Staying Authentic As A People Pleaser

This daily message is a powerful reminder for all people-pleaser. It's okay to risk disharmony on the outside to keep harmony within your soul. We often fear that someone else could stop liking us when we stay true to ourselves or have another opinion. But most of the time, it makes you even more likeabale, because you stay authentic.

And you give others the chance to be authentic and feel good too.

Transcript

Hey love,

Today it is all about people-pleasing.

We all know this,

That there are just some moments where we're in a situation,

We are talking to someone and afterward and you held yourself back,

Like you don't say what is on your mind and you just say yes or whatever you think that the other person wants to hear right now to keep the harmony and then you come home and you talk to your spouse or your best friend about it and you're going on like,

Oh what is she thinking?

Why does she does it?

And I was just,

In my head I was just thinking no what is going on whatsoever you know and I was doing this for a long time because I thought like everybody can have his own opinion and well before I get into this harmony I I just say yes and what happened was that I wasn't authentic anymore.

I didn't stayed in for what I believed in and I hold myself small because people start to to override your boundaries and they decide what they can do and you're losing control and well one day I was like like actually my boyfriend was talking to me and he was like Dana you need to stand up for yourself just say what you think in a moment and don't regret afterwards that you you didn't you were too shy to say it and so I had this conversation and I realized that okay so this is something where I have another opinion so I took all my my courage and I said my opinion and I didn't scream it or and I didn't do it in an angry way or whatsoever I just tried to do it neutral and empathetic and understanding and what actually happened was that the person on the other side said wow thank you I haven't seen it from that perspective yet and just like I'm really grateful that you told me that because it makes a lot of sense and so I realized that there was no disharmony coming from it what I was doing was I was standing up for what I believed in and I opened a new perspective for the other person and she was even grateful for it so I just want to give you some courage today to speak up your truth from a place of love and sometimes even sometimes it's even worth to bring in disharmony in order to be in harmony within yourself and that is completely fine and that's okay

Reviews

Your prespective is always on point. It's what keeps me coming back for more! Namaste

One of my weaknesses is people pleasing….. and courage is my purpose!! Thank you for this reminder Dana!! 💪🏻💪🏻💫🙏🏻💕