Today I want to share with you one of my experiences.
It's already been,
I don't know,
A couple of weeks,
Maybe a month ago.
Where I again was seeing how conditioned our minds are.
I was at home.
I was in my kitchen in the morning and I looked outside of my kitchen window into the garden.
And I didn't,
Probably I didn't even feed my animals yet,
But the chickens were outside already walking around.
And I noticed there was a small red cat walking through my garden.
It for sure was a kitten and it was very,
Almost in an anxious way exploring my garden.
Obviously meeting the chickens.
Chickens are pretty okay with creatures like cats and dogs.
So they were not really bothered by it.
But I hadn't seen this cat before.
It was a beautiful red striped cat.
So I slowly approached my kitchen door.
I opened it and I tried to invite the cat to come closer to me.
I decided not to go in his direction because it looked already quite scared.
So I started talking from the kitchen door,
Greeting it,
Welcoming it,
Asking where it was living.
I mean just that it got used to my voice.
And well of course the cat noticed me and very carefully started coming towards my kitchen door.
And it stopped about three meters from the entrance.
And I again started talking.
You're so beautiful.
I would like to pet you.
And as soon as I said I would like to pet you,
It ran away.
That was funny.
So I went inside and started realizing that probably this was the new cat of the neighbors.
Their old cat died a couple of months ago and probably they had a new one.
So I texted my neighbor like this beautiful red cat,
Is that yours?
And he almost immediately responded,
Yes,
Is it bothering you?
And I was like,
What?
I didn't say this.
I didn't mean it.
The neighbor and I are going along pretty well.
We don't have any issues.
So there is no reason for him to assume that I would be searching for trouble.
I was just curious.
I was also a bit flabbergasted in a way that he was immediately assuming that something bad was going on.
He responded from a perspective like I have to defend myself.
And most likely he was not even aware of it himself that he was responding like that.
Maybe something,
Likely something in his past happened.
That one of his animals was bothering other people and he was blamed for it.
Maybe he got into trouble himself in the past when he was doing something and got caught by the neighbors.
Well,
It doesn't matter.
It doesn't matter what the story is.
My point is,
He responded from a place of not being aware of giving a certain response,
But voiced the words,
In text in this case,
Via WhatsApp.
So he was in a place defending himself.
He was not even truly reading or seeing what the message was about or even feeling what I could intend.
He was just living his conditioned mind without any reason,
At least not outside reasons,
For responding in this way.
And I was again intrigued by how conditioned we are.
And that again brought me to one of my key points in all my teachings and all the tools.
It is for me an essential first step in your life.
If you want to change anything,
You have to be aware.
Aware of where you are,
Aware of which direction you want to take.
You don't need to be aware of all the reasons this was caused by,
The old traumas,
Blah blah blah.
I do believe that insights into where it came from can be really supportive,
But I don't think it is necessary for everything.
But awareness is.
Because if you are not aware of your situation,
If you are not aware of how you respond,
If you are not aware of what you say to people,
What you think about situations or people,
Then you can never make another choice.
You can never do anything else if it is not in your awareness.
So raising your awareness level is for me a critical step on the path from thinking to being.
Because only then you can see that you actually have a choice.
If he would have realized,
The neighbor,
That I was sending this message to just ask,
Is it yours?
Yes or no?
Without any attachment or judgment,
Expectation,
Then he could have said yes.
And I mean,
If you are in a position then,
And that might not be the case with a neighbor,
But if you are in a position then where you are in a relationship with someone where you can be vulnerable and share like,
Oh yeah,
No,
I thought first that the cat was bothering you,
Because I don't want my animals to bother other people.
You can start a conversation,
Which I did not do with a neighbor,
Because we are friendly and he is a great neighbor,
But we are not in that kind of relationship that I want to push that sort of interaction.
But you can.
And then with voicing and actually expressing what is going on in your system,
You will move through energy.
You will move energy and through the situation.
Again then,
Bringing awareness and next time you will see much more easily if you respond from that place.
And it is a step by step process,
But trust it.
And bring awareness in what you say,
How you say it,
What you feel and think.
