Cutting Cords: How To Release Energetic Binds

As we move through our lives — growing, learning, evolving — we must necessarily let go of that which no longer serves us. When we let go, we create space. This space is that of potential, of possibility.
Caroline is a transformation coach and meditation teacher.
cord cutting
Caroline is a transformation coach and meditation teacher.

Cord cutting is a very common practice in both spiritual and secular traditions. The practice of cord cutting helps to recover energy that has been lost and to re-establish healthy energetic boundaries. Explore the practice of cutting energy cords.

Cutting Energy Cords For Creating New Space

When we enter into relationship with someone, whether it is with family, friend, intimate partner, colleague, someone we have regular dealings with, or even an individual that you meet in passing, we develop energetic cords. Now, these cords aren’t necessarily bad. They actually help us to form connection and understanding with one another.

When we are connected energetically, we perceive on a much deeper level and have the ability to tune into the energy of another. We are all energy beings; while we tend to interact with the world through our five physical senses, the truth is that our primary means of relating is energetically.

As we move through our lives — growing, learning, evolving — we must necessarily let go of that which no longer serves us. When we let go, we create space. This space is that of potential, of possibility.

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Making The Transition By Letting Go

You can think of this like many small steps of transition. Each day we are evolving. Learning and growing beyond what we once were. Holding on to what was would prevent us from moving forward.

If we were to continue accumulating all of the left overs from every past thought, action and experience, we would be heavily weighted down by the burden of it all.

When we transition from one way of being to another, whether that is via relationship with another person or simply how we relate to life, it is necessary to let go of what is no longer helpful. In terms of relationship with others, we tend to hold onto much more than is healthy for us energetically, physically and even spiritually.

Cutting energy cords helps to move through transition without the burden of carrying the weight of the past. It frees us to move forward with lightness and a sense of openness.

Read more: In another article, Caroline offers three guiding questions to inquire when coping with change.

Combating An Energy Deficit

Cutting energy cords doesn’t apply just to past relationships or relationships that are ‘draining’ you. We can also choose to cut cords in our present relationships, even those that are really great for us, as a way of continually cleansing the energy between us and creating space for new.

You can visualize an energetic cord as a tube connecting us to another person, with energy flowing within the tube. If the cord is depleting us, the energy will be flowing away from us. If the cord is feeding us, energy will be flowing toward us.

At times, this energy flow may seem very helpful. We can share our energy with someone who seems to need it, and we can receive energy when we feel depleted. But, we need to watch out for the potential of energy imbalance that occurs when we maintain this connection too long, or if we are giving our energy when we don’t have the energy to give.

Oftentimes, even long after a relationship has ended, we maintain these energetic cords. They can be so subtle that we don’t even know that they’re there. But, an accumulation of cords from many people, and the slow depletion of energy over time, creates an energy deficit.

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Read more: Explore how to protect your energy and deal with difficult people and situations.

Signs Of Unhealthy Cording

  • Energy levels are depleted
  • Feelings of general leathery, depression, unexplained sadness
  • Feelings of being ‘stuck’ or unable to make decision (Explore how mindfulness helps to make difficult decisions here.)
  • Obsessive thoughts about another person
  • Speaking often about another person, often in a judgmental or deprecating way
  • Lowered immune function, getting sick often
  • Unhealthy habits and addictive behaviours, seeking comfort in excess such as smoking, binge eating, drinking, drugs and even seemingly healthy habits such as over-exercising

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Cord Cutting Rituals: How To Release Energy Cords

While we are a culture that likes to try to ‘think’ our way through things, in order to regain the energy that we have lost through cord connections, we must engage energetically. There are many ways to cut cords and establish energetic boundaries — a few I will present to you now:

  1. Salt Bath: Salt helps to cleanse your energetic body and brings you into a state of balance.
  2. Smudging: The ritual of cleansing with smoke is one that purifies the energetic body and helps to re-establish connection with the Divine.
  3. Journaling: Write out everything that you have been wanting to say to another person. Don’t hold back. Share your frustrations and your desires. After you are complete you may choose to burn the writing as a symbol of release. Read more about the transformation benefits of writing out your thoughts and emotions.
  4. Visualization: In your mind’s eye, visualize the individual you wish to cut a cord with and scissors so that you can cut the cord. Begin by connecting to the energy of the Divine — the source of all creation. See the energetic cord that connects you with the other. Feel the energy that is draining from you. Now, with intention, visualize yourself cutting the cord between you with the scissors and witness as the energetic cord recoils back into both you and the other. Take a moment to anchor the experience by feeling the recovery of energy and thanking the other person for the role that they have/do play in your life.

You may choose to speak the following blessing after these practices of cutting energetic cords:

I now sever and release any and all energetic cords that do not serve my highest good. I release you and I release me from these binds.

All cords are destroyed, across all dimensions, times and planes, never to return again.

I hereby banish these energetic cords and recover now all energy that was once lost. My energy flows back to me, filling me once again with vitality and creating now a peaceful energetic boundary of love and light.

And so it is.

After you have spoken the blessing, spend some time sitting in quiet meditation. Feel the energy that has been reclaimed and take the time needed to re-integrate.

Imagine yourself now being cloaked in a luminescent blanket of energetic protection. This coating of light is your energetic boundary. See and feel how this boundary helps you to maintain your highest level of energy. Intend that this boundary remain in place as you step confidently forward into your day.

Create a space of mental calmness and compassion with these guided meditations by Caroline Stewart:

  1. Releasing Energetic Binds Caroline Stewart 17:19
  2. The Inner Smile: Loving-Kindness Practice Caroline Stewart 12:10
  3. Tuning Into Your Quantum Potential Caroline Stewart 17:00
  4. 5 Minute Reset Caroline Stewart 5:01
  5. Overcoming Overwhelm Caroline Stewart 17:17
  6. Activating The Divine Feminine Caroline Stewart 11:54

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