Hi,
And welcome to this Connecting Couples Meditation.
In this busy world we live,
It's easy to forget to take time out to really connect with our beloved.
I can get caught up in the day-to-day hustle and bustle and lose track of what's really important to me,
My connection with my wife.
We can get so caught up in all of our distractions with work,
Kids,
Or family obligations,
Our to-do list,
Social media,
And so on.
How often do you take time to slow down and connect deeply with your spouse or partner?
Most of us don't very often.
This meditation gives you an opportunity to do just that.
I'll be taking you through a short process that you can use to connect with each other.
You can practice this in the morning before you begin your day,
In the evening at the end of your day,
Before you make love,
Or if you've had an argument and want to reconnect.
You can use this at any time when you feel the need for a quick connection.
So let's begin.
I invite you and your partner to find a comfortable place to sit facing each other,
Either in a chair or a meditative position,
Whatever works for you both.
With your eyes open,
I invite you to look into each other's eyes,
And this may feel a little awkward at first,
Just stay with it.
Keep looking at each other.
Now I invite you to take a moment to breathe,
Taking three deep,
Slow breaths in and out.
Still looking at each other,
Breathing in a sense of calm and relaxation,
And breathing out all that does not serve you right now.
And after your third exhale,
Return to your normal way of breathing,
Noticing when you breathe in and when you breathe out.
Still looking at each other,
And see if you can sync each other's breath together,
Breathing in and out at the same time,
And if not,
That's okay.
Just stay with your natural breath and continue to look into each other's eyes in a way that says I love you,
I care about you,
I respect you,
And I want you to feel safe.
Once you connect with your eyes,
I invite you to hold hands,
And then gently close your eyes.
And through your sense of touch,
By holding your hands,
Let your beloved feel your touch in a way that says I love you,
I care about you,
I respect you,
And I want you to feel safe.
Then sit with this feeling.
Notice all of the sensations in your body without any judgment.
Just notice what's happening in this moment as you continue to breathe.
I invite you now to remember early in your relationship,
And the feeling you had for your partner,
The moment you knew that you loved this person,
And experience that feeling of love once again.
Now sit with this feeling a little longer and savor it.
Now when you feel the time is right,
I invite you to slowly open your eyes,
Looking into each other's eyes once again,
And release your hands.
Now place one of your hands on your partner's heart,
So that you're touching each other's chest and heart,
And I'd like for you to say to each other as I say these words out loud,
Say them to your partner,
I love you,
I care about you,
I respect you,
And I want you to feel safe in our relationship.
I love you,
I care about you,
I respect you,
And I want you to feel safe in this relationship.
One more time,
I love you,
I care about you,
I respect you,
And I want you to feel safe in our relationship.
Now when you feel the time is right,
Slowly gently release your hands from your hearts.
Keeping eye contact,
I invite you to offer your partner one appreciation,
It can be anything at all,
Just one thing you appreciate and are grateful for about your partner,
And say it out loud,
I'll give you a moment to do so.
And with a deep sense of gratitude and connection,
Take another deep slow breath in and out.
I appreciate you both for taking the time to practice this meditation and to connect with each other.
And remember to practice this meditation anytime you feel the need to connect.
Thank you.
