The Influence Of Your Family System

Previous generations can (unconsciously) determine a few things in your life. Ready to dive deeper? This is an interesting and stimulating podcast that prompts you to look at your life experiences. Marine explores the idea that your family history can have an impact on the way you experience, perceive and feel about particular situations. You might want to grab a pen and a piece of paper or notepad for the full experience.

Transcript

The influence of past generations on your current life So today I want at first to offer you the opportunity to draw your family tree on at least three generations maybe four if you know a few things regarding your great-grandparents and Also,

If you are a mother or father or maybe a grandmother or grandfather You can also add your children your grandchildren and why not your great-grandchildren So first grab a piece of paper and a few markers of different colors if you would like and at the bottom of the piece of paper it will be your name if you are the last generation right now of your family or Or again,

If you have children or grandchildren,

Well,

They will be at the bottom of your piece of paper on The tree on the family tree you are going to note the dates of birth and death of family members as well as any important or major events as war abortion marriage divorce murder children given away suicide dramatic financial loss immigration slavery insanity and so forth When you are done Take a look at your family tree and look for any patterns or repetitions for example the same date of birth or death among family members repeated disorders any traumatic events that occurred at a similar age or Exclusions from the family through homosexuality disabilities or being a single parent Then circle the event that is the most traumatic or strikes you the most when you look at it then circle the events that gives you the most strength and Finally let your different thoughts and insights come into your mind and pass through look at your family tree with love and One by one what you can do is you can thank each member for being part of your family system and to dive deeper in the understanding of your generations being part of your family tree Here I want to share with you a few insights on how Previous generations in your family can help you determine a few things Regarding your life your behavior and why not your decision?

The first generation is you plus your siblings a It determines your perception about space and how to share in daily life This was your first environment Where you learn how to live survive and maybe even fight in a community?

To be able to find and claim your place for example Your primary environment growing up may influence the way you interact with others in a group Do you give freely or are you afraid of liking something?

Are you the friend who shares his food at a restaurant or are you the one who does not like the concept of tapas?

Because you dislike sharing with others This is rooted in fear of not having enough Perhaps because your brother always stole your food on your plate and your parents did not interfere or Maybe your sister always stole your clothes or IDs without first asking for your permission Another example You stay in the corner of the room waiting for someone to invite you to be part of the party This could be because your sister was so extravagant that there was no space for you to be seen Then the second generation Your parents plus their siblings It's about sexuality creating your life and identity It is the sexuality of your parents that created you Your parents give you life They created your existence and at first you relate to them in order to know who you are for example If your father kept telling you that you are useless You may suffer from feelings of unworthiness This means in your adult life,

You may always attract people or friends that will make you feel not enough Feeding the unconscious identity your father gave you Example number two if your parents trusted you and let you experience whatever you wanted to You may feel more bold and inclined to believe in your dreams and create all of them The third generation Your grandparents plus their siblings It is about feelings and emotions Since you can understand how your parents were raised You can understand their connection with their own parents and have clarity on how they raised you Example number one If your grandfather was emotionally unavailable You may notice your father or mother was also emotionally unavailable towards you Example number two if your grandmother was an invasive mother with your mother or father Then your mom or dad may do the opposite in order to give you privacy and intimacy They suffered from not having it,

But you may see it as a Not caring about you Example number three If your grandmother was obsessed with food and looking thin Your mother may make you feel like you need to pay attention to what you eat As a result,

You may be the one gaining weight even so your eating habits are pretty healthy This is due to a somatization of swelling Somatization is a production of multiple symptoms With no discernible cause meaning since you are unconsciously feeling the stress caused by your grandmother on your mother You indirectly experience these same symptoms regardless of your own personal habits And then the fourth generation Your great-grandparents plus their siblings It is about the moral philosophy and belief of the family Example number one if you know you had an independent strong-willed great-grandmother You may notice there are many strong independent women in your family Example number two if your great-grandfather had an affair with another woman and had a baby That baby was your grandfather the father Of your father So there may be affairs cheating or illegitimate children in the family system Also,

There may be jealousy in love relationships and no trust between men and women Do not worry if you don't know a lot about your family lineage Your body sensations and present life will give you clues in order to release what needs to be released And allow you to move on The more you look into your family system,

The more you'll be able to understand recurring issues and behaviors When you cannot find an answer to a problem in your present moment,

It may be that it belongs to your past Even more it likely belongs to someone else But as a loyal member of your family system,

You are unconsciously trying to resolve it on your own Thank you so much for listening to me If you have any questions,

Please feel free to comment in the section dedicated to it Enjoy your day.

Bye!

Reviews

Love all your meditation.They help us heal our past wounds,and look at relationship s with a loving perspective.Thank you. 🙏💖🤗✨🎇

So interesting, thank you! I wish it were expanded (a lot). So many connections to analize! 🙏🏻✨

Very interesting indeed ! Thank you 🙏 will listen again.

I wish this were longer, with more information, especially for those not raised by biological family.

Interesting views regarding which aspects of life are affected by nuclear vs extended family.
TY 🙏🏼

Spot on for me. Thank you for your insight

A very interesting talk, which helps with the realisation that the way we are is not our fault, so we can be kinder towards ourselves and hopefully more mindful of those who come after.

Very good topic and worth hearing. Eloquently delivered and well structured. The content resonates with me as I'm currently reading a book on the same topic called It Didn't Start With You by Mark Wolynn.

Very interesting.

Fascinating. I think this podcast could easily be longer and really with more depth. This is a very engaging topic. Thank You

Would LOVE to hear more. Though, I have many questions regarding how I would make my family tree?? I lost my biological mother at age 7. My father left us.
At age 11 I got adopted giving me not only an entire family with a sibling.
But they were American whereas I was born in Yugoslavia.
Any idea are greatly appreciated!!
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Interesting. Thank you!

Very insightful! Thank you!

Wow. That really made sense!! Thank you.