Hi there!
Do you know how to be a sheriff?
Or are you perhaps more of a turbulent type?
It doesn't matter which one you are.
Each of these two has its advantages and disadvantages,
Neither is better or worse,
But they are in balance.
Obeying the principle of polarity.
Personalities that are assertive are often goal-oriented,
Self-confident individuals with a great desire to move forward and are usually great at decision making and leadership.
Turbulent ones are of greater emotional awareness and sensitiveness with a greater drive for self-improvement,
Leading to strong work ethics.
As you can see,
Both types have wonderful blessings.
So the goal today is not to change you,
But to help you know better.
How to be a sheriff.
The goal here is more oriented towards communication and how you act with yourself.
Stating your thoughts and emotions clearly.
Taking into account your needs as well as the rights and opinions of others.
One reason that I am sharing about this Besides a few requests,
Is that improving your assertive personality a little bit helps you to gain some control over your situations and life in general.
With this alone,
You will experience self-relief by increasing your confidence in reaching the good outcome.
So,
How to be assertive?
The benefits of practicing assertiveness.
We live in a competitive world,
But you want to also grow in tandem with people around you,
And vice versa.
The best way to not step on others feet and for them to not step on yours is to know how to be assertive.
If you want to know how,
It is clear that you already know some of its advantages.
You will always notice a growing sense of empowerment without feeling that your ego is getting in the way.
So.
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But first,
Let's check out a few benefits.
Know your communication style.
The same way they are personalities,
They are also ways to communicate.
I am sure you can tell you how different people are actually super different and communicate in their own ways.
Knowing how you communicate reassures you are comfortable speaking up.
So let's super briefly check them out.
Clear and assertive.
You speak up clearly about what you think,
Using proper filters and respecting the listeners.
It promotes communication.
Aggressive.
You speak your ideas and needs,
Stepping on others and not considering others' feelings.
This breaks communication.
Bullying.
You will trample on conversation and always give importance to your statements by reducing the value of others.
This destroys communication.
Turbulent.
You fear speaking about your needs.
You don't want to step on others.
So you step on yourself.
And this partially breaks communication.
Sarcastic.
A fair balance of sarcasm is not bad,
But too much of it will end up leading to confusion and lack of flow.
This weekend's communication.
Passive-aggressive.
A worse version of excessive sarcasm.
People will stop being comfortable communicating with you.
This definitely destroys communication.
Bear communication and mutual respect.
You don't need to know how to be assertive,
As this is about communication.
You simply need to have a more caring,
Respectful and contributing behavior in all your conversations.
The other person is equally worthy with their strengths and weaknesses.
Mutual respect builds trust,
Strengthening the connection.
Improve your satisfaction decision making.
You know what is best?
And you follow in the best of your ways aligned with the rest of your team's or company's directives.
You will feel complete.
You will be at peace knowing you are doing a fantastic job.
And you would step into growth.
Creating honest,
Respectful relationships.
When you build trust,
You also build recognition.
If you can be yourself in a group of people,
You are very much aligned.
As sometimes it's unfortunately difficult.
Start by allowing others to be themselves and try to be yourself.
If you can't,
Move on.
Increase self-confidence and empowerment.
Once you start implementing some of the above behaviors.
You will feel your life and your surroundings are a lot more lined up.
Pushing away potential bad outcomes that you know are bad.
Longer one to worry about.
Life will be significantly improved in all areas.
So,
These are some simple steps that you can slowly take,
One at a time.
You don't have to shift right after listening to this,
But you can take one step toward a significant shift down the line.
When you do,
Your quality of life will continue to escalate.
You don't want to live in unnecessary fear.
And if you can get the most out of your life,
Why not?
Especially this way.
Where you are not only respecting others but also promoting for their lives to be better while they intend the same for yours.
It's from here when you can see the assertiveness will bring the shift you need.
Remember,
As self-communication is not about stepping on others,
But quite the contrary,
Keeping the dance of conversation flowing to its best rhythm.
So it is awesome that you want to be a serif.
This is a very serif decision itself,
No pun intended.
The next assertive move is taking the next step.
It can be the smallest step ever.
It doesn't matter.
What matters is to take it.
And let's take a look.
Creating a foundation made of self-love and self-respect.
This is the first step that has to go away.
Because if you don't respect yourself.
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For example.
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By making self-structured comments,
You will never evoke your true assertiveness.
Is starting to use I statements effectively.
The word effectively is key here.
It's not about stepping on toes,
Nor others,
But neither yours.
As you connect more with yourself and you stay focused and present in the conversation,
You need to clearly evoke your needs and contributions.
Managed to say no without you.
This is another tricky one,
But little by little you can always improve this with your proper self-respect.
One key in how to be assertive is paying attention to your needs and evoking them respectfully.
Get to know your communication style.
We´ll go back to the get to know yourself.
But I mean it.
How can you know your needs without knowing your needs?
You need to understand how you are comfortable in a group setting and what you need to communicate most efficiently,
Whether you need to contribute.
Rehearsing conversations for better delivery.
If you feel that struggle shows as you try to take part in the conversation,
You first want to plan ahead.
Rehearsing these conversations counts as planning.
I can give you a huge head start.
Promoting self-confidence and promoting an assertive personality.
As you can see,
It only takes a slow and progressive adjustment.
You don't have to be completely assertive as soon as you finish listening to this.
But is more about progressive improvement.
Developing accordingly in how you are and what you desire.
From here you have a few more things that you can keep in consideration.
But don't obsess over them too much.
They will come naturally to you if you truly allow yourself to flow in the direction you feel connected with.
Take this as some supportive guidance.
Making emotions a non-verbal assertiveness.
Body language,
Whether you like it or not,
Is a thing,
And you also need to keep your body movements into account.
As well as observing others.
You might have a more intuitive approach versus an observant one,
Making you choose the subtle messages.
And trust me,
It's great,
But you can't bypass the physical part.
One reason why you need to focus on staying calm and not only hiding it It's that your body language can give away signs you don't want to show.
So it's best to take a moment to ground yourself first.
Using breathing and pausing techniques will be a great choice here.
A good advice for emotional regulation is for you to have a memory or safe zone that you can easily go by visualizing it.
Use this when you really need a moment.
The best advice is starting small and focusing on small risk scenarios first.
Put yourself at the spot,
But always in control in how far you want to go.
Keep in mind that shifting in how to be assertive comes with learning from each interaction.
Little by little,
You keep gaining experience.
So as a conclusion,
It is important you always have a degree of assertiveness.
You don't have to shift your personality,
But if you keep these few things into account,
You can continue better.
And being yourself without getting trampled by other societies.
The best turbulent versus assertive outcome is that,
As an assertive person,
You will be a lot less vulnerable to stress.
Not immune,
However,
And you will always have a stronger resilience to keep pushing forward when necessary.
By achieving goals enabling self-expression.
Empowerment.
As well as knowing yourself well.
Will start a transformative shift in your life.
Now you should reflect over everything you have listened.
I invite you to share your experience or any other comment that you want to show us.
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Lots of light.
