Hi,
And welcome to this Remember Why You Love Your Spouse or Partner meditation.
Being in a marriage or long-term relationship,
It's natural to have your ups and downs,
Right?
And at times,
It may be challenging.
My wife and I call them tight spots.
And when things get tight or challenging,
It's easy to get caught up in our judgment of our spouse or partner and lose sight of all the good stuff we know about them and experience with them,
Especially if there's been an extended period of time of tension within the relationship.
In this meditation,
I will take you through a process of remembering why you love your spouse or partner in the first place,
To help you let go of your ego and your judgments so you can reignite the love that you have and focus on what's important,
The longevity of your relationship.
So let's get started.
Make yourself comfortable,
Either seated or lying down,
And start by taking three deep,
Slow breaths,
In and out,
To transition into this meditation.
And as you breathe in,
Bring in a sense of relaxation and grounding.
And on the exhale,
Release any negativity that you may be carrying.
And after your third exhale,
Simply return to your natural way of breathing.
Notice breathing in and breathing out,
And finding where your breath is in your body.
And let your body know that it's okay and safe to let go of the tension you are holding in your body,
Letting go of the tension in your neck and shoulders,
Allowing your arms and hands to rest heavy as you take the load off your shoulders,
Softening your back,
Your hips,
Buttocks,
The backs of your legs,
Down to your heels and the bottoms of your feet.
Focus on your face to let go of any tension there,
Your forehead,
Your eyes,
Cheeks,
Jaw,
Lips,
Tongue,
Throat,
All letting go.
And bring in a sense of softness and lightness to your heart and chest,
And imagine that softness going down into your stomach,
Your lower belly,
As you soften your thighs,
Your knees,
Ankles,
The tops of your feet,
Toes,
And once again to the bottoms of your feet.
Now with your body more relaxed and your mind a little more quiet,
I invite you to put aside any negative thoughts or feelings you're having about your spouse or partner,
Just for now.
You can revisit them later at another time,
Just let them go as best as you can for now.
And what I'd like for you to focus on is remembering the early stages of your relationship.
Try to remember some of the details.
What attracted you to this person in the first place?
And I invite you to bring in all of your senses as you remember,
And we'll start with what What did being with your partner look like?
What did you see?
Maybe it was their face,
Or their body,
Their clothes,
Or an expression.
Or maybe you were in a certain environment,
Like being in nature,
Or a certain city or neighborhood,
Or a place you like to visit.
Think about what it looked like to be in love with your partner.
Next,
Try to remember any sounds that you heard,
Like the sound of their voice,
Laughter,
Or maybe a song you both connected around,
The sounds of your environment,
Your home,
A bustling city,
Or the sounds of nature.
What did being in love sound like?
Now see if you can remember what being with your partner tasted like.
The taste of their kisses,
Or their body.
Maybe there was the taste of your favorite meals together,
Whether at a restaurant or what you made at home.
What did that feeling of love you shared taste like?
Let's bring in the sense of smell.
What smells or aromas do you remember?
Maybe it was the scent of their hair or skin.
Getting a whiff of a particular perfume or cologne that they were wearing.
Maybe it was the smell of the environment,
Their home,
The city,
Or nature.
The smell of your favorite foods,
And so on.
What did the early stages of love smell like?
And finally,
Take a moment to remember how your body felt with your beloved in those early days.
Like what did it feel like physically to hold hands,
To hug each other,
Snuggle on the couch?
How did your body respond to their kisses or making love?
How did your body feel just to know that you loved this person?
What did the early stages of being in love feel like in your body?
Now that you've brought your senses into your memories,
I'd like for you to think about your spouse or partner now.
Take a moment to bring to mind at least three things that you appreciate about your spouse or partner now.
It doesn't matter what you appreciate about them.
It can be as simple as having them in your life,
Something they've done for you,
Or a quality that they have,
Anything at all that you appreciate about your spouse or partner.
Just take a moment as I pause for you to do so.
Expressing appreciation for the other person is a win-win.
It's good for the one doing the appreciation,
It helps to shift our mood and perspective,
And it's good for the other person because it feels good to be appreciated.
My wife and I commit to giving each other three appreciations before we go to sleep each night.
It's one of the ways that keeps our marriage strong.
Now with all this gratitude and appreciation,
I invite you to take a deep,
Slow breath in and out,
And return once again to your regular way of breathing.
Notice it going in and out.
And when you're ready,
Slowly let your eyes open up.
And once you do,
Check out what you see in the space you're in.
Moving your fingers,
Toes,
Stretching,
Whatever you need to bring yourself back to this moment.
You can use this meditation anytime you're feeling judgmental or disconnected from your spouse or partner to remember why you fell in love in the first place.
Thank you for listening to and practicing this meditation.
