5 Things To Look For In A Relationship

There are five things you should look for in a relationship. If you only have one or two of these, think hard about whether this is really what you want. These things are not too much to ask for; they exist for you. But remember, how a person treats you is a mirror of how you treat yourself. Start by choosing a life that gives you peace and safety.

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Here are the things to look for in a relationship.

First,

I feel peaceful.

Second,

I feel care.

Third,

I feel attraction.

Fourth,

Super important,

I feel safe.

I can be as I am and be supported as I am.

I can say what's on my mind and be supported.

And five is super,

Super important.

I feel stronger.

I feel stronger with this person in my life.

I feel stronger next to this person than not next to this person.

So I wish you all those things.

They are not too much to ask for.

If you have just one or two,

Think hard about whether this is what you really want.

All five exist for you.

There is that person,

There is that relationship.

Sometimes it takes a good deal of self-compassion to get there because how a person treats you is a mirror of how you treat yourself.

So start treating yourself with safety.

Start treating yourself with care.

Start choosing a life that gives you peace.

And you will also find those things in your romantic partner.