Relationships: Attachment Or Connection (Live Replay No. 11)

Relationships are central to life and the spiritual experience yet many find them challenging. Philip clarifies the true fundamental source of relationship, the profound difference between attachment and connection, how conflict and suffering arises, moving beyond it, and the fundamental key of acceptance which is also central to liberation. Once again, Philip uses the powerful fibre optic lamp metaphor (cover image) to draw out key insights and guidance.

Transcript

So yeah,

Welcome again everybody to Stream 9 of 11 on the Nothing Special Self-Realization program here on Insight Timer.

There were actually two precursor streams in 2021 which are also relevant.

So yeah,

Tonight is relationships and they're what they mean in the context of spiritual self-realization and we're going to have a look at that.

Maybe it's in a way that you've never really thought of relationships before or maybe it is,

I don't know,

But we'll see.

But I really want to go right down to first principles,

The absolute core of where relationships come from in the first place,

What that means in terms of how we relate on the human level and particularly what that also means in the context of spiritual self-realization.

So this is a really deep dive into the fundamentals of relationships and then looking at how that then manifests in the human domain and what that points us to in the context of self-realization.

So also just to say on behalf of Insight Timer and myself,

For all the donations that have been made over the course of the program,

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So thank you for that.

So let's get stuck in and I'm going to bring out once again my trusty fiber optic lamp.

It's such a powerful metaphor this one that I can use it in many different ways to come up with many different aspects of self-realization and for tonight obviously the focus is on relationships.

So some of you may have seen it before,

Some of you maybe haven't if you're on here for the first time,

But let's start with the basics again.

So that the points of light here on the end of the fiber optic represent us in the human form and as I've said several times now over the course of streams,

It looks for all the world,

All the other people are separate from us and there's around 8 billion people on the planet at the moment and that's just the people.

We spend most of our lives looking outwards and from that perspective the world can be actually quite a scary place and it's based on or rooted in separation.

And the whole meditative journey as I've said several times is all about looking down the filament,

First recognizing the pure beingness,

The state I am or spheres of light which is not personal,

It's an infinite state of being,

Coming to that awareness and then recognizing that even that is a phenomena as a subtle as it might be and because it's a phenomenon,

Pure being,

Universal being,

The state I am,

It can be seen or witnessed from a deeper state that is the infinite silence or infinite awareness and it is this that's realized and it is this that we all are,

Truly are and in this space there's no such thing as relationship because everything isn't thingness anymore,

It's no thingness and it's all one space of infinite awareness that is indeed infinite,

Untouched,

Unblemished,

Unmoved,

Beyond space and time and it's this,

It's this that we realize in self-realization.

Now because of conditioning and belief that all we are is the body-mind,

We believe that all that is in fact all what we are and our beliefs create our experience and it's only by virtue of that movement from here to here that there can in fact be relationship in the first place because here there's no,

The relationship is completely meaningless,

There is no separateness,

It is all one uniform energetic field that is self-aware.

So you could call that connection,

Union or even holy communion,

As in whole,

Complete,

This is the absolute oneness that's talked about in spiritual circles and this awareness,

This field of infinite silence seeks to express and come to know itself in its own experience and it does that in many different ways,

Stars,

Planets,

Animals,

Planets but also in the human form and we in the human form get identified with that,

Get believe in that and we relate typically from this level completely forgetting that actually we're all intrinsically one,

Intrinsically one,

This is our true essence,

Our true nature and it's only by relating at this level which is rooted in our conditioning our beliefs and as I talked about at length last time the emotional body,

This is because this is the source,

This belief in this is actually also the source of all the problems that we come across in human relationships because we all have our own embodied trauma in the emotional body which has come from our belief in that separation which is created,

What I call a core sense of unworthiness,

A separation from that source and typically in relationships were essentially relating from the ego mind and from this identification and from these belief systems and this indeed is the source of all conflict both in terms of personal relationships but also family,

Community,

National,

International,

This belief in this identity and that your view of the world is in fact the correct one is the source of conflict not only on a international level which results in war and has done many times over humanity's history but also results in the same conflict individual and personal relationships and typically when we're responding in relationships and trouble is arising it's because of the belief systems we're operating from and the emotional trauma that is causing triggers within us by the either the actions or the inactions of other people in our immediate environment so when triggers are arriving in relationships we may actually blame the other person but if there's something going on inside of us actually that's an indicator that the something that we're carrying that we're actually being triggered by that may actually be nothing to do with the other person and the example I'll often use here is let's say there's a couple of people walking down the street and everything's okay with the world both are fine and then something happens maybe something says something to somebody or an event unfolds or whatever and one of these people is suddenly triggered and the other person is completely fine now the same thing has been heard seen said or whatever so was it the event or the whatever the other person may have said that's responsible or is it something going on in us now the fact that person a is unmoved by the situation she gives you an indication that actually there's something that person B who is the one that's been triggered is actually carrying something energetically emotionally spiritually that is actually an invitation to resolve that issue now this doesn't excuse the actions or inactions of others you know acting in an unloving or unkind way but the fact that there is a trigger in person B means that person B is carrying something emotionally energetically that they're being invited to dissolve and resolve it may be let's say somebody said something person C said something that resulted in a reaction in person B it may be that they're completely unaware of what it is that they may have said they're done that has caused this so we take a kind of innocent situation yet person B is triggered so this is an invitation for person B to look at what it is that's going on then but most often in relationships particularly in personal relationships whether it be family friends partners we can often get into the blame game when actually completely and utterly ignoring the fact that there's actually something inside of us that we're being invited to look at and again I just need to stress it doesn't condone this this does not about condoning unloving or unkind behaviors you know shouting at somebody saying something unkind or whatever but the mere fact that there is a trigger and there's something happening energetically means that there's something happening inside of you that you're being invited to look at and all of that all of that ultimately comes from this belief in separation that I am the body mind upon which the emotional conditioning and the trauma that you've built up over life is being triggered by the events in life so some people have just met and they're triggering each other it's unlikely to be to do with the specifics of their connection or their relationship it's much more likely ultimately to go back to the root causes of where the trauma was first arisen and often most often and quite commonly that can be in childhood but it can equally easily be in adulthood as well a lot of the emotional body gets built by our childhood experiences as loving as they can be there's still mistakes being made misunderstandings being made but by virtue of the fact that almost everybody in the planet is actually living from this space of identity I am this person with this story and these experiences and these beliefs and where there's a kind of similarity in those belief sets then these are the kinds of people that you typically will get on quite well with but where there's a clash in belief sets these are where the the arguments and so forth arise from they're all coming from identity and identity ultimately will will result in never inevitably result in conflict now when it comes to say very close personal relationships intimate relationships partners and so forth one of the things that can happen quite commonly that you'll you'll see in that those situations is people can often be and this is a phrase that you that sometimes useless bonded by trauma that can be quite similar experiences even if not exactly the same in that in their earlier lives like the emotional experiences traumatic experiences issues to do with parenting family friends and so forth there can often be similarities in those that actually result in people coming together into an intimate relationship and being bonded by that trauma and then struggling with that by virtue of the emotional trauma that they're being bonded by I'm just gonna pause for a moment and just look at the comments that have just popped up before I go into some more depth here Tracy's thing is it a soul reflection well the first thing we say that Tracy is depends what we mean by the word soul because if you use the word so it can mean many different things to many different people when I'm talking about soul in the set context of spiritual self-realization and much more likely to be talking about this is a kind of play on the word soul but using each of the lessons single outpouring of universal love ie the infinite awareness or the infinite silence now that has no conditioning has no judgment and so in that context it wouldn't be a reflection the thing that's typically being reflected when there's conflict in any form of relationship with a close personal national international community of family or whatever is the source of that conflict is coming from conditioning it's coming from belief sets and what typically people are doing and it's only a scale on this from very mild to extreme people are typically mirroring each other's egos and the emotional bodies as I say it can be very mild through to extreme so where there's deep and profound like hatred between people that's a very very deep-seated emotional belief set that's going on in that hatred environment when people are getting on very very well most of that conditioning is very very deeply buried and it's not necessarily manifesting on a day-to-day connection in terms of a relationship but even the most real loving relationships as I'm sure we've all discovered in our lives can result in triggers so the mirroring that's typically going on in the human level is because we're only relating mostly at the identity level not at the deepest level the one that's the connection something that answers that part Leah said I've had this today thankfully I realized it was my stuff there's a child part that feels she's being ignored or that someone doesn't like me this is an old core wound and one I'd like to release now and what you've just articulated there Lee is actually true for pretty much all of us are carrying around what I typically refer to as a sense of a sense of and an experience of core unworthiness and that ultimately comes from the sense of separation that is created by believing in this this is that which we all all that we are the body mind and everything gets built upon that so this wound this the deepest part of that wound Lee is actually this sense of core unworthiness or separation that will have no doubt been triggered and built upon in early life experiences typically childhood early adulthood or but it could even be in full adulthood and the recognition that that's still there is a good way to being open to resolving it and dissolving it and the full resolution of that is only ultimately gonna come by this dissolution of the emotional body which we talked about at length in the transmuting fear into love live stream and also touched on again in the emotions and blocks live stream last time so it's great that you've recognized that Lee so that's actually an invitation for you to look at that face that feel that witness it and be open to resolving and dissolving it using the power of this infinite awareness okay so I'm glad that worked for you Tracy and hope that sort of picks it up for you leave Vicky saying I battled with this for a long time my belief was buried so deep that it was only in I think it was only I'm not sure what that was enlightenment and some wonderful guidance that pulled me away from my beliefs indeed you know Vicky and as I was saying to Lee all of us will have experienced this until the nature the true nature of the self is being realized this belief system is still there and even some people can have the deepest realization but unless the emotional body's been dissolved there's always going to be a gravitational pull towards it and so you can still get triggered and as I've said on many occasions now the triggers are actually invitations and obviously it's not about condoning the inappropriate and unloving and unkind behaviors of others but it is about recognizing what's actually going on the reason people act in those ways in the first place in unkind unloving lose it in the moment getting get angry and all the rest of it all of that all of that comes from the conditioning and so we're not relating we're not connecting we're actually relating from here the identity and that's always gonna result in trouble at some point even in the most aware of relationships they'll still be stuff that can come up so Lee is saying yes it's been with me all day realizing frequently thanks okay I'm glad that's working for you Vicky so you know everybody at one degree or another is carrying this this kind of work we'll you'll experience as a wound that Lee is referring to it could be referred to as a sense of corner at the core unworthiness which is actually not true about you who you are but that in itself comes from this polarity this sense of separation from the source from the silence from the awareness that occurs when we believe that all we are is the identity that's where all of the problems come from and the key issue in that is the belief there are three parts that I often refer to it as belief identification and attachment they come as a package belief identification attachment it's the belief if the belief is dissolved the attachment and the identification will be resolved with it which is why I focus on belief and belief sets and the belief in the case of mistaken identity as the root problem of all of the suffering and that manifests in the field of human relationships that's manifesting every moment it's only a matter of degree it may be very mild or it may be very extreme and so we're relating most often from identity when the invitation is actually to connect much more deeply so when you start to open to the awareness within and realize that there's this deeper presence that you truly are the focus of your attention will shift significantly not only within you but where it is within others so people have actually asked me quite a lot over the years at events what do I see when I am you know with people whether here online or in person now obviously just like you I can see the the physical appearance and it's very obvious the overlay of the ego that's there in us it's self-evident it's being presented all the time but that's not where my attention is rested because there's a complete knowing that I am this infinite silence this infinite awareness and they are too now for not many people this would mean absolutely nothing and so people say well how do you relate to people when they're nowhere near this and my response to that is I meet them where they are there's no point in going into this kind of depth that I'm sharing with you here with somebody whose time is not yet ripe to connect with this so we can just meet a relatively should we say superficial level and have quite a cordial relationship with that's without any judgment you see when we come from the space of awareness there's a complete absence of judgment and there's a recognition that oh yeah although there is another body there and another being expressed uniquely they too are this they too are this and this is an opening and an invitation to a much more cordial and a deeper connection just going to check on the comes Farina saying when you speak of dissolution of the emotional body were you going to add something there Verena oh are you referring to old stock painful memories not the current emotional part of our personality both Verena so it's definitely the deep seated painful emotional memories that are locked within the emotional body which is an energetic body but actually also encoded within the the cell cellular memory and actually can manifest in disease when they're deep enough I forgot to mention in talking about the emotions and blocks last livestream last time just one example of that how that can result in disease or disease that emotional trauma I'm not going to name the person but let's put it this way there's a person that I have helped that was diagnosed with cancer a long story short in a couple of one-to-ones with her she was very open very rapid she felt called to connect with me having had a tumor that was about two three inches wide or long and two inches wide or something like quite big completely in the space of a couple of weeks dissolved and it all related to an emotional memory from childhood that actually dissolved in the one-to-one that we did and she had a knowing that that had happened and I actually also got a vision that it had happened and then the RNI scan confirmed it had gone and the surgeons couldn't believe it and that's just one example of how deep seated emotional trauma can result in disease disease so this is very very important to understand that the impact of this conditioning that goes on and it impacts upon our relationships and in fact the trauma that she released there was also to do with a relationship a child relationship in fact where this incident had first occurred that's how important it is to understand that only connecting at this level or relating at this level is ultimately going to lead to problems what we're being invited to do is actually to connect is actually to connect and realize that we are in fact not just nice words we are in fact one we are in fact one you see when we're relating at the only at that identity level the identity is always always always on a journey of self-preservation and this is a small s self the ego self the identity self is always trying to preserve its world view and then as I say if there's people around us that have similar world views then we can get on most of the time fine but there still may be bits of conflict here and there but if there's different world views then instantly there's problems because that's it perceives as an attack upon its worldview when there's people that we're not connecting very well with we're not relating very well with or then you get all at the bottom of that is their belief system versus belief systems that you're carrying and the other thing that this identification is doing is constantly not only judging yourself but unconsciously we end up judging others by our own beliefs and so we're constantly judging this is good that is bad whereas awareness has a complete absence of judgment Maria's saying or opportunities I'm not quite sure in connection with what but every relationship whether it be a deep personal intimate one or a superficial meet somebody at the supermarket one is actually an opportunity for spiritual depth spirit we all experience it as a growth but ultimately it's a realization because we're typically coming from the self-preservation angle our beliefs as I explained in the beyond belief lifestream are like an armor that we're plating placing out in front of us to protect us from the world and what they this arm is being battered from within from our own belief sets and from without by the belief sets of others and so we typically won't let people into the true essence of who we are because we're in this kind of self-preservation and self-protection mode and we only start to feel comfortable with that we very much more closer relationships but even then partners as I'm sure we've all experienced can can trigger each other because of the conditioning that they've both experienced so let's just look at do you want to just expand upon your opportunities common Maria and then I'll see if we've covered it Farina's marinas saying and inner differences of point of view creating inner conflict and disease yes exactly that marina they basically there is one core mistaken belief and that's the belief in separation from the essence the source the infinite silence every other belief is a subset of that is a subset of that and these beliefs can vary wildly but all of them come from that one source if you attended the beyond belief live stream and I think that's now back on the insight timer as an audio only listen to that one again and I explained that both an awareness experiment that occurred in my childhood that was later made manifest in the human world in a very profound way and I explained also where an example there which was the thought experiment an awareness experiment that came into real being you'll help you understand this stream much further so we end up particularly in personal relationships bonding in close personal relationships bonding by trauma most often and that's why there can be these issues in those relationships and ultimately that ends up either in separation divorce arguments fights whatever because of the belief sets and the emotional bodies and a lack of awareness or consciousness being brought to those relationships so that's where all of the conflicts coming from so what Maria sing of course yes you mentioned differences might bring danger as self wants to perpetuate or opportunity to transcend the ego and it's the latter part Maria that I'm focusing on here it's an opportunity or the word I most often use an invitation to transcend the identity to see that there's a deeper bond that is untouched unmoved unblemished and where there's a complete holy communion of the oneness what's reducing it's the how of letting go that is difficult many myself included are aware of why the suffering occurs but find the letting go to be scary I guess so fantastic yeah indeed just as some observations or insights on there so oh so so fantastic the person you spoke of had such a wonderful healing okay just some insight on that what you've shared there Ruth the letting go being difficult the one who finds it difficult is the identity the one who finds it difficult is the identity and as we've done this who are my meditation and we can do that another version of that again tonight we have started to open up to and see that in fact we are not the identity if we can allow ourselves to take away the label difficult then the process starts to become easier because we start to trust in that infinite essence that is untouched and unmoved by this it is indeed however to the identity scary to let go of the identity and the conditioning that comes with it but unless we're prepared to face that fear from the space of awareness that we will always be in suffering so this is why the live stream that it talked about length head or heart understanding the difference between what those energies feel like and recognizing actually that the power of the heart not just your physical heart but the heart of silence is indeed infinite and by facing up to the trauma as it presents itself is actually going to ultimately be easier than hanging on hanging on because all that will do is make the suffering go on longer but also make the letting go process and the dissolution process harder so facing it when it happens is actually much easier and that's what the transmuting fear into love of live stream was about and that's what the last live stream was about as well you the emotions and blocks so hopefully that helps you Ruth a little bit Vicky's okay with the analogy so that's good peeling off the layers yeah and we will certainly experience it as a like peeling layers but the more deeply we can trust the awareness the more effective it will be the deeper the dissolution will be the more easily we will connect and relate at the human level because we're much more in touch with who we really are rather than believing in the identity and the emotional trauma that comes with that so Yvette is saying yes this is the point of which I stand hello came across this conflict only after years and I am trying to heal this manifestation of what I desire and letting go at the same time feeling all will be well sounds like ego yeah all of the trouble that you're pointing out there Yvette has come from the identity has come from the belief in the case of mistaken identity that is at the root of the emotional body upon which all the layers of trauma have been built like layers of an onion it's only by trusting the infinite silence or the infinite awareness through which all of these phenomena which includes the emotional body on the physical body appears that we can ultimately dissolve and resolve the trauma and when we do that our human relationships will change dramatically because if whether it be in a personal intimate relationship or with family members or friends if we can come from that space of conscious awareness that we are that they are that and they have had different set of experiences to you and we're aware of that in the moment of our connection with people then there's not only going to be less likelihood of conflict arising but if somebody is deeply troubled emotionally and you are there from them and you can be in presence and awareness that presence that awareness will impact upon them and help bring them back to presence as well and when I do want to ones with people of which have done probably thousands over the years now the whole of my attention is always rested on them as awareness and yes I can see the emotional trauma coming up to be released and see that it is challenging for them but by resting in and as awareness what happens is that they start to that trauma starts to get dissolved and resolved and they come to a space of deeper peace and dissolution of that trauma if I meet them at the trauma level all's will do is go in a downward spiral through meeting them in awareness the vibration of that is infinite and they will be automatically invited to come to that and the emotional trauma then has no choice but to dissolve and resolve at the level that's right for them in that moment yes hopefully that's okay for you Yvette the arena says what if we sense a trauma but do not know or cannot connect to its cause the there's obviously some awareness there that you're pointing at Verena now if there's something a knowing a sense of that it's there then trust only the awareness don't try to analyze remember the insight I offered on the transmuting fear into love thought cannot heal your pain presence will transform it thought cannot heal your pain presence will transform it so the key is always always always to trust the presence of the infinite silence or the infinite awareness this then can do the work and then when the circumstances and the moments right and right for you whatever that is can come to the surface and be dissolved and be resolved it don't try and dig at it from the conscious mind you'll only get the most limited of perspectives awareness on the other hand sees the totality of it and it is that that it's your ally because you are in fact that so I trust that makes sense Maria saying who is the one that needs to know understand can we allow insights to emerge versus searching for them that's really and in some ways a different way of expressing what I've just said Verena the one that's trying to figure it out is the identity the one that already knows the resolution and dissolution is here for you is that which you truly are as the infinite awareness or infinite silence so cannot heal your pain presence will transform it and that presence is the infinite awareness or the infinite silence so I'm glad that works for you Verena Ruth is in so true for it my 2022 world is capacity a word is capacity I have quit believing in the mind stories that I am in danger when the uncomfortable feelings and triggers were Ruth that is a fantastic step forward because if you really stick with that there's only gonna be one result which is a continued dissolution of that identity dissolution of that emotional body and you'll go deeper and deeper into awareness so I really want to say fantastic well done keep going the transformation that can arise from that is life-changing life change doesn't go far enough also thank you for your donation I've just seen that come through so thank you once again for that Sharon sayings very helpful thank you you're welcome Ivett's obviously happy with the response there so thank you Ivett and Verena oh please repeat the saying thought cannot heal your pain presence will transform it thought cannot heal your pain presence will transform it that's presence P R E S E N C E presence not present as in the word present presence as in awareness as in infinite silence presence okay as Tracy's written it there thank you for the donations and the gratitude from the various people there so thank you very much for that I'm just gonna look at I just jotted down a couple things there's so much here I mean you could spend up ten live streams on this so I'm trying to capture it all as a summary of for you so let me just have a quick looks I jotted down some things I made wanted to make sure that I covered for you okay I haven't yet spoken about in-depth attachment connection Maria just to answer your question currently the streams are being every UK time I'm basing this on UK time so 8 p.

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UK time until the 5th of February right so I wanted to talk about attachment and connection attachment and connection in the human level and particularly in close personal relationships family partners brothers sisters and so forth because we're typically only relating at the identity level the belief system level and not realizing that then we get attached to people whether it be a family member a brother or sister a parent a child a close friend and there's a sense of life not being complete if that person is not there and that neediness and it is a neediness ultimately comes from this core mistaken belief that all we are is the body mind and the sense of separation from source and so we're always looking for the other to somehow bring completeness and the news is that's never gonna happen you will net get completeness from another never will this happen ever completeness is actually that which you already are wholeness is that which you already are the infinite awareness the infinite silence so neediness and attachment and attachment and neediness are synonymous are synonymous in this context only come from this sense of separation the need for the other to somehow fill some hole and that hole is experienced from ultimately the source of it is this sense of separation down here so when we are in this attachment place then let's say somebody moves out of our lives our relationship breaks down or somebody passes on somebody dies then obviously that can be challenging emotionally energetically spiritually speaking and we're very sad about that and there's nothing wrong with that but that experience of the emotional challenge and trauma that comes from that also comes from this same sense of separation and because we've attached ourselves at the identity level when we realize that life is eternal experientially and that we are in fact life eternal then when somebody's body does pass over there can be the knowing that we are still intrinsically connected with them and this makes that passage so much easier because yes they have moved on from the human dimension but their essence is still the infinite awareness and yes their physical body is not here but it doesn't mean that you're not connected so many people have had experiences of when relatives friends or whatever have passed over of having a sense of connection with them and that's only because possible because everything is intrinsically one intrinsically one so what we're not looking what we're looking for in relationships isn't attachment book connection when we come at relationships from attachment even if it's quite mild there's always this kind of tension that's somewhere in that relationship of some kind of sense of need but when that's gone and dissolved and there is no need and there is therefore no attachment there then the union and communion that can be experienced between those two people is profound is profound and so when we're in an intimate relationship with a partner the great opportunity and invitation there is not just to connect at that level but to have true intimacy and true intimacy means in to me see true intimacy in to me see and what is it that you are seeing you are seeing that in fact you are both this infinite awareness that uniquely expressed in your form so true intimacy comes from that place not just physical attraction there's nothing wrong with that can be very beautiful of course but true intimacy comes from the in to me see so play on the word intimacy let's just have a quick look at the comments again what do we mean what do I mean when connected with them if it's an end of the relationship so what I was referring to there was say somebody somebody dies their physical body has gone but their essence is still the infinite awareness or infinite consciousness and because the universe is intrinsically one with itself and intrinsically connected with itself yes the physical form they have passed it over but you're still connected you're still connected the true connection ultimately comes from this level of awareness we're typically coming only from relationship here is the relative world here is the relative world this is the absolute domain when Einstein called claimed a theory of relativity it was a very good reason he gave you that name because it's relative the world victory experience is relative it's dependent upon opposites and relationship is dependent upon the relative world connection intrinsic connection is independent of this it's the oneness and it's this that the invitation that all relationships are meant to come from that we ultimately will experience this union which are you saying what do I think about writing therapy for spiritual development you know there's many many tools Victoria and if there's something that your heart is calling to then writing and if you've been caught about from your heart it will feel uplifting inspiring expansive it will call you in this direction so if your heart is calling you in that direction then then follow that but if it's coming from mind which is must should ought to contract it then that's probably an invitation that it may not work for you but certainly the X the human expression of writing down our experiences can help bring to the surface that which is underneath but as I was saying in the insight thought cannot heal your pain presence will transform it the benefit from writing the therapy won't come from the actual analyzing of what's been written it will come from the process of connecting with what's needing to be said or spoken through the written word and connecting with it from the space of awareness so hopefully that will help you with Victoria blossom is saying I started having connection with my late dad during my meditation two weeks before he passed away I can sense him even one year later and the reason that you can do that blossom is because his essence has not been lost to the universe it's still there if you can imagine when we're connecting in meditation it's like tuning in to a radio station there's a certain frequency that is your dad and you can connect to that and that's the cut this is the connection a much deeper level than the human level the comments are going through very fast yes I'm just gonna see if I can go up fantastic blossom what did you get do you get visits by deceased spirits of family members it's happening a lot and some profound ancestral healing has taken place okay that's just a comment I think I don't know if I've missed a comment that I can't get back up any higher there we go yeah I think that's okay this is saying I'm sure even if someone is very aware and enlightened still experience loss from pain that is not from the identity level actually all of the trauma and all of the pain comes from this mistaken sense of separation it's actually even when one has had the deepest realization and there's been a huge dissolution of the emotional body that can still be a process of dissolution that is very very mild by comparison to let's say before that realization is taking place and this can go on it can go on for a lifetime but the primal pain you're referring to then it's is from this same place this sense of separation and even that can still be dissolved by the power of awareness so there can still be this ongoing process through the life and body but it will be very very mild in comparison to what most people are experiencing and it's important that that kind of process continues there's a difference between the witnessing presence in that and the suffering suffering is a function of identifying with the pain and trauma but if there's still ghosts in the machine even primal using the word that Nitz is using there because awareness is looking and seeing that and knowing that that isn't actually their own then identified with it then there won't be suffering present there won't be suffering present so let me just have a look at the comments I think this conversations going on here so I'm not necessarily picking up on them all just have a quick look make sure I'm sorry to hear that Donna but I can assure you that your mother's essence is returning to a deeper space of awareness from which she's seeing her life and indeed is still intrinsically connected to you you don't need to believe me on this but as you come deeper into a space of awareness you will see that that is in fact so blossom is also saying she receives messages from her dad what's done a thing oh thank you right okay let's have a look at the ones blossom saying Oh to Maria I'm meditating while listening here sorry need to go back to it sending love and light to you okay can so Victoria saying can insomnia express something at the level of the chakras can they suddenly express something at the level of the chakras or the body insomnia is is of a function of something going on that is obviously an unresolved energetically spiritually emotionally speaking and so that too is another form of invitation to look more deeply at what's unfolding in your life from the space of awareness so that the stream I want to point you to Victoria it's not yet on insight time but there was a stream called transmuting fear into love and also the last stream emotions and blocks and using the power of awareness to face and witness that there's something that's keeping you awake that will connect with something that's being held within the emotional body that is you're being invited to look at from the space of awareness and dissolve and resolve it's quite surprising of me when people come to events whether it's online or in person when they've typically when they've had a deep shift from the meditation they can often have after heard this often the best night sleeps they've had in years so the fact that something's going on for you they're keeping you awake something's going on at the mental level which is coming from identity coming from this core sense of separation that you're being invited to look at from the space of awareness so the key is to use the power of awareness to look at that to face that head-on to feel it not to become it and to witness it and allow the power of that awareness to dissolve it to look at that more fully you need to listen to those streams and they become available but that essentially is what's happening there can it express something at the chakras of the body well the chakras are affected by the state of our awareness and so whatever's going on in there is a function of the degree of dissolution of the identification that we've had well that we are at at the moment and so the more that we are dissolved and resolved into awareness the clearer the energetic system and the chakra system which is obviously central to that of the body will be your mother's essence Donna is infinite awareness using this metaphor here we think of ourselves as the body mind we look within and see this universal state I am pure being but because that's a phenomena that can be a witnessed from within seen noticed felt there's a deeper presence that's infinite awareness that's not personal your mother's essence is ultimately that but the unique expression of that in your mother is not lost to the universe all of the experiences that she had in her life are still there in the energetic imprint of the universe and when somebody's body passes over they see perhaps for the first time that they are more than the body mind and so that they this is a whole subject and stream in itself but they start to go through a process of deeper awareness of their lives to move them more deeper into this infinite space of awareness so that hope is a brief answer to that Donna but it's not about believing why say it's about coming into this space of awareness and we will start to see that that is so but as I said earlier I'm sorry to hear your loss but know that we're never ultimately truly lost to each other we are always connected and when our own bodies die we will see that we will see that Verena's saying this points to the vital role of parents and parenting as surrogate gods for their offspring to be able to model loving aware parenting absolutely Verena because if there's some gods in your world when you're a child then it's most certainly your parents and obviously we all know the experience of that can be very vastly from a very loving supportive conscious space through to very traumatizing space and I am going to go to a practice shortly Karen I just wanted to respond to all the comments Victoria says do I have any reading material to recommend us please I do but part of the deal with insight timers we're not supposed to promote anything off insight timer so the short answer is yes I need to sort of honor the commitment to insight timer but sure I've got plenty but do have a look at my other material in on insight timer and the other streams particularly the earlier streams that have been mounted there but have a look at those because they will help you that they're varying length from an hour to an hour and a half to nearly two hours okay I would I would like to do a practice now because we've talked talked a lot and we've been going an hour and a quarter and we could answer questions all night on this so let's just close our eyes and just become aware of your body you noticing the sensations emotions feelings and notice that they're coming and going changing in intensity always moving and therefore you must be the witness to them not the feeling not the emotion not the sensation and be open to the truth that this presence this witnessing is untouched unmoved by the phenomena and now we'll do the who am I meditation on the end of that variation so your eyes still closed asking inside who who Maybe something will come.

And that's fine.

If not,

Just be okay with that.

And now,

Let's go deeper.

Who am I without attachment?

Who am I without attachment?

And see if anything emerges there.

Who am I without attachment?

And now,

Another step.

Who am I without relationship?

Who am I without relationship?

And just being open.

Something may come.

And even if it doesn't,

Just be okay with that.

Who am I without relationship?

And just being open now from your heart.

To the experience of the spheres.

Nothing to visualize.

Just be open.

This energy of the spheres,

Or spheres of light,

Is the universal state.

I am pure being.

The infinite I am.

And even this can be sensed.

Pure beingness.

I amness.

And that must be from a deeper awareness.

Silent witness.

And even this silent witness is melting now.

Dissolving.

Merging.

Like a sliver of ice in an ocean of water.

Becoming one with the water.

And the water is an ocean of infinite silence.

Infinite awareness.

Untouched.

Unmoved.

Unblemished.

Infinite.

Science.

Be still.

And go.

In silence you will realize your truth.

In truth you will realize you are silence.

Infinite silence.

Eternally this.

Be still.

And know.

This.

This.

Infinite silence.

This rarefied atmosphere.

Silence.

Transmutes.

Transforms.

Dissolves all that you are not.

Effortlessly.

This infinite power within.

Be still.

Resting in this.

Through this.

As this.

Always.

In a moment I will ring the ting sha bells.

Three times.

Three times.

With sound with the vowels gently fades to silence.

The fear of your body.

The care you're setting for whatever you may be lay on.

Aware of the space.

And if you haven't already done so.

In the moments right for you.

Gently open your eyes.

Namaste.

Thank you for your support.

I hope you enjoyed what came up with the questions you can do.

Thank you Sharon for that lovely donation.

That's much appreciated.

Thank you Maria.

Thank you.

No dawn.

As we moved away from identity,

Which only happens at this level,

At the identity level,

The relative domain,

Relative relationship domain,

We move into the infinite field of awareness.

And so,

Infinite presence,

Infinite awareness,

Sky like below.

The same with moving away from attachment.

Attachment comes from identity.

Thank you for your donation Lee,

That's much appreciated.

Stefan got,

I noticed the mind didn't like not having relationships.

Good awareness Stefan.

Obviously an attachment,

Correct,

And also a belief.

So this,

One of the great benefits of these very simple Who Am I meditations is it draws out issues that need to be seen and resolved,

But it also can take you into that space of awareness because that seeing comes from awareness.

So that's great Stefan.

Plosome got expansiveness and oneness,

Feeling amazing.

That's great.

Plosome,

I'm glad that you got that.

So we again are moving away from identity into awareness.

You're welcome,

Nitz.

Thank you for being here again.

And thank you to David for the donation.

Much appreciated.

Patty got the essence of freedom.

Indeed,

The essence of freedom.

You know,

It's interesting thing about that word freedom,

Because you see this infinite awareness that I'm referring to,

The infinite silence.

To have freedom at the human level,

We need to have something that we need to be free from.

Whereas the infinite silence or the infinite awareness is before and beyond even the concept of freedom.

And the reason I'm saying that is because Patty has referenced it as the essence of freedom and the infinite silence is the essence.

And the perfume of that we experience of being free at the human level,

Like love,

Grace,

Peace,

Joy for no reason.

So that's what I feel that's pointing to Patty.

Tracy's got consciousness,

Which is good.

Infinite consciousness.

Indeed.

Ruth got felt free without attachment.

I am without relationship.

Indeed,

Exactly that,

Ruth.

So you can see again why I wanted to use the Who Am I meditation in that way to help bring about a deeper seeing.

Whilst relationships are very important at the human level,

The essence is before and beyond relationship.

So this is then about intrinsic oneness,

Intrinsic connection,

Which are the same thing.

And this is the true intimacy,

The true in to me,

See in to me,

See.

That's what everybody ultimately is looking for,

Is to be seen.

Be seen.

Not just for the human form.

But for the essence that which we are.

That's what ultimately we're all looking for.

Seeking.

Being invited to realize and hence the term self realization.

Because that which is realized is that which we already are.

And it's the belief in the case of mistaken identity that is the block to that.

And he's also the block and the cause of challenge in relationship,

Which is only coming from this level.

We're moving from attachment to intrinsic connection or oneness.

And when in that space,

Then life will be much more harmonious because we're not needing life to show up in a particular way.

The identity always needs life to show up in a specific way that conforms to its belief sets.

And if it's not showing up in that way,

Then we're suffering.

When there's no need and the recognition of the perfection within,

Then it can be much more harmonious and grateful and flowing and smooth.

There's still the physical domain.

You're still going to ask like that old Zen saying before enlightenment,

Chop wood,

Carry water.

After enlightenment,

Chop wood,

Carry water.

The difference is in the first case,

There's suffering.

And in the second,

There isn't.

There doesn't have to be.

One still has to deal with the physical domain and have a body and all the things that come with that.

And there can still be challenges,

But that doesn't have to be suffering.

And then we move,

As I say,

From the identity form of relationships into true intimacy.

Into true intimacy.

And so in these sessions,

We come together into me,

See.

That's what we're here is to hear to see that in each other,

As each other.

So Patty's saying thank you and blossom is as well.

Beautiful session says Ruth.

Awareness being aware of itself indeed,

Tracy.

And they were saying beautiful session,

So thank you,

David,

For showing up again.

Vicky's saying my left arm feels warm from my late mum's essence.

That's lovely.

Thanks for sharing that.

Vicky,

I forgot to mention.

So I'll mention it now.

I said on the last stream for the some of you may have heard this,

Those who weren't on the stream won't have.

Two things.

One,

There's the nothing special group.

Nothing special exclamation mark is a group that is in support of these live streams.

So if you want to join that,

You can.

But the invitation I shared last time,

An opportunity is for between now and the final stream of this series,

Which is a week today.

A week today,

There's one on Wednesday and then another one on Saturday,

A week today,

8 p.

M.

UK time,

Is to invite you to use the infinite silence meditation of which there are seven versions of my profile on Insight timer.

They're numbered one of seven to seven of seven to seven of them from quarter an hour.

The absolute fully guided one to an hour and a half with lots of silence,

But still the same guidance.

Use one of those,

Any one of those or any combination of those every day.

Between now and next Saturday.

Note where you are kind of before you start,

Maybe take some notes as you go along.

And if you provide me a kind of overall summary,

Ideally in the group,

The nothing special group.

Then the final session is called living meditation,

Living meditation,

And I'll be explaining the infinite silence meditation again,

But also about using that as a becoming and realizing that one is,

In fact,

A living meditation by the sharing of those experiences,

Using this infinite silence meditation over the next seven days.

What I'll be able to do is to bring that to life for you a bit more.

If you can share your experiences and one or two people have already shared some of their early experiences in the group.

So if you do that and I'm only looking for a sentence or two as your summary of the seven days,

You may have many notes for yourself,

But kind of an overall summary.

And if you if you can pop that in the chat or in the feed in the group,

I'll prioritize those comments in advance of any on here.

It'll just make it easier for me and it'll make it easier for you.

And that will bring that final session of this current series to a close.

So anybody can commit to that.

I think there's a few people doing it.

I'm not sure how many.

I can't remember,

But I think there's quite a few people giving it a go.

And I'm only looking for a sentence or two summary.

So it's for the next seven days.

If you've already started,

You can keep on going longer.

In fact,

You can keep on going for as long as you like.

But what we'll do in that final stream a week today of this series,

That is,

Is look at that as part of the living meditation,

Which will help me unpack that for you because there may be many different things that come up for different people.

So it's only a sentence or two summary at the end.

I'm looking for not every day.

You might have notes for every day if you want them.

So kind of recognize where you are now before you start.

See how you get on and then provide a sentence or two summary and we'll look at those as part of the final stream in this series.

Number eleven eleven.

Blossom is saying,

Please repeat this series.

This was only the second time.

Yeah.

Yeah,

I probably will do something like that,

Blossom.

But for those of you who haven't heard,

I have been able to get the audio,

Strip the audios out of these streams.

And we've been putting an edited version on my profile on Insight Timer.

So see you live again Wednesday,

The 2nd of February,

8 p.

M.

UK time.

Subject this time Kundalini.

All about Kundalini and what that means in the context of self-realization.

This is Philip Wade from North Yorkshire,

England,

Signing off from the Universal Studio.

Have a blessed evening,

Morning,

Afternoon,

Wherever you are in the world.

Namaste.

Many blessings in infinite silence.

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