Hello.
This short practice is designed to disconnect from a relationship which you've decided you no longer want in your life.
It's easy to forget the bad times and remember the good,
And it can take practice to maintain your determination to move on.
I know I've sure been there when I decide I'm done with someone but keep sticking around or going back.
This practice of face value can be seen as creating hater aversion,
But in these cases where one is attached to clinging,
It is a useful first step on the path of letting go.
Forgiveness can be put on pause until you get free of them.
Let's practice.
Bring to mind the person you are working with.
Notice the mixed feelings.
Notice the pull that still exists.
Notice the aversion and anything else that arises.
Now bring to mind something you dislike about the person.
It can be anything.
Maybe you just don't like the way they look anymore or maybe it's that weird little way they have judging everything you say and do.
Allow any other dislikable qualities to enter your mind.
If you find yourself remembering the good times,
Just reconnect with your intention to let them go and return to the things that you dislike.
Now bring to mind something they did to you that is not acceptable.
Maybe they eat off your plate after you repeatedly ask them not to or maybe they're fully abusive and controlling.
Remember the hurt.
Now just imagine them doing some unskillful things,
Whether they really have or not,
Just to cultivate the intention we're going for.
Imagine them talking smack about your friends.
Imagine them being rude to your parents.
Imagine them abusing serving staff at a restaurant.
Imagine them hurting someone's pet.
Imagine them ignoring you in front of their friends.
Imagine them not believing in you and dismissing your ideas.
As we close,
Remember that this is not designed to make this person into a monster,
Simply to give you the motivation to get free and move on.
In time,
May you find forgiveness for this human,
But until then,
Return to this practice anytime you feel like unblocking their number and seeing how they're doing.
Thanks for your courageous practice today.
