Welcome to this Letting Go of Past Relationship Patterns meditation.
Before we begin this meditation,
I want to share with you that for much of my life,
I found myself repeating the same relationship patterns.
Different faces,
Same feelings.
I carried the fears of rejection,
Of not being enough,
Of being abandoned.
It took time,
Reflection,
And a lot of inner work to understand that these patterns weren't punishments,
They were invitations.
Invitations to heal and grow.
If you've ever felt like you keep attracting the same kind of relationship,
Or sabotaging the ones that matter most,
You're not alone.
Every one of us carries emotional imprints from the past.
Childhood wounds,
Heartbreaks,
Betrayals,
And fears that shape how we show up in love today.
This meditation is about recognizing those old patterns with compassion,
Releasing what no longer serves you,
And opening your heart to new ways of relating,
With honesty,
Courage,
And peace.
I invite you now to settle in,
And let's begin this journey together.
A journey of letting go,
A journey of healing,
And a journey of preparing your heart for the love that's waiting for you.
So we'll start by taking a few deep,
Slow breaths.
Breathing in deeply through your nose,
And slowly exhaling through your mouth.
Again,
As you breathe in,
Breathing in a sense of calm and awareness,
And on the exhale,
Releasing any tension that you're holding,
Letting go of what's weighing on your mind.
One more time,
Deep breath in through your nose,
And slowly exhale through your mouth.
Now just allow your breath to return to its natural rhythm,
Your in-breath,
Out-breath flowing effortlessly,
Like gentle waves on a shore.
Start to notice where your breath lives in your body,
Where it shows up in your body,
Your chest,
Your belly,
Your back.
Let each exhale bring you a little deeper into this present moment,
And into peace.
Now,
Bring your awareness to your neck and shoulders,
Noticing any tightness or holding on,
And with each exhale,
Allow your shoulders to soften,
Allow your arms and hands to rest heavy,
Sinking down into whatever is supporting you beneath you.
Letting go of any tension,
As you soften your back,
Letting it melt downward,
Bringing that softness through your hips,
Your buttocks,
Backs of your legs,
All the way down to your heels and the soles of your feet.
And now bring your awareness to your face,
Letting go of any frowns or tightness in your forehead,
Allow your eyes to rest softly in their sockets,
Softening your eyelids,
Softening your cheeks,
Unclench your jaw,
Relaxing your lips,
Your tongue,
Your throat,
And bringing your awareness down to your chest,
Releasing any tension that may be guarding your heart.
And allow a sense of warmth and softness and kindness to flow into your heart,
And let that softness spread down to your stomach,
Your lower belly,
Your pelvis,
Softening your thighs,
Your knees,
Your shins,
Down to your ankles,
Tops of your feet,
And finally your toes.
And from the crown of your head to the bottoms of your feet,
Allow your entire body to relax,
Feeling yourself grounded and at ease,
Taking another deep,
Slow breath in and out.
Now,
In this more relaxing and peaceful state,
I invite you to gently bring your mind to your past relationships,
Not to judge them,
Not to analyze them,
But to simply witness.
See yourself as the loving watcher of your own story.
Notice any patterns that you may have repeated,
The moments when you pulled away or you held on too tightly,
Times when fear,
Anger,
Or insecurity may have led you to protect yourself instead of connecting.
Notice without blame,
Without shame or judgment,
Only awareness.
Be really open and honest with yourself as you think about these patterns.
Perhaps there were unmet needs,
Old wounds,
Or unspoken fears.
Whatever comes up,
Just allow them to rise to the surface now,
Knowing that what is seen can finally be healed,
And what you feel is how you heal.
I invite you to whisper silently to yourself,
I see the patterns that once kept me safe,
And I thank them for trying to protect me.
Now,
Imagine holding these patterns in your hands,
The fear of abandonment,
The need for control,
The avoidance of being vulnerable,
Or whatever feels true for you.
Allow yourself to feel their weight,
The emotional energy they've carried.
And taking a deep breath in,
And with a slow exhale,
Imagine releasing these old patterns,
Allowing them to dissolve into thin air,
Being carried away by your breath.
You might see them transform into birds flying free,
Or leaves floating down a stream.
As you let these old patterns go,
I invite you to say to yourself,
I no longer need to repeat these patterns.
I release them with love.
I no longer need to repeat these patterns.
I release them with love.
I no longer need to repeat these patterns.
I release them with love.
Notice the feeling of lightness that follows as you let go,
The space that opens within you.
That space is freedom.
That space is possibility.
I invite you now to bring one or both of your hands to your heart,
And saying to yourself,
I forgive myself for what I didn't know then.
I am learning.
I am growing.
I am healing.
I forgive myself for what I didn't know then.
I am learning.
I am growing.
I am healing.
I forgive myself for what I didn't know then.
I am learning.
I am growing.
I am healing.
Now,
Breathe into that truth.
Let forgiveness soften the edges of your heart.
Let compassion replace your inner critic and that you're not alone in repeating these relationship patterns.
And give yourself permission to let peace replace the pain.
Now,
Imagine yourself in front of an open doorway.
This doorway is to your next relationship.
Your next chapter.
And before you step through this door,
Ask yourself,
What new patterns do I choose to bring forward?
Perhaps it's being more open,
Being more honest and patient,
Setting healthy boundaries,
Or creating emotional safety and mutual respect.
Choose whatever feels right for your next version of relationship.
See yourself embodying these qualities,
Showing up with calm,
Confidence,
And clarity.
And recognize that there is a part of you who knows how to love without losing yourself.
Who knows how to stay open without fear.
Who knows how to honor both your needs and your partner's needs with compassion and empathy.
Open up and feel this truth anchor in your body,
In your breath,
In your heart,
And in your soul.
I invite you now to take a few more deep,
Slow breaths.
Inhaling a sense of possibility and exhaling the past,
Those past relationship patterns.
And allow each breath to wash away what no longer serves you and strengthens what does.
Returning now to your natural breath,
I invite you to understand the truth,
That you are not defined by your past patterns.
You are transformed by your awareness of them.
And with this awareness of your past patterns,
Letting go takes practice.
They will creep up again and again and again.
Allow yourself to let go and understand that you are free to love again from a place of wholeness,
Wisdom,
And peace.
When you feel it's right,
Slowly bring your awareness back.
Allow your eyes to open up and bring your awareness back to your surroundings,
Taking notice of what you see in the room that you're in,
Feeling your body,
Wiggling your fingers and toes,
Rolling your shoulders gently,
Stretching,
Whatever you need to do.
And as you continue through this day,
Bring with you this sense of calm,
Grounded awareness.
And the knowing that your next relationship begins with the love and compassion you nurture within yourself.
I thank you for listening to this meditation.
Remember,
Keep your heart open and stay on the path to love.
Namaste.
