Preparing For Challenging Contact

This practice assists you in preparing for those moments when you cannot havve no contact with toxic personalities such as narcissists. Becoming Grey Rock allows you to establish boundaries. Use this time to take back your power and energy.

Music by Christopher Lloyd Clarke

Transcript

Welcome.

Welcome to this moment.

As you prepare yourself to have contact with a toxic personality in your life.

Find a quiet place for yourself for just these few minutes and gently draw your attention to the process of breathing.

Observe each breath as it happens.

Feeling the relaxing sensation as you breathe deeply.

Allow your breath to soothe and calm you.

If you find your mind wandering,

Gently return your focus to your breath.

Allow your breath to flow naturally.

Notice how your body reacts to the clean,

Pure air filling you with peace.

If your current situation means that you must face a toxic person,

I truly hope this meditation can help you set boundaries and give you peace.

Now is the time to know how to deal with this person such that they have no effect upon you.

You are becoming a gray rock.

You have no energy to give this person.

You do not care.

You do not react.

You do not get triggered.

You do not provide any emotional,

Physical,

Or psychic energy.

This person may still believe that you are a source of energy.

They may do or say something to get you to react,

To feel anger,

Rejection,

Injustice,

Or any other negative emotion,

Just to get a reaction from you.

When this happens,

Pause.

Breathe.

Let your breath calm you as you embrace yourself with love and intention.

Being gray rock means answering in monotones,

Offering no information about your emotions.

You share only the basic necessities.

You are detached.

You offer nothing,

No information other than what is necessary.

No personal opinions.

No feelings.

You are non-committal.

You avoid eye contact.

Look somewhere else other than this person's eyes.

Focus your attention elsewhere.

Perhaps visualizing your favorite place or person.

You are disengaged.

You are disconnected.

Keep all your interactions short.

All responses to any communications are as brief as possible.

You answer with a simple yes,

No,

Or I don't know,

Without further explanation.

You do not share anything personal.

You do not revisit the past.

You do not ask questions other than those required.

You stick to the facts.

And when you do not have to speak or communicate with this person,

You don't.

You offer no explanation.

You have no need to share anything about yourself or your behavior.

This person is a stranger that you have no emotional connection with.

Your objective is to make this person lose interest in you.

You are as uninteresting as a gray rock.

Becoming a gray rock works best when done from an authentic space.

This means dealing with any lingering trauma in your own safe space,

In your own time.

When someone no longer emotionally affects your mind or spirit in any way,

Shape,

Or form,

That is when they cease to have any power over you.

You are free,

Free to focus on your own life and create joy.

You are empowered,

Authentic,

And inspired.

Reviews

Excellent advise and ways to deal with a toxic neighbor. Thank you.

Helpful, empowering reminder that calms me. Thank you!

So grateful to have found you! I need to hear these things so much right now! Thank you 💜🙏🏼

Thank you.

Katharine I listened to this on your recommendation. It has valuable advice and thankyou for the recommendation, however I feel that only a small amount would be applicable to dealing with the situation that involves a child.

Extremely effective at helping me deal with a challenging personality in my life. Thank you 🙏

Thank was perfect. I will keep listening to this meditation. It will definitely help. Namaste 🙏🏽💕💫

Just what I needed. Thank you! Namaste

Brilliant meditation! Felt so sick before hand but really helped to regain my focus , so very grateful

Going gray rock. Thank you 🙏

Great idea for a meditation. I wish that I had had this when I was in a toxic relationship. I will be meeting this person in a month so I’m using this to prepare confidently rather than fearfully.

Simply outstanding. Extremely on-point, with genuinely helpful techniques presented for handling these challenging situations. Bookmarked and downloaded. Thank you so very much for sharing this with us here in the Insight Timer community. I see you and the light within you. 🤲🏻❤️🤲🏻

That was helpful thanks 🙏 The times i have forgotten these simple boundaries and suffered as a consequence. I think i will listen to this before each interaction if i can 🙏💖