Hi,
Welcome to another Jack Goddman podcast.
This is Fear Evolution and Being Ourselves.
Aging is amazing because we get to know ourselves better and we realize to be or not to be ourselves is a choice and this choice is governed by our relationship with fear.
Is our relationship with fear healthy or unhealthy?
To be our true selves is to embrace all parts of our being and this includes the fears that naturally arise when we do so.
One of the biggies,
The big fears,
Is the fear of rejection and often preceding this is the fear of not appearing normal.
These are two of the big reasons why we choose to fold rather than become our true selves.
When we learn to embrace fear and to trust it as having our back,
As being on our side,
We recognize one of the key support roles that it plays in our lives and that is whenever we are lost or we can't see the wood for the trees,
Fear,
Our trusty sidekick,
Our trusty companion,
Always,
Always points us in the right direction.
We just have to be willing to lean into the discomfort of fear with an open heart and when we do so we are always,
Always led into the land of our hopes and our dreams.
And so the more intimate and healthier our relationship is with fear,
The more able we are to freely be ourselves.
When we are rejected for expressing our true selves,
In particular by a family member or a loved one,
It can be particularly challenging.
The lure to slip quietly back into the stream of social conformity can be strong but this is an opportunity for us to remind ourselves that fear is evolutionary and our loved ones,
Our family members,
Are simply doing the best that they can at the level of fear evolution that they are at.
They are quite simply scared.
Us being ourselves scares them.
Not because us being ourselves isn't normal,
There is no normal.
It's because it triggers the battle within them to be or not to be themselves.
It digs its fingers into this internal battle that exists within all human beings and rather than go within they project their discomfort onto those of us who are being ourselves or who are attempting to be ourselves.
When we feel rejected for being ourselves,
It's also a beautiful opportunity to remind ourselves,
Well done for being brave,
Well done for taking a tiny,
Tiny step or a huge leap towards true authentic self-expression.
Normal is meeting the expectations of others rather than our true selves and so subscribing to normal is an act of fear.
And on the flip side,
Authenticity isn't about not being afraid,
It's about learning to walk hand in hand with fear,
To perceive fear as a companion,
As a positive guide and influence in our lives.
Fear is evolutionary.
Each time we choose to be ourselves,
We evolve just a little bit more.
We become better at accepting ourselves and others and what a beautiful gift to us.
What a beautiful gift to the people we share our lives with and what a beautiful gift to the world.
So embrace fear and keep choosing to be you because it is an act of love and love is what life is all about.
If the idea of befriending fear is new to you or inspires you,
You might like to listen to my talk,
Fear is Love.
It's where I share my story,
How I learned to create a healthy,
Nurturing relationship with fear and I share tools and tips to guide you along the way.
So yeah,
Enjoy being you and all the magic it brings into your life,
It really does.
I'm Jack Goddman,
Thank you for joining me.
So awesome to connect with you.
Be safe,
Be strong,
Be kind and until next time,
Bye for now.
You
