Hello and welcome.
This is Clea,
And the concept that I want to talk about today is the concept of normal and why it rules our lives.
Something that I've noticed in the people that I talk to every day,
In the people that I've worked with,
In my friends,
In myself,
In everyone around me,
Is this concept of normal and how it differs from one person to another,
Especially if we're talking about specific things,
Because we all have this concept of what is normal,
What we accept,
In a way the standard that we expect,
How things are supposed to be,
How we accept things to be,
And I personally believe that this concept of normal rules our lives because,
For example,
If you think that it is normal to be in a friend group when they are not respectful towards you,
You don't put your boundaries there,
You do not leave that group,
You do not seek for better friends.
So that is normal for you,
And it makes you feel very bad,
You are not respecting yourself,
But since this is your standard,
This is your concept of a normal group of friends,
You do not put your boundaries,
You do not look for people that see the value in you and for people who truly respect you,
And this goes for friendships,
Relationships,
Work and career,
And all kinds of stuff.
You may be in a toxic work environment,
And even though you may not be really happy with the payment and all of that,
And if you looked for another job with a better payment,
Or you may be in a toxic work environment,
And you're not happy there,
You end up feeling really bad every day after work,
But you do not put your boundaries,
And you do not seek for another job opportunity,
Because this is what a picture of a normal job is to you.
You see,
What we see as normal is what we expect in life,
And it can be the same environment,
But for someone else,
For example,
For someone that expects that their friend respect them,
And this person also respect the friends and the people they are surrounded by.
If this person is in a group of people and feels disrespected,
One,
They put their boundaries,
Two,
If,
For example,
Another person,
A girl,
Is in the same situation with a group of people that are not respecting her,
She stands up for herself,
She puts her boundaries,
She's not friend with these people,
Because her standard of what is normal,
What is a normal friendly interaction,
What friends are,
Is not disrespectful,
It's not people who disrespect her.
You see,
What we perceive as normal rules our lives,
Because we do not fight it.
So,
One of the things that I see as very important is taking some time and reflecting.
What do you want your future to look like,
And writing it down in as many details as possible,
And during this process of where you want to go,
Notice what you deem as normal,
What is in your life that you want to change,
Because who you are now is a result of who you were,
And now,
Who you will become is a result of who you are now,
And who you are choosing to become day by day.
And every one of us has this superpower of changing our lives.
An important part in changing our lives is noticing what we are seeing as normal,
What are we accepting,
What do we want,
Because if you don't know what you want,
You cannot go and get it.
