Hello beautiful humans,
If you have lived on planet earth,
I 1 million percent guarantee you,
You know,
That unique human experience that is being triggered.
Someone does something,
Someone doesn't do something,
You see something,
Someone says something,
And Your emotions explode.
It's not a fun experience.
We leak energy.
We obsess over a thing happening and we play it over and over in our head.
So there's three things I use all the time.
Because as a creator,
As an artist,
As a human,
I am getting triggered quite a lot.
That's normal.
How do we get out of it and how long we stay in it?
That's the mastery.
OK,
So three things.
Number one.
It's really helpful to know the distinction between triggered and activated.
Okay,
Triggered and activated,
They're not the same things.
Sometimes we call being triggered a moment of activation and activation is like on the path to being triggered,
But there's a chance that you can actually slow it down if you name it.
Okay,
So activated is like you're about to get triggered,
Something is working its way through and it's an amazing distinction to know that I'm not actually triggered yet,
I'm activated and I'm not careful.
I might get to that triggered state.
Number two.
This one's my favorite.
It has saved me so many times.
Some people call it parts work.
Some people call it internal family systems.
Before I knew any of that,
I would just be journaling.
Here is the most powerful thing I can tell you today.
When you are triggered,
There's a very good chance it's not you.
It's a part of you,
A singular part of you.
Sometimes we can connect it to an age,
Like,
Oh,
There's like an eight-year-old part,
There's a 15-year-old part,
There's a 30-year-old part.
Sometimes we can connect it to like our personality trait.
This is the photographer Darius.
This is the dad Darius.
But when we understand that it's a singular part of us,
There's this other bigger group of us.
I call it my cosmic family of selves,
Internal family systems,
And other therapeutic modalities call it different things.
But it's this realization that you have resources.
You have other parts of you that are actually grounded,
Rooted,
Solid.
And can support.
And so I get my journal out and I start writing something like.
Hello?
I see you,
I see you are having Tough time?
And I just want you to know,
I'm not here to judge you.
I'm not here to fix you.
I,
We just want to be here with you.
And then I start a dialogue with that part of me.
Ask it what's going on.
Sometimes I ask it how old it is.
Again,
Not judging,
Not fixing,
Just being here immediately.
Instead of my whole system being triggered,
There's a singular part.
Numbers three.
Soothing,
Calming touch.
Usually when we're triggered we're up here,
Usually it's in our amygdala back here.
Soothing calming touch i like my heart and belly sometimes i like here and i say things like i am here with you i love you through your messy parts I see you're having a hard time and I squeeze and that squeeze feels soothing.
That squeeze brings me back into my body and out of that one part of my brain that's having that triggered experience.
So try it out,
Three different things you can do to help you in those very human,
Very real moments where you are triggered so that you can come back to your energy,
Back to your heart,
Back to your gifts,
Back to your mission,
Why you're here,
What your soul wants you to create today.
Thank you for watching,
My name is Darius,
And I'll see you next time.
