting 101."

Music by Kevin MacLeod "Luminous Rain"

Transcript

I do remember what was said,

What was done,

And how it felt.

I'm not too sensitive or emotional.

My feelings are valid.

It wasn't just a joke or a silly misunderstanding.

I'm not making things up.

I am not confused.

I heard what was said correctly.

Most people are reliable.

They do what they say they will do,

And clearly communicate if they cannot.

While rare mistakes of this nature are understandable,

They should not be a regular occurrence.

I am not losing my mind.

I know when and how to take responsibility for my own actions.

I am not constantly at fault.

I do not need to apologize for things I did not do.

The actions of others are in fact not my actions.

Occasional kindness is not enough.

Brief moments of connection or favor is not worth the pain.

I know who I am.

I'm valued and can create other relationships.

Not everyone will see the truth,

But plenty do,

Including me.

It is not my fault for being manipulated.

I can forgive myself for not seeing it sooner.

I can grow,

Learn,

And change.

There are people who can support me on this journey.

I can find myself and walk a healing path.

Reviews

I’m so relieved to hear these words! You see how I’ve felt & hearing your words reminds me what I’ve felt is true. My reality is true. I come back to this app everyday because I feel seen. Thank you for helping me feel seen!!! 💞🙏💗✨

Listening bought tears to my eyes, I am on the healing path. Thank you Heidi🦋

I sure needed to hear this today. Thank you!! 🙏🙏🙏

I'm going to use this at work with a challenging boss...

THANK YOU 🙏! This ( and a series of meditations/talks) was VERY helpful for me today. This one was especially helpful. I intend to come back to listen to some of your other offerings in near future and perhaps even frequently. I tag/saved/whatever it’s called a couple of your playlists for later. I think they may be beneficial for me. Thanks 🙏 again!
The main gaslighter died two weeks ago and we buried her a week ago and now, all the “stuff” ( that I thought I had healed and moved passed) have all been flooding my mind ( and the anger has arisen again!), almost more than ever. This too shall pass.

🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟I’m slowly learning (for me, at least), that I (and most of my family) have been gaslit my entire life by my horrifically cruel patriarchal grandfather (and a very abused “victim-turned-villain” grandmother), because he couldn’t handle objective reality, so he forced everyone to accept and live in his small, bitter, hateful reality (so he wouldn’t feel so alone), or else face harsh physical, emotional, mental, verbal, and spiritual abuse from him. It’s such an earth-moving and soul-moving experience to lovingly guide yourself out of such a dark place after existing there for so long, truly believing all the terrible things that gaslighters say in order to control, control, control. I stripped myself of my joy, my beauty, my creativity, my optimism, my passion, my opinions, and my life because he felt threatened by anyone who wasn’t as paranoid and freaked out as he was. Like we all had to become exactly as him, or he would “end us” for “abandoning him”, even though (I know now) that it was he who did the abandonment. Thank you for all you do for us 🙏❤️

Thank you Heidi 🙏 still coming to terms with being gaslit for so many years and doubting my reality and my sanity. I wonder if gaslighting is the behaviour of individuals who are ill equipped to have an adult exchange of differences?🍂

I came upon this meditation by coincidence. There’s been a lot of gaslighting going on my life lately I didn’t realize it was gaslighting… And it made for some craziness in my own life. Until I recognized that the best that I can do is recognize it, love myself and know my own truth. Thank you for your wise words today because being gaslit has been so heartbreaking and healing from it is hard work and include setting firm boundaries and sometimes leaving loved ones behind in an effort to love ourselves. Thank you.

I needed this today. And will listen to it regularly. After a whole life in Gaslighting, from growing up and through every single relationship, I am starting to finally heal and make better choices 🙏

Thanks for this🙏🏽. A short and effective set of affirmations that are very helpful✨

I love your talks and poems. As I’ve said before, they speak to my soul and resonate deeply within me. Do you have anything on self gaslighting? It’s a slippery slope I often fall down

A lovely little booster of confidence and self love. Thank you. ♥️

Thank you so much for these, Heidi! Much appreciated!

Very upsetting, but where I am right here and now, I believe I need to feel very sad, and to allow myself some self compassion. Crying for me, 60 in July, is hard a lot of the time, but every time I let go, I get much better at it. It always helps. It used to feel like I’d never stop on the odd occasion.

Thank you for this, I’ve already added 2 to my new playlist, this is 3 and I have read the titles of the others there all going in for sure. ✊🏻🙏🏻♥️

Short and to the point. Opened me up to a lot of questions. Thank you

Beautiful! I struggle with memories around being gaslit by family members. It’s very reassuring to hear the truth, allow it to sink into my heart.

Learning more about this. It was too worriesome for me to learn early on in complex trauma recovery. Ex- does this all the time. Thank you for the insight.

This was a beautiful sharing. Very helpful. Thank you so much. 🙏🌹

So well encompassing! A lifeline.

Exactly the messages I needed- thank you!